Weight of beauty ..... !!

[shwetadhaka]

Freinds, I m starting with a question........... does inner beauty takes a back seat when physical beauty spreads its charisma........... ?

Well, in our lives we do come across many a type of persons, but some catch our eyes instantly:) ....... to put up in other words....... we get impressed by some persons inadvertantly owing to the charm of their personality........ and also at times by the confidence they carry on their face....... and also at times after just listening to the melody of their thoughts!! Depends............. but the question I wanna ask is, does inner beauty comes after physical beauty.............PRACTICALLY SPEAKING !! ........... coz I have also seen many a people running whole life after physical beauty !! For them........ inner beauty might also be appreciable but they just cant resist!! So freinds.......... do enlighten me with ur beautiful words:p U may also rate the inner and physical beauty on a scale of 10 !!

:):confused::)

[ranvirsingh]

Well Shweta, it depends on time and mood what you prefer. As per my openion goes, physical beauty attracts me first.

[shwetadhaka]

Well Shweta, it depends on time and mood what you prefer. As per my openion goes, physical beauty attracts me first.

Oh........ ok....... Time & mood!! Well ........ opinions that change as per time & mood dont carry much weight!!

[rakeshdahiya]

My 2 cents

You need to know a person first, directly or indirectly, to understand and appreciate his/her inner beauty.

Therefore ppl. with outer beauty does have an advantage.

[shwetadhaka]

My 2 cents

You need to know a person first, directly or indirectly, to understand and appreciate his/her inner beauty.

Therefore ppl. with outer beauty does have an advantage.

& what if u know a person Sir ?......... I am asking about that too!

[rakeshdahiya]

If you know a person then outer beauty takes a back seat. Internal beauty is eternal.


& what if u know a person Sir ?......... I am asking about that too!

[dreamer]

Freinds, I m starting with a question........... does inner beauty takes a back seat when physical beauty spreads its charisma........... ?

Well, in our lives we do come across many a type of persons, but some catch our eyes instantly:) ....... to put up in other words....... we get impressed by some persons inadvertantly owing to the charm of their personality........ and also at times by the confidence they carry on their face....... and also at times after just listening to the melody of their thoughts!! Depends............. but the question I wanna ask is, does inner beauty comes after physical beauty.............PRACTICALLY SPEAKING !! ........... coz I have also seen many a people running whole life after physical beauty !! For them........ inner beauty might also be appreciable but they just cant resist!! So freinds.......... do enlighten me with ur beautiful words:p U may also rate the inner and physical beauty on a scale of 10 !!

:):confused::)


Well ... honestly ... i cant resist physical beauty and i bet ..you people also cannot .... but in the end .. inner beauty always wins ... physical beauty without inner beauty stinks:eek: after sometime .... and inner beauty with out physical beauty spreads fragrance:cool: (and which matters most) .... And .. Well if both are present then .... balle balle :D...

[mamtadg]

Firstly must say shweta you choose a beautiful question .
Then moving on to you point yes physical beauty does count but when it comes to serious work and all it will be sheer hard word that is going to matter . As physical beauty is temporary it can be a medium of instant captivation but it is not of great help in long run.

[shwetadhaka]

Firstly must say shweta you choose a beautiful question .
Then moving on to you point yes physical beauty does count but when it comes to serious work and all it will be sheer hard word that is going to matter . As physical beauty is temporary it can be a medium of instant captivation but it is not of great help in long run.


Oh Thanx Mamta........ well ya it might be that physical beauty catches eyes & may not count when it comes to serious work....... but still at times I do have noticed people running after that blindly........ i mean they just cant resist! ........and tend to overlook atleast some negative aspects too......... as they get a sort of fascinated..............dont know why but it happens many a times :confused::confused:

[ranvirsingh]

Not for you, but for me, it does! and well both have their own advantage and draw backs. So i think its better to start with something beautiful; is not it!!!

[shwetadhaka]

Not for you, but for me, it does! I love roses, not thorns, and then I try to find out which smells better.

Oh........ I didnt knew thorns too r smelled!! Anyways....... everyone loves roses & not thorns......... coz thorns may give pain....... but inner beauty is not a thorn!! & neither physical beauty can be compared to a rose!! However u have compared........ so i wld like to say one thing.......... see physical beauty appeals to all & its quite natural !! but inner beauty........ is not so instantly noticeable but is a very very important thing!! ........ I dont know what to call a terrific looking mom who pays a damn to how her children r needing her beyond wat she can contribute from her looks!!!!! ........... or a wife whose visit to a parlour or may be on a hunt in a new cosmetic store is far more important than her husband's headache may be!! .......... so in that case will u like to appreciate her gorgeous looks......... will u love the smell of the situation ??

[ritu]

ali haider ka gaana hai ....gorre rang ka jamana kabhi hoga na purana tera to rang gora hai.
mere ek cousin brother ke liye ladkia dhund rahe the aur vo darzno ladkia sirf shakal surat ke karan reject kar chuka tha.oski jid thi ki vo kisi bala ki khubsurat ladki se hi shadi karega.mane ose university bhi bulaya aur itni ladkio se milaya ose ek bhi ladki nahi jachhi.tab ek din mane gusse me osse poocha ki jyada shakal ke picche pada hai koi bure nature ki palle pad gayi to.osne juwab diya ki kya guarantee hai ki jo khubsurat nahi hogi vo nature ki acchi hogi .khoobsrat hoke burre nature ki hui to kam se kam ek tasalli to hogi ki khoobsurat to hai.
finally osko oske pasand ki ladki mil hi gayi aur vo bala ki khubsurat bhi hai aur nature bhi bahut accha hai.

