should not we jat learn little bit diplomacy

[ritu]

I know straightforwardness is in our genes but I have seen sometimes it can hurt for example
1. ek be jab mere shaadi ki baat chal rahi thi to ek chora america te mane dekhan aya mere ma baat karte karte bich me boli bhai America ala ka bera na kaho kuch pava kuch ,humne te suna he kai te uda jhadoo pocha karte paon se.we al felt very bad . bechara tawali ram ram karke chale gaye
2. ek bar hum me er mera husband marriage certificate banvan mera susre ke sath court gaye.wakil ne waha mera susre te chai offer ki mera susra bola -na bhai hum na pivi thari sadi si chai thare sade se cupa me.At that time I wished If i could disappear.thank god wo wakil bhi jat tha bola ji na pivo hum ta ya sadi si chai pive ge in sada se cupa me.

[mukeshkumar007]

bilkul nahi....

[ranveer]

The problem raised by ritu is very common in our community & i think disaapearing slowly also. Our Old Dada/Dadi are very habitual of speeking frankly( or i should say directly from heart). So we should understand their sprit & try to avoid such remarks in front of them. Ofcourse they have learned these misconception from us/new generation.( how they will come to know by themself without our expalanations about people staying abrod).

Regds
Ranveer

[rockingguy]

no not at all...this is our orignality the humour in our words..every new generation think this way....even our parents might have thought the same way...because this world is runnin with a faster pace..
model mein agarl modification nahin laayi jaaye to 2 months baad obsolete ho jaata hai..lekin ek time baad modification nahin ho sakti....dats wat is full and final.....and the ppl who is talkin to our elder generation also knows that their elder generation sometime do the same....so they don't take it bad because every person go with this situation..and everybody understand...

[suneet_rana]

Yes this also used to be heappen in my schhol days and still happening in my office.

Eb baar ke baat hai jab mai Jab Mai B.Sc. Ist year me tha. Hamri Physics ki class hone wali thi. Our Physics ke teacher ki ek baat ko teen teen baar bolne ki aadat thi..... to sab uska bad majak kare the.

To jab wo class me aaye to class me bahut hall ho raha tha but he ignored it and attandence lena shuru kar diya..... lekin kuch der baad bhi haallla kam nahu hua to unhe gussa aa gaya or sabko daatne lage " What is this nonsense. Are u all mad? Are u all mad? Pagal kise kahte hai bolo kise kahte hai?"

tabhi mai chup chap uth ke bola " sir ji jo ek baat ko teen teen bar bolle wo ho pagal"

sir ne pher ek baar puchha to mane wahi jawab de diya.......

phir kya tha unka chehra dekhne layak tha or puri class me kilkii machgiiii....:)

[sukesh]

We the people are known for straight forward things. It is a heridatry factor. It is difficult to change and it is good too. I like the people who are saying things in straight forwards ways.one things is changes in new jat generation is that by saying things staright forward we take care it should not hurt someone.

[rakeshsehrawat]

Waise mein apni bata deta hoon i m a straightforward person aur mujhe lagta tha ki mein galat hoon gaon jata tha aur logo ko ek doosre ki tang kheechte dekhta tha ajeeb sa lagta tha. jaise pata nahi kitne purane dushman hian lekin ab gaon mein bhi woh baat nahi hai aaj log waise radio ke samachar sun-ne ke liye ikathe nahi hote dopahar ko baithako mein aaj tash nahi khele jaate aaj gaon ki saari aurtein ikathi hokar kuon par nahi jaati, woh hukka aaj bajta hua nahi sunta, aaj bachhe ekathhe hokar shor machate hue nazar nahi aate har roj ghar ki chat par mor nahi aate, sham ko gaon ke naujawan kabaddi nahi khelte aaj ye straightforwardness waise bhi nahi bachi hai log ek doosre ko katne ko aate hain logon ka sabse najdeeki dost TV hai .pata nahi sayad aap jise straightforwardness kehte hain mein aur jise aaj log bardast nahi karte woh ek aisa dhaga tha jisne logon ko baandh ke rakha hua tha log ek doosre ko kehte the ek doosre ki sunte the bardast karte the akele baithte to haste bhi the usi baat ko doosron ko bata kar ki yaar aaj to usne nyu kehya fer mein bhi kum nahi manne nyu kahya aur yahi baatein saari sham hukke ke saath chalti rehti thi. lekin aaj woh nahi hai jo kuch bachi hai woh bhi isi straightforwardness ke karan bachi hai KYONKI AAJ BHI KUCH LOG ISE PASAND KARTE HAIN aur jo ise samajhte hain woh iska bura bhi nahi mante agar ye khatam ho gayee to jaat punjabi ho jayenge

[ritu]

jaat punjabi ho jayenge
YEAH BAAT TO RAKESH TUNE SO SUNAR KI EK LUHAR KI KAH DI.
And in a way u summarized the whole thing.I got my answer.

[deepakchoudhry]

I know straightforwardness is in our genes but I have seen sometimes it can hurt for example

Why not ?? Being diplomat is a good thing.

We can say what we want to say without being rude or hurting others feelings...what is wrong with that.

Being diplomat does not mean one is a liar or a hypocrite, it means to have emotional intelligence.

Once again the word diplomat (in india society) is used in a very negative way....Diplomat does not mean devious.

http://dictionary.reference.com/search?r=2&q=diplomat

[devdahiya]

Be good and you need not to be smart/diplomatic.....be you a Jat or Non Jat.....it does not matter. I swear!

[deepakchoudhry]

Yes this also used to be heappen in my schhol days and still happening in my office.

Eb baar ke baat hai jab mai Jab Mai B.Sc. Ist year me tha. Hamri Physics ki class hone wali thi. Our Physics ke teacher ki ek baat ko teen teen baar bolne ki aadat thi..... to sab uska bad majak kare the.

To jab wo class me aaye to class me bahut hall ho raha tha but he ignored it and attandence lena shuru kar diya..... lekin kuch der baad bhi haallla kam nahu hua to unhe gussa aa gaya or sabko daatne lage " What is this nonsense. Are u all mad? Are u all mad? Pagal kise kahte hai bolo kise kahte hai?"

tabhi mai chup chap uth ke bola " sir ji jo ek baat ko teen teen bar bolle wo ho pagal"

sir ne pher ek baar puchha to mane wahi jawab de diya.......

phir kya tha unka chehra dekhne layak tha or puri class me kilkii machgiiii....:)


You were quite a Diplomat..wren't you...ha ha ha:D

[ritu]

yes,deepak I think that is the most intelligent explaination.



quote by deepak
We can say what we want to say without being rude or hurting others feelings...what is wrong with that.

Being diplomat does not mean one is a liar or a hypocrite, it means to have emotional intelligence.

[cooljat]

Rituji ye baat se SAUH LUHAR JI AUR EK JAT KI :D :D ;) :cool:
heheh...I hate diplomacy n never will support it!

Rock on
Jit

jaat punjabi ho jayenge
YEAH BAAT TO RAKESH TUNE SO SUNAR KI EK LUHAR KI KAH DI.
And in a way u summarized the whole thing.I got my answer.