rajeshrathee
February 9th, 2007, 08:20 PM
Fact:
You don’t realise the danger anger presents to your personal health and wellbeing. By maintaining this belief, you conveniently avoid changing a deep-seated habit.
To be assertive, I have to use anger as a weapon.
Fact: Don’t justify anger </SPAN>
There are some false notions about anger which we use to justify our anger. Here’s a check-list
I do not get angry. The actions of others make me so.
Fact:
At all times, you and only you are the creator of your thoughts and feelings, and are solely responsible for them.
I have no choice but to get angry.
Fact:
You do not know how to understand, manage and choose your feelings, especially when something happens that you do not like.
I need to use anger to motivate others.
Fact:
Trust and respect — the foundation stones of any relationship, especially at the workplace, are never built by anger. In the long term, angry outbursts sabotage any leadership qualities you may have. Anger kills your motivation and that of others.
Anger is a natural response.
Anger is the opposite of assertiveness. When you snarl, you are first killing yourself, and those on the receiving end are only going to give back as good as they get or run away.
Anger gives me a surge of positive energy.
Fact:
Anger temporarily heightens your attention and alertness. But it results in mental and emotional exhaustion and over time will end in burnout. However, it is the kick in adrenaline that you have become addicted to, which also makes you believe that a bit of anger is good.
Tips for transformation
To make lasting peace with others, we need to be angerfree, which can be achieved through meditation. Meditation increases your self-awareness. It makes you realise the beliefs you possess and that possess you; it also enables you to see and make your choices more clearly.
Every time you are angry, visualise a white sail on a calm sea and a gentle, cool, breeze blowing against your face.
reference :- Times of India,dated 9th Feb 2007, Delhi edition
You don’t realise the danger anger presents to your personal health and wellbeing. By maintaining this belief, you conveniently avoid changing a deep-seated habit.
To be assertive, I have to use anger as a weapon.
Fact: Don’t justify anger </SPAN>
There are some false notions about anger which we use to justify our anger. Here’s a check-list
I do not get angry. The actions of others make me so.
Fact:
At all times, you and only you are the creator of your thoughts and feelings, and are solely responsible for them.
I have no choice but to get angry.
Fact:
You do not know how to understand, manage and choose your feelings, especially when something happens that you do not like.
I need to use anger to motivate others.
Fact:
Trust and respect — the foundation stones of any relationship, especially at the workplace, are never built by anger. In the long term, angry outbursts sabotage any leadership qualities you may have. Anger kills your motivation and that of others.
Anger is a natural response.
Anger is the opposite of assertiveness. When you snarl, you are first killing yourself, and those on the receiving end are only going to give back as good as they get or run away.
Anger gives me a surge of positive energy.
Fact:
Anger temporarily heightens your attention and alertness. But it results in mental and emotional exhaustion and over time will end in burnout. However, it is the kick in adrenaline that you have become addicted to, which also makes you believe that a bit of anger is good.
Tips for transformation
To make lasting peace with others, we need to be angerfree, which can be achieved through meditation. Meditation increases your self-awareness. It makes you realise the beliefs you possess and that possess you; it also enables you to see and make your choices more clearly.
Every time you are angry, visualise a white sail on a calm sea and a gentle, cool, breeze blowing against your face.
reference :- Times of India,dated 9th Feb 2007, Delhi edition