[pragati]

As i think and experienced in my life....physical beauty always attract every person strongly. But, after knowing somone, inner beauty matters much more and physical beauty becomes secondary. I am personally feel this in my life as unknown person wants to talk to me just because of beauty, but who knows me well, say that you have a good nature...and after that they add abt beauty. So, i think beauty attracts the eyes, but a good heart always appeals.

[samranwa]

eeee inner beauty is more easily seen in a beautiful person, since we'll say 'wow, he/she is so pretty and beautiful". But, the unattractive persons inner beauty will not be seen as this divine combination, but something that compensates for the bad looks, or they will be seen as just a nice person. Who has more value in the courtroom the beauty with a beautiful spirit of the ugly guy with a kind heart? Who will you remember more? Who will you envy or want to marry? All societies revere outer beauty, there is no denying the difference between keeping a fern on your table or a bouquet of flowers. Although they both represent the sublime presence of nature. So there you have it folks the goddess wins again, but there is no substitute for humility. Therefore Id prefer the soul who is not taken by their own beauty, be they a beauty or not. The most divine thing is a whole and honest human being. Everyone has their faults and good reasons for not being so good.......

Regards,

Sam.

[shwetadhaka]

ali haider ka gaana hai ....gorre rang ka jamana kabhi hoga na purana tera to rang gora hai.
mere ek cousin brother ke liye ladkia dhund rahe the aur vo darzno ladkia sirf shakal surat ke karan reject kar chuka tha.oski jid thi ki vo kisi bala ki khubsurat ladki se hi shadi karega.mane ose university bhi bulaya aur itni ladkio se milaya ose ek bhi ladki nahi jachhi.tab ek din mane gusse me osse poocha ki jyada shakal ke picche pada hai koi bure nature ki palle pad gayi to.osne juwab diya ki kya guarantee hai ki jo khubsurat nahi hogi vo nature ki acchi hogi .khoobsrat hoke burre nature ki hui to kam se kam ek tasalli to hogi ki khoobsurat to hai.
finally osko oske pasand ki ladki mil hi gayi aur vo bala ki khubsurat bhi hai aur nature bhi bahut accha hai.

Well Ritu ji ......... sach to yehi hai ki kuch log khoobsoorti ke saath compromise nahi karna chahte shaadi ke case me aur mil bi jaati hai unko aisi ladkiya ya ladke jo bi ho aur wo ache bi ho sakte hai nature ke ................ par wo darzno "Rejected" ladkiya jab "na" sunti hai........ to shayad unka dil (jo ki khoobsurat ya badsoorat ke bhed ko nahi maanta.......) kehta hai ki tum kaisi bi sahi nature wagerah me......... par bhagwan ne tumko jaisa shakal soorat me banaya hai, usme tumhara haath na sahi, par ye "na" ka dansh tumko sehna hoga .............. tumhari soorat nahi pasand aayi hai .......... u r rejected:mad: ...............

[shwetadhaka]

eeee inner beauty is more easily seen in a beautiful person, since we'll say 'wow, he/she is so pretty and beautiful". But, the unattractive persons inner beauty will not be seen as this divine combination, but something that compensates for the bad looks, or they will be seen as just a nice person. Who has more value in the courtroom the beauty with a beautiful spirit of the ugly guy with a kind heart? Who will you remember more? Who will you envy or want to marry? All societies revere outer beauty, there is no denying the difference between keeping a fern on your table or a bouquet of flowers. Although they both represent the sublime presence of nature. So there you have it folks the goddess wins again, but there is no substitute for humility. Therefore Id prefer the soul who is not taken by their own beauty, be they a beauty or not. The most divine thing is a whole and honest human being. Everyone has their faults and good reasons for not being so good.......

Regards,

Sam.


Rightly said Samiksha............ physical beauty always comes first coz its the nature's decision I suppose......... whenever we meet or see someone, we cant form an opinion on his or her inner self......... but the looks of course are always standing at the first seat ! ........... but thing is that the heart of all persons is full of similar feelings............ an ugly person too longs for love........appreciation............ concern etc.......... just as any other human being feels!! & moreover he is not at any fault too........... he cant help out the looks he has got ......... not being attractive is no fault though........... but still the burden of an inherent longing to be loved or cared the same way as any other good looking person is being loved .......... is ever present & many a time it hurts when this longing or desire is crumpled by the feet of harsh reality, which is always inclined towards beauty .............. this is life............. may be!!

[samranwa]

I suppose every person with a good taste is appealed by beauty... be it the sublime beauty of a sun-set, the abstract images of art, the cold austere beauty of mathematics, the breath-taking brilliance of a starry sky, the acoustic appeal of a symphony, and perhaps the most well-appreciated, the charming face of a beautiful human.

The debate remains... is beauty essentially subjective or objective? Perhaps if it is objective, like the rules of mathematics, and can only be recognized through dedication and focus. To a certain extent, appreciating beauty requires the building of taste. But standards of beauty are also universal, ignoring minor deviations. Most of the people are attracted by symmetrical forms and faces... symmetry was essential to Greek aesthetics, and was of such importance that they refused to consider the celestial orbits of any shape other than the circle, because it is the most symmetrical geometrical figure.

I became aware of the connection of biological evolution and aesthetics after reading Will Durant. Surely, it appears a simple hypothesis that aesthetic appreciation developed in us due to its importance and vitality in bringing the male and female together, and hence ensuring the continuation of the species. Many animals especially birds show aesthetic standards, and certain species are well known for the artistic decoration of their nests. Perhaps our appreciation of music began in the 'love-calls', the sounds made by birds and animals to call their mates. And every mature poet is aware of the relationship between Nature and Love, something which has been the subject of much poems. And Russell also mentions in his autobiography the connection between Love and Nature in his experience. Perhaps it was initally the sexual instinct that led to aesthetic development, and which ultimately flooded other areas of our sensation, and led to the appreciation of things as remote from sexuality as Architecture.

