MKadwa
December 21st, 2006, 10:49 AM
For many celebrities 2006 is not ending too well.They are
ending up in jail or worse.
What is interesting is the reaction of people to such exposures and judgement.
Except for the few, who are caught along with the culprits, others are happy. They are not happy because of justice is being done, even if delayed. They are happy because someone else is in trouble. It is as if we believe in cosmic law that fixes finite amount of trouble in this world, like fixing a finite space in HELL.
If someone else is in trouble, if a sufficiently large number of people are in truoble, then chances are, the probability is, that I won't be in trouble.
This is the logic that works here. Why are we happy when someone is in trouble, why are we troubled when someone is happy and successful. The simple ANSWER may be JEALOUSY, ENVY the greaan eyed monster which dictates that if you wish to be taller than someone else, the simplest way is to cut out the other person's leg.
There is more profound reason. From childhood we are broughtup to believe in our deficiencies, more than strengths. Those socities which pride themselves on buliding self esteem are the ones which have the largest number of depression cases.
Beacuse we have no opinion ourselves, we depends on other people's opinion to feel happy. As an alternative, we feel happy when someone else's status is threatened, since is comparision our is relatively better.
How we can come out of this rut? It is natural law that "Happiness grows when it is shared and sorrow decreases when it is shared". Women have greater propensity to benefit from this simple rule than men. Men are ruled by their egoes, women are ruled by lesser extent.
Build up your self esteem learn to love yourself. There is nothing selfishness about this unless you olve your self, you can't love those dear to you. Unless you truely love your spouse, children and parents, you can't love this world you live in
ending up in jail or worse.
What is interesting is the reaction of people to such exposures and judgement.
Except for the few, who are caught along with the culprits, others are happy. They are not happy because of justice is being done, even if delayed. They are happy because someone else is in trouble. It is as if we believe in cosmic law that fixes finite amount of trouble in this world, like fixing a finite space in HELL.
If someone else is in trouble, if a sufficiently large number of people are in truoble, then chances are, the probability is, that I won't be in trouble.
This is the logic that works here. Why are we happy when someone is in trouble, why are we troubled when someone is happy and successful. The simple ANSWER may be JEALOUSY, ENVY the greaan eyed monster which dictates that if you wish to be taller than someone else, the simplest way is to cut out the other person's leg.
There is more profound reason. From childhood we are broughtup to believe in our deficiencies, more than strengths. Those socities which pride themselves on buliding self esteem are the ones which have the largest number of depression cases.
Beacuse we have no opinion ourselves, we depends on other people's opinion to feel happy. As an alternative, we feel happy when someone else's status is threatened, since is comparision our is relatively better.
How we can come out of this rut? It is natural law that "Happiness grows when it is shared and sorrow decreases when it is shared". Women have greater propensity to benefit from this simple rule than men. Men are ruled by their egoes, women are ruled by lesser extent.
Build up your self esteem learn to love yourself. There is nothing selfishness about this unless you olve your self, you can't love those dear to you. Unless you truely love your spouse, children and parents, you can't love this world you live in