Symptom or Cure for Lonliness

[bls31]

In this multistory residential complex that I live-in ,there is a
large population of working boys and girls Most of them when out on on road walking /strolling are glued to cell phones, Each one with one,even when moving in groups. Is this a symptom or a cure for loneliness ?
BLS

[rakeshdahiya]

Dear Brig Sir,

Somehow cell phones have become an integral part of our lives, so integral that now ppl are even hired and fired via SMS's. Funny.

Excess of everything is bad. But somehow I feel that cellphones has more do do with our over reliance with technology then loneliness.

[bls31]

Dear Brig Sir,

Somehow cell phones have become an integral part of our lives, so integral that now ppl are even hired and fired via SMS's. Funny.

Excess of everything is bad. But somehow I feel that cellphones has more do do with our over reliance with technology then loneliness.

The portal will become more popular if we have comments and exchanges on the posts and threads, what I have noticed is that there are many viewers but only a few comments are made , which is discouraging. Thanks for the prompt comment regards BLs

[ritu]

uncle ji,aap ki shikayat jayaz hai par is sabke pichhe bhi to koi karan hoga hi.
coming to the point u raised...aajkal jo log cell phones par baate karate rahtae hai apne aaas paas se bilkul katkar.oska karan akelepan se jyadea addiction hai .logo ko chai cofee aur tv ki trah aajkal cell phone ki addiction ho gayi hai.
aisa me sochti hu.
regards
ritu
The portal will become more popular if we have comments and exchanges on the posts and threads, what I have noticed is that there are many viewers but only a few comments are made , which is discouraging. Thanks for the prompt comment regards BLs

[bls31]

uncle ji,aap ki shikayat jayaz hai par is sabke pichhe bhi to koi karan hoga hi.
coming to the point u raised...aajkal jo log cell phones par baate karate rahtae hai apne aaas paas se bilkul katkar.oska karan akelepan se jyadea addiction hai .logo ko chai cofee aur tv ki trah aajkal cell phone ki addiction ho gayi hai.
aisa me sochti hu.
regards
ritu

I do appreciate your views. Good wishes From a Tomar to a Tomar and to all on the forum . keep it up .BLS

[sumeetmalik]

In this multistory residential complex that I live-in ,there is a
large population of working boys and girls Most of them when out on on road walking /strolling are glued to cell phones, Each one with one,even when moving in groups. Is this a symptom or a cure for loneliness ?
BLS

You and I have had a discussion on loneliness before as well. And I think I know your stand on it.

Surely we may have been sent on the earth to make pairs. Be it man-woman, man-man or woman-woman. I dont want to question that.

But my stand on Loneliness remains the same. We are talking about another person here. Made of cells and blood and stuff. A mere personality. Some click more than others. Maybe because they are alike or maybe because they are contrasting. I dont want to question that as well. Too many people have already done that and has resulted in great literature.

However, we are talking about A MERE PERSONALITY. An external factor. And for loneliness that is an inherent factor, it has to be something more internal. Sure when you are young the hormones are active. But for a seventy year old (and I may be crssing the line here) can feel lonely/alone. Perfectly normal.

Sir, I came alone and I go alone. Surely I would like to go in the arms of my lover. Or better still I would like the lover to leave me in my arms. But another person cannot completely understand me. Only I can comprehend myself completely. And make peace with it.

Although, its always good to have company. Makes the time fly by.

[amitchhikara]

I think it is up to the individual as to how they use the cell phone. I tend to use it a lot but if i am in a group or doing some task then i only pickup if absolutely necessary. The problem I noticed in India is that no one ever wants to leave you a voicemail so that you can get back to them. Everyone expects you to pickup the phone no matter what!

[bls31]

You and I have had a discussion on loneliness before as well. And I think I know your stand on it.

Surely we may have been sent on the earth to make pairs. Be it man-woman, man-man or woman-woman. I dont want to question that.

But my stand on Loneliness remains the same. We are talking about another person here. Made of cells and blood and stuff. A mere personality. Some click more than others. Maybe because they are alike or maybe because they are contrasting. I dont want to question that as well. Too many people have already done that and has resulted in great literature.

However, we are talking about A MERE PERSONALITY. An external factor. And for loneliness that is an inherent factor, it has to be something more internal. Sure when you are young the hormones are active. But for a seventy year old (and I may be crssing the line here) can feel lonely/alone. Perfectly normal.

Sir, I came alone and I go alone. Surely I would like to go in the arms of my lover. Or better still I would like the lover to leave me in my arms. But another person cannot completely understand me. Only I can comprehend myself completely. And make peace with it.

Although, its always good to have company. Makes the time fly by.


yes we did and it is 77 not 70.

I am not speaking about my loneliness I have found a cure for that , I am alone but not lonely.

I am looking at 'The cell Phone' an instrument of cure for the loneliness,so prevalent in METROS or wondering if it is a symptom of the same BLS.

[sumeetmalik]

yes we did and it is 77 not 70.

I am not speaking about my loneliness I have found a cure for that , I am alone but not lonely.

I am looking at 'The cell Phone' an instrument of cure for the loneliness,so prevalent in METROS or wondering if it is a symptom of the same BLS.

Three points I want to make

You dont look 77 years old. I sincerely thought you had just retired from the army. I wrote seventy to exagerate. I had watched 'Chini Kum' before writing my earlier post, and Amitabh was playing 64 years old in that but with a mind and heart of a 25 years old. Years do turn a man into a complete man. I hope you and me are still debating on such topics passionately, like this, for the decades to come.

For me loneliness and being alone is the same. I know you are a writer so you attach a lot of importance to the meaning of these two words. For me the difference is somewhat nebulous and overlapping.

For Cellphone as a symptom or cure for loneliness, I still say the same. It is neither. Its just a tool. It wasn't there earlier. Now people use it stay connected and do their business. In the lunch hour of our office, all my collegues go out and talk to their girlfriends/boyfriends/fiances/spouses. One can spot close to fifty people in the porch of the corporate park talking to their loved ones with concern in their voices and looking for corners to whisper sweet-nothings. Its a beautiful picture.
And its not just in the metros. I happened to do something for Airtel in Punjab and the farmers called their wives from the farm during lunch hour(within one year of Airtel lauching in Punjab, it became their largest market). Its gotten so cheap that everyone has it. And its a useful tool. You can own it but it is of no use if you dont have anyone to call. Unless of course you wanna call the customer care executive to kill the time.