Appreciation of beauty is meant to be objective, in the sense that it is not governed by any sort of motive of personal gain. I see Rafael's The School of Athens, and its beauty strikes me and fills my existence. I gain nothing material by it... but a psychological influence which can only be understood by those who have experienced it. A clear view of the sky is enough to cheer up my mood and comtemplate over its scintillating beauty. Beauty in gender, i believe, too will be better appreciated if it is divorced from any other desire, such as that of possession. A beautiful face is a masterpiece of nature in itself. The aesthetic appreciation should not be vilified by the motive of possession.

And even the gloomy, surreal Franz Kafka says: "Anybody who preserves the ability to recognize beauty will never get old." And how true he says. If you are able to understand beauty, you will find a pleasure and satisfaction unknown to you before.

And beauty is only well-appreciated when it influences you in some way, when it becomes a part of your existence, and you feel its fragrance in your life. I shall end with an apt quote of Voltaire: “It is not sufficient to see and to know the beauty of a work. We must feel and be affected by it.”

Regards,

Sam.

[ravinderdahiya]

Well after going through almost all the posts on this topic, I see two things coming out :
1. Almost everyone thinks that physical beauty attracts and is the first cause of attraction in most of the cases.
2. Inner beauty is vital i.e. if inner beauty is not there then the attraction towards physical beauty can not continue.
but what is fail to understand is that why are we discussing this, I mean everybody seems to agree with the other, then where is the fight?:D

[shwetadhaka]

Well after going through almost all the posts on this topic, I see two things coming out :
1. Almost everyone thinks that physical beauty attracts and is the first cause of attraction in most of the cases.
2. Inner beauty is vital i.e. if inner beauty is not there then the attraction towards physical beauty can not continue.
but what is fail to understand is that why are we discussing this, I mean everybody seems to agree with the other, then where is the fight?:D

U need fight :confused::confused: oh......... well, disscussion means expression of thoughts & not neccessarily fight! ......... ok then if u wish u may tell can u compromise with looks if u tend to feel inclined towards a beautiful heart........ what u will choose amongst good looks but not so good nature & not so good looks but a pleasing nature ??.......... this is the fight .......... what is correct & to what extent such compromise can be made practically!

[rathee.sandeep]

Bhalaa bura na koi roop rang se kehlata hai
Darshti bhed sab gun dosh dikhlata hai
Koi kamal ki kalli dekha hai kichhadd me
Kisi ko chand me bhi daag nazar aata hai

[shwetadhaka]

Bhalaa bura na koi roop rang se kehlata hai
Darshti bhed sab gun dosh dikhlata hai
Koi kamal ki kalli dekha hai kichhadd me
Kisi ko chand me bhi daag nazar aata hai

Sahi kaha Sandeep ji......... nazariya bada mahatvapurna hota hai........ par kabhi kabhi swayam ke nazariye ko samjh paana hi kathin hota hai......... kaafi hindi ho gayi na!:)

[rathee.sandeep]

For you to see beauty you must be beautiful, for the beauty of others is only a reflection of your inner beauty

[shwetadhaka]

For you to see beauty you must be beautiful, for the beauty of others is only a reflection of your inner beauty

Badhiya hai fir to................:p:)

[samranwa]

The one I got is Beauty and the contemporary sublime, by Jeremy Gilbert-Rolfe, a faculty member (probably understating that) at Art Center. And the first thing I noticed in reading the introduction is his reference to Kant's distinction between Beauty and The Sublime. And his reference to how they are perceived as obsolete since Duchamp's use of ordinary objects out of context pronounced as art. Duchamp pretty much canceled the idea that beauty is a requirement of art, and also challenged the idea of an objective taste. As a result of his work, Kant's Critique of Judgment has lost much of it's authority. Gilbert-Rolfe is reaffirming Kant, but in doing so, instead of using seascapes to illustrate The Sublime and paintings to illustrate Beauty he's using fashion models and fashion photography. (I think I have this right. Haven't even really started the book yet.) The use of the model as Sublime while the photograph is Beauty provides a clear distinction between the picture of the beautiful girl and the beautiful picture of the girl - a distinction much lacking on most of the web.
The author also challenges the assumption that The Sublime is superior to Beauty. As the sublime is primarily a product of nature, and not made by humans, it's been attributed to God. Anything made by God must be superior to anything made by man, the thought process goes. If one takes God out of the equation, a humanist point of view would state the opposite. Beauty created by man is superior to an accident of nature, as it takes intent and effort. And one final point I'm looking forward to reading about is the question of sex and the assignment of Beauty and The Sublime to feminine and masculine realms. I don't understand what he's saying, but so far Gilbert-Rolfe has stated (reinforcing Schiller's definitions) that Beauty is feminine andThe Sublime is masculine. And he assigns much of today's sexual ambiguity to a male need for beauty. Keep in mind we're not talking about sexuality here, but abstract concepts.



Looking forward to further discussions,



Regards,



Sam.

[yashbeniwal]

Waah mere Sher,,,,,,,

khubsurat hai woh itna saha nahi jaata,,:D


Bhalaa bura na koi roop rang se kehlata hai
Darshti bhed sab gun dosh dikhlata hai
Koi kamal ki kalli dekha hai kichhadd me
Kisi ko chand me bhi daag nazar aata hai

[rathee.sandeep]

aapne galat samjha yash
main internal beauty ko mahtav de rha tha
aur aapka gaana external beauty ko

[yashbeniwal]

Sandeep ji,

beauty beauty hoti hai,,,, aur haan mere dost External beauty hamesha internal beauty par bhaari padti hai,,,, woh kewal fairy tails mein hota hai ki internal beauty is more important than external beauty,,,:D,,, agar aisa hota toh mere dost tum ki dekh lo Kitne Beauty contest hote hai jisme external beauty dekhi jaati,,, internal beauty is there but after external beauty. I have so much examples Like We know Tajmahal for his external beauty,, internally toh uske andar bhi kabar hai mumtaz ki,,,
Sach toh yeh hai mere dost ki chhaye ladka ho yaa ladki sabhexternal beauty dekhte hai,,,,, waise dil ko behalaane ki liye "internal beauty" ka khayaal bhi gaalib achaa hai,,,,



aapne galat samjha yash
main internal beauty ko mahtav de rha tha
aur aapka gaana external beauty ko

[bhupendra]

Well i think when a person is unknown then only the outer beauty attract. and when we know a person then the we notice only inner beauty. Now i should say that 'Beauty' is not constant or universal. I like Amisha Patel and think she is very beautiful, but my brother is not agree with me. So at last it is depend on the person which beauty he likes.

But u raised a very good question. And hope u will definatly find your answer soon.

Bye

[dreamer]

Sandeep ji,

beauty beauty hoti hai,,,, aur haan mere dost External beauty hamesha internal beauty par bhaari padti hai,,,, woh kewal fairy tails mein hota hai ki internal beauty is more important than external beauty,,,:D,,, agar aisa hota toh mere dost tum ki dekh lo Kitne Beauty contest hote hai jisme external beauty dekhi jaati,,, internal beauty is there but after external beauty. I have so much examples Like We know Tajmahal for his external beauty,, internally toh uske andar bhi kabar hai mumtaz ki,,,
Sach toh yeh hai mere dost ki chhaye ladka ho yaa ladki sabhexternal beauty dekhte hai,,,,, waise dil ko behalaane ki liye "internal beauty" ka khayaal bhi gaalib achaa hai,,,,


bhai issa sai .... tajmahal ki kah toh di tannai ..ke external beauty ke karan jaante hain or iske bheetar mumtaj ki kabar sai ... per shahjahan nai yoh banwaya tha mumtaj tanhi .. iskai peechai uski bhawnayen chup rhi sain ... aar wahin bhawnayen iski INTERNAL BEAUTY SAIN ....


I m firm believer of internal beauty ..Well i support the thread of dhaka ji ... while saying that Rejecting Girls only on the face value is not a ethical thing ... and i agree with the point too .. this is not necessary that ... girl with external beauty will not be good from heart ... btw taking a quote out of sam's long para .. "It is not sufficient to see and to know the beauty of a work. We must feel and be affected by it."

Yeah its damm true ...

People who like rejecting girls ... please dont mind ... ask for the photo of her first than meeting her on her home and rejecting her on her face and in front of her parents ... it still hurts ... but it will do a favor on her ...As in most cases boys are finalised by parents of that girl ... and girl is finalised by boy himself ... unfair huh ... :confused:


and keep the thread going on .. its really nice one ...

[rathee.sandeep]

sahi kaho ho dreamer
aur yash ji beauty contest me bhi final selection ke liye
kuchh swaal hi pooche jaate hai

[shwetadhaka]

bhai issa sai .... tajmahal ki kah toh di tannai ..ke external beauty ke karan jaante hain or iske bheetar mumtaj ki kabar sai ... per shahjahan nai yoh banwaya tha mumtaj tanhi .. iskai peechai uski bhawnayen chup rhi sain ... aar wahin bhawnayen iski INTERNAL BEAUTY SAIN ....


I m firm believer of internal beauty ..Well i support the thread of dhaka ji ... while saying that Rejecting Girls only on the face value is not a ethical thing ... and i agree with the point too .. this is not necessary that ... girl with external beauty will not be good from heart ... btw taking a quote out of sam's long para .. "It is not sufficient to see and to know the beauty of a work. We must feel and be affected by it."

Yeah its damm true ...

People who like rejecting girls ... please dont mind ... ask for the photo of her first than meeting her on her home and rejecting her on her face and in front of her parents ... it still hurts ... but it will do a favor on her ...As in most cases boys are finalised by parents of that girl ... and girl is finalised by boy himself ... unfair huh ... :confused:


and keep the thread going on .. its really nice one ...

Well, Dreamer ji, ya i do agree with ur views, though the scenario is changing fast......... girls of today are sticking to their choices too in the case of choice of a life partner........ and the boys who are mature, too......... have started realising that a suitable life partner is not the one who just nods with what the parents say....... but goes with what the parents & she together decide, coz the girls are becoming more aware, self reliant and decisive !! & the boys r looking for girls who are self decisive and confident too ........beyond the normal requisites of a matching look, respecting the parents, caring etc.......... i.e. the formula now is........girls with values & good at heart but at the same time confident, dynamic & mature enough to be a life partner in real sense!!....... and one who can face the innumerable unnamed challenges of this ever changing world in true spirit!!........ & this......... for sure, requires a lot of understanding, decisive spirit, zealous & enthusiastic attitude, strength of mind etc.!!!!!........... & ultimately........... this requires a lotsssssssss beyond looks!! Agree???

& for the beauty lovers it goes.......... its personal opinion though........ beauty is very easy to find............ beauty of thoughts is not that easy to locate & appreciate:):)............. isko pehchaanne ke liye bi kuch samjh chahiye:confused:............ kai log nahi rakhte hai ye samjh .......... sach!! :)............. unki galti bi nahi!!........ they r not to be blamed................ so........... unko samjh nahi aati hai ye baate kai baar............. shayad ................

[dreamer]

Well, Dreamer ji, ya i do agree with ur views, though the scenario is changing fast......... girls of today are sticking to their choices too in the case of choice of a life partner........ and the boys too......... have started realising that a suitable life partner is not the one who just nods with what the parents say....... but goes with what the parents & she together decide, coz the girls are becoming more aware, self reliant and decisive !! & the boys r looking for girls who are self decisive and confident too ........beyond the normal requisites of a matching look, respecting the parents, caring etc.......... i.e. the formula now is........girls with values & good at heart but at the same time confident, dynamic & mature enough to be a life partner in real sense!!....... and one who can face the innumerable unnamed challenges of this ever changing world in true spirit!!........ & this......... for sure, requires a lot of understanding, decisive spirit, zealous & enthusiastic attitude, strength of mind etc.!!!!!........... & ultimately........... this requires a lotsssssssss beyond looks!! Agree???

& for the beauty lovers it goes.......... its personal opinion though........ beauty is very easy to find............ beauty of thoughts is not that easy to locate & appreciate:):)............. iske liye bi kuch samjh chahiye:confused:............ kai log nahi rakhte hai ye samjh .......... sach!! :)............. unki galti bi nahi!!..... they r not to be blamed................ so........... unko samjh nahi aati hai ye baate kai baar............. shayad ................

Dekho ji .. Disagree hone ki toh baat hi nahin hai ... :) lotsss ... ke aagay s thore hi lagaye ... i m fully agree with it ... Still i feel that .... the scenario you mentioned above applies more in case of love marriages ... not in arranged ones ... and i dont know what's the ratio of love marriage : arrange marriage ; but i m pretty sure .. arrange marriages has got more share ... and Well ... in case of arrange marriage .. there is not enough time for a person to decide whether the person is good enough to take all important position or not ...

And well as far as ... decision of girls go in this case .. to reject or accept ... i m afraid .. Delhi abhi door hai madam ... (and debate in this thing will drag the discussion away from the roots ... So fullstop. :))

Jin logon ko samjh nahin aati yeh baatein ... unka toh kya kar sakte hain ...

[shwetadhaka]

Dekho ji .. Disagree hone ki toh baat hi nahin hai ... :) lotsss ... ke aagay s thore hi lagaye ... i m fully agree with it ... Still i feel that .... the scenario you mentioned above applies more in case of love marriages ... not in arranged ones ... and i dont know what's the ratio of love marriage : arrange marriage ; but i m pretty sure .. arrange marriages has got more share ... and Well ... in case of arrange marriage .. there is not enough time for a person to decide whether the person is good enough to take all important position or not ...

And well as far as ... decision of girls go in this case .. to reject or accept ... i m afraid .. Delhi abhi door hai madam ... (and debate in this thing will drag the discussion away from the roots ... So fullstop. :))

Jin logon ko samjh nahin aati yeh baatein ... unka toh kya kar sakte hain ...

:):) thanx for ur opinions dreamer ji! Ya might be the scenario applies more in case of arranged marriages..........still........... in case of arranged marriages too, people are paying thought to this aspect......... though the time is limited and they cant discuss many a issues actively, yet, they instead of lots of interaction pay attention to the academic standing, career orientation etc. of the girl they r looking for the purpose to ensure these factors as I earlier mentioned.......... ya its a starting......... but its growing fast!

Dilli abi door sahi ............ par zammane ki speed ab kaafi fast ho gayi hai ......... & decision of girls............ it matters........... may be there are lots whose does'nt........... but there are many whose has started mattering.......... they know how to make it matter!! I know many a examples........... yaaaa :):)

[ritu]

dilli to kab ki paas aachuki .aajkal ladkia khub reject karti hai ladkoko.me to na jaane kitne aise cases dekh chuki.aaj se 12 saal pahle meri shadi ke time mujhe poora adhikar tha....not to marry a person if i do not like him.mujhe aaj bhi yad hai jab ye mujhe dekhne aaye the to meri ma ne sabke saamne poocha tha bol chorri pasand se ek nahi.i am so much proud of my mom.
And well as far as ... decision of girls go in this case .. to reject or accept ... i m afraid .. Delhi abhi door hai madam ... (and debate in this thing will drag the discussion away from the roots ... So fullstop. :))

Jin logon ko samjh nahin aati yeh baatein ... unka toh kya kar sakte hain ...

[dreamer]

dilli to kab ki paas aachuki .aajkal ladkia khub reject karti hai ladkoko.me to na jaane kitne aise cases dekh chuki.aaj se 12 saal pahle meri shadi ke time mujhe poora adhikar tha....not to marry a person if i do not like him.mujhe aaj bhi yad hai jab ye mujhe dekhne aaye the to meri ma ne sabke saamne poocha tha bol chorri pasand se ek nahi.i am so much proud of my mom.

Mannai kahi toh thi ... ke debate ho sakai sai is baat pai ... bharat main itne gaam sain ke ginti ai na sai ... aar gaaman ki haalat itni bhoondi sai kayian ki aak ke bataun .... chhorian nai aapne gharaale ki shakal jib dikhai sai jib 1 2 balak ho le sain unkai ... You are definitely lucky if u got what you liked ...

[shwetadhaka]

Mannai kahi toh thi ... ke debate ho sakai sai is baat pai ... bharat main itne gaam sain ke ginti ai na sai ... aar gaaman ki haalat itni bhoondi sai kayian ki aak ke bataun .... chhorian nai aapne gharaale ki shakal jib dikhai sai jib 1 2 balak ho le sain unkai ... You are definitely lucky if u got what you liked ...

Ya, sahi kaha aapne, gamman ki haalat aisi ho sake hai aur hai bi......... par sheher me kafi badlav aa rahe hai, aur thode gaao me bhi, .......... wait & watch ........... diili paas aane waali hai jaldi hi............... meri to aa gayi kam se kam:)

[rathee.sandeep]

sahi keh rha hai ravi tu
lekin un gaama me chhora ne bhi shakal jabbe dikhe se
baalak ohye paachhe

[shwetadhaka]

sahi keh rha hai ravi tu
lekin un gaama me chhora ne bhi shakal jabbe dikhe se
baalak ohye paachhe

Well........ aap aisa mat kariyega:) hahaaaaaaaaaa

[rathee.sandeep]

hum to delhi se door hi hai abhi

[yashbeniwal]

Bhai tu kah toh delhi nai pass le aawai,,,,:eek:;)
ere kade bekar ki behas mai ulajh gaya tu bhi,,, yaadai apna experinced bhai dreamer e theek sai,,, tane mane k bera baawle,,,,:D
hum tai jo gharaale toh denge baand lenge palle kai,, unka aashirwaad samajh kai,,,,,aapa khaandaani log sai,,,, er haryane mai toh jai tu naat gaya tai gharke jhoote maar kai kaad denge,,,,,:p:D

But I think Marriage is a mutual understanding between two souls,, which already made for each other in heaven,,,, nobody change this bitter truth of life,,, I saw lots of love marriage who not able to celeb there 1st maariage anniversary and demolished in between,,,, :mad: din't know whose fault but still two broken hearts,, who prepares themselves for a new destination,,, its life my dear,,,,
Beauty doesn't matter,,, sabko wahi milta hai jiski laikeer uske haath mein hoti hai,,,,

hum to delhi se door hi hai abhi

[shwetadhaka]

Bhai tu kah toh delhi nai pass le aawai,,,,:eek:;)
ere kade bekar ki behas mai ulajh gaya tu bhi,,, yaadai apna experinced bhai dreamer e theek sai,,, tane mane k bera baawle,,,,:D
hum tai jo gharaale toh denge baand lenge palle kai,, unka aashirwaad samajh kai,,,,,aapa khaandaani log sai,,,, er haryane mai toh jai tu naat gaya tai gharke jhoote maar kai kaad denge,,,,,:p:D

But I think Marriage is a mutual understanding between two souls,, which already made for each other in heaven,,,, nobody change this bitter truth of life,,, I saw lots of love marriage who not able to celeb there 1st maariage anniversary and demolished in between,,,, :mad: din't know whose fault but still two broken hearts,, who prepares themselves for a new destination,,, its life my dear,,,,
Beauty doesn't matter,,, sabko wahi milta hai jiski laikeer uske haath mein hoti hai,,,,

Yash ji........... yaha lagta hai sabse khaandaani aap hi hai baaki to sab.......... !! chaliye aap to hai kam se kam ! Anyways, aap beauty se jyada kismat ko kab se maanne lage........... aur Sandeep ji ko kya kya kab kab karna hota hai aap hi batate hai kya?

[yashbeniwal]

Yash ji........... yaha lagta hai sabse khaandaani aap hi hai baaki to sab.......... !! chaliye aap to hai kam se kam ! Anyways, aap beauty se jyada kismat ko kab se maanne lage........... aur Sandeep ji ko kya kya kab kab karna hota hai aap hi batate hai kya?

Mind ur own buisness!!! samjhi,,,,,,

mai kisko kya kya batata hoon aur kya nahi yeh jannaa shayad tumhare liye zaruri nahi hai. OK :),,,``` Jahan tak mai jaanta honn yahan sabhi khandaani aur ijjatdar log hai,,, maine aisa kuch nahi kaha ,,, jiska itna bura laga tumhe:confused:,,''' haan hai yahan kuch BEhudhe log,,,,,:mad::)
mai kya maanta hoon aur kya nahi thats my problem nots urs,,, I know ki mujhe kya karna hai,,,, mai kisi ki batoon par tumhari tarah vishwaas nahi kartaa,,,, mujhe pata hai ki kya achaa hai aur kya bura,,,,,

or haan kismat mein sabka vishwaas hota hai,, tumhara nahi hai kya,,,,:eek:

[shwetadhaka]

Mind ur own buisness!!! samjhi,,,,,,

mai kisko kya kya batata hoon aur kya nahi yeh jannaa shayad tumhare liye zaruri nahi hai. OK :),,,``` Jahan tak mai jaanta honn yahan sabhi khandaani aur ijjatdar log hai,,, maine aisa kuch nahi kaha ,,, jiska itna bura laga tumhe:confused:,,''' haan hai yahan kuch BEhudhe log,,,,,:mad::)
mai kya maanta hoon aur kya nahi thats my problem nots urs,,, I know ki mujhe kya karna hai,,,, mai kisi ki batoon par tumhari tarah vishwaas nahi kartaa,,,, mujhe pata hai ki kya achaa hai aur kya bura,,,,,

or haan kismat mein sabka vishwaas hota hai,, tumhara nahi hai kya,,,,:eek:

Mind my business....... well abhi hai nahi actually planning to start one good day, then I will mind it very well, Thanx Yash for this freindly suggestion:)

Ya... mere liye bilkul bi jaruri nahi hai kuch bi jannana, maine aapse pucha bi nahi tha shayad aapko aisa laga ho, mai seedhe puch leti hu jo puchna ho:)

Yaha kaise log hai isse jyada ye important hai mere liye ki mai kaisi hu aur kaisa hona chahiye, mai ye baate sochti hi nahi aur mujhe kisi ki baat ka koi bura nahi laga, aapki bi nahi:)

aur maine kiski baat ka vishwas kiya ya nahi kiya........ ye wali baat mai samjh nahi paayi Yash ji:)

Anyways Respected Yash ji I think u took something too personally ! I am very sorry if said something wrong directly or indirectly but I didnt meant anything like that!

Please, dont take anything personally this is a humble request ! we all are here to share views & I dont indulge in leg pullings or any like things!:)

Take care & be happy

[sarikadg07]

Firstly must say shweta you choose a beautiful question .
Then moving on to you point yes physical beauty does count but when it comes to serious work and all it will be sheer hard word that is going to matter . As physical beauty is temporary it can be a medium of instant captivation but it is not of great help in long run.

Yep. I agree with you Mamta.
Beauty is only skin deep innit!!:)

[shwetadhaka]

Well, as i was going through a thread based on the importance of "luck" in life, it just came in my mind that being beautiful or not is also a matter of luck to an extent! One has no control over his face cut & the basic looks he inherits. But still one has to go along with his looks all his life, and has to bear the agony if the looks are not so called 'appealing' & enjoy an undue edge over others if the looks are appealing ! Beauty is skin deep indeed, but when it comes to real life then the funda is why to go for 'Celina' if 'Katrina' is there! Moreover, in today's world where 'outside appearance enhancement' is gaining such momentum and looks have taken a front seat, its very difficult for a normal looking person to be mentally contended with his average looks !

[gaganjat]

Freinds, I m starting with a question........... does inner beauty takes a back seat when physical beauty spreads its charisma........... ?

:):confused::)

Your question is the answer itself !

lol...definitely ! If inner beauty is there its not gonna disappear but physical beauty will ....so let the inner beauty take a back seat and exploit the physical beauty first:D
.....just talkin bot the combination !

[gaganjat]

Weight of beauty ..... !!

Wat r u talkin bot ? hahhahah

beauty doesnt weigh much....majority of the beautiful girls are very light weight ! so beauty is pretty light

exceptions are always there like 100kgs heavy Hema Malini

[shwetadhaka]

Weight of beauty ..... !!

Wat r u talkin bot ? hahhahah

beauty doesnt weigh much....majority of the beautiful girls are very light weight ! so beauty is pretty light

exceptions are always there like 100kgs heavy Hema Malini


I guess this section is "General Talk" & not "Time Pass" or "Humour" :confused: Kindly check the forum & try distinguishing between their nature! :cool: Anyways,i guess, its not cumpulsory for all to comment if they need to ask 'Wat r u talking abt! ' If u couldnt get wat i & many others have been talking about, then its absolutely fine ! We will try hard, managing without your worthy comments!!;)

[cooljat]

LOL :D :D
Baat mein namak hai!!

Rock on
Jit


Weight of beauty ..... !!

Wat r u talkin bot ? hahhahah

beauty doesnt weigh much....majority of the beautiful girls are very light weight ! so beauty is pretty light

exceptions are always there like 100kgs heavy Hema Malini

[sunitahooda]

Tu koonsi dilli ki baat kar rya sai....Bumbai rehga tai DILLI doorey rehgi:D:p issa kyu JEE TODD RYA SAI....byah tai honn dey tera .....humtanne baalak honn tai pehlam uski shakal deekha dengey:p;) and i think if one is Physical beautiful n Spiritually beautiful then it becomes ETERNAL beauty....majority goes after Physical beautiful but then they regret if the gal lacks inner beautyhum to delhi se door hi hai abhi

[shwetadhaka]

LOL :D :D
Baat mein namak hai!!

Rock on
Jit

Baat me bas namak aur mirch hi hai, baaki kuch nahi! Timepass ko ok hai! Ab kya kare kuch logo ko TP ki itni buri aadat hoti hai ki kuch seriously likh nahi sakte. It would have been a worth appreciatiaing joke, if it would have been coupled with some sensible talk too! Now its weight tends to be directly proportional to a 'kaddoo joke' :rolleyes:

[gauravchaudhary]

To start with, yes, inner beauty takes a back seat but in the long run it probably prevails.

[gaganjat]

I guess this section is "General Talk" & not "Time Pass" or "Humour" :confused: Kindly check the forum & try distinguishing between their nature! :cool: Anyways,i guess, its not cumpulsory for all to comment if they need to ask 'Wat r u talking abt! ' If u couldnt get wat i & many others have been talking about, then its absolutely fine ! We will try hard, managing without your worthy comments!!;)


As soon as I saw this very very important thread of national importance which was so perfectly posted in "General Talk' I seriously felt the responsibility of replying :D

I tried to reply for this thread in 'humour' and 'time pass' sections but it didnt work...i m just waiting for some additional features on this site :p
and we will start mixing and matching

Ur thread is so crystal clear thats why I said 'Wat r u talkin bot ! (not ?) (didnt ask)...I was a bit complex , u can definitey ask me 'wat u talkin bot?' and we will be glad to post u a detailed explanation.

and thanks alot for ur flattering complement (we wont let u face any difficulties coz of the absence of our 'worthy comments' , they will always be there for u):)

Question : Weight of beauty ?

At the end I should repeat 'BEAUTY IS WEIGHTLESS' - majority of beautiful girls are weightless;)

thank u thank u for the applause , complements and encouragement !

[gaganjat]

Baat me bas namak aur mirch hi hai, baaki kuch nahi! Timepass ko ok hai! Ab kya kare kuch logo ko TP ki itni buri aadat hoti hai ki kuch seriously likh nahi sakte. It would have been a worth appreciatiaing joke, if it would have been coupled with some sensible talk too! Now its weight tends to be directly proportional to a 'kaddoo joke' :rolleyes:




dekhne me kya pata namak ho par ho chini, dekhne me kya pata mirchi ho par ho pisa hua keasar:D

baat sai issi... swaad aali chaat tai hamne banani aati konya, baki ik adh chez sai vo jaror khuwa sake sai :p

..... Sometimes we talk humourous in a really serious way...like the way we talk serious in a really humorous way...

[ritu]

At the end I should repeat 'BEAUTY IS WEIGHTLESS' - majority of beautiful girls are weightless;)

hahahhaa very funny:p

[shwetadhaka]

At the end I should repeat 'BEAUTY IS WEIGHTLESS' - majority of beautiful girls are weightless;)

hahahhaa very funny:p


Ritu ji :) aap bhi na!!:)

[shwetadhaka]

As soon as I saw this very very important thread of national importance which was so perfectly posted in "General Talk' I seriously felt the responsibility of replying :D

I tried to reply for this thread in 'humour' and 'time pass' sections but it didnt work...i m just waiting for some additional features on this site :p
and we will start mixing and matching

Ur thread is so crystal clear thats why I said 'Wat r u talkin bot ! (not ?) (didnt ask)...I was a bit complex , u can definitey ask me 'wat u talkin bot?' and we will be glad to post u a detailed explanation.

and thanks alot for ur flattering complement (we wont let u face any difficulties coz of the absence of our 'worthy comments' , they will always be there for u):)

Question : Weight of beauty ?

At the end I should repeat 'BEAUTY IS WEIGHTLESS' - majority of beautiful girls are weightless;)

thank u thank u for the applause , complements and encouragement !

Great to know ur fanatic concern towards nation!! & ur responsibility handling skills, ur worthy suggestion for such additional features, ur thanking abilities inspite of there being no reason to thank for & ur absolutely amazing talent of taking evident sarcasm as flattering compliments and applause !! Still, dont keep it up, instead try keeping it down!:p Though I doubt u can!;)

[cooljat]

LOL :D :p :cool: Right said Gunny bhai!!

But on a serious note...Gagan is very much right Shweta.... u just pay attention to his humrous way in which he has taken a serious issue!

Here in India, most of the beauties r weightless......cuz almost all of them r under-weight, unfit & pale face due to dietin/junk foods/not work outs etc.

I strongly believe all that remains eternal is certainly inner Beauty but u cant just neglact outter beauty too...healthy beauty to be precise!! Like the famous sayin, "Beauty is in the eyes of beholder" .... so I suggest instead of wasting all of ur precious time in "16-Srangaar" ... u should pay serious attention to Healthy life style.... like work out, nutritive diet & proper discipline!!

Cuz I believe if ur fit n fine.....it looks beautiful!!! as it spreds Positive Energy!! Think bout it!!

Kudos to u Gunny bro.....I like the way u talk serious issues in a light mood!!

Rock on
Jit

dekhne me kya pata namak ho par ho chini, dekhne me kya pata mirchi ho par ho pisa hua keasar:D

baat sai issi... swaad aali chaat tai hamne banani aati konya, baki ik adh chez sai vo jaror khuwa sake sai :p

..... Sometimes we talk humourous in a really serious way...like the way we talk serious in a really humorous way...

[shwetadhaka]

Weight of beauty ! Can we have some more opinions pls!

[shashiverma]

Weight of beauty ! Can we have some more opinions pls!

I am a bit struck at the first line....Weight???.... I do not think that one can weigh beauty....Beauty give some kind of joy and pleasure and one can not think of weighing it.
Different people call different things as beautiful depending on their perception or what fascinates them.
People say Tajmahal is beautiful...wat makes it beautiful......symmetrical structure, white marble or the associated love story. May be all three of them....some say its beautiful just because they look at the structure, some find it beautiful thinking about the brains gone into constructing it, some find it beautiful bcoz this is unique, some find it beautiful bcoz of the love they see behind the constrution.
They all are right in their own sense. Its ofcourse beautiful but in totally different way for each of them.
A small dog on the street with white long hairs.....i find it really beautiful and so I noticed it.....that fascinates me. I move ahead on my way....Ofcourse I found the dog beautiful.....so...
Physical beauty is surely one of the beauty one can enjoy very much like the beautiful monuments, beautiful creations of nature. There is no harm in that.
Now if one has to make a comparision between external beauty and beauty of soul, then i would say its totally a personal taste and choice. One may have eye for external beauty so only see them, someone else may eye for beauty of soul and they find it more fascinating and enjoyable than the physical appearances. But both of them are right in their own frame. They have to live with the consequences of their choices and will pay for it accordingly.
For instance someone with blue eyes was complemented by two persons that you have beautiful eyes. One say that your eyes are blue in color and they are unique...they look beautiful.....Other says....your eyes speaks volume ..they reflect your soul.......
Now is it justified to say that only one of them is better than other?? They both are right. They have their own choices. We can not make them look the way we want.
And as far as nature of person is concerned it comes into picture depending on the grounds of being together.

[ssindhu]

Your question is the answer itself !

lol...definitely ! If inner beauty is there its not gonna disappear but physical beauty will ....so let the inner beauty take a back seat and exploit the physical beauty first:D
.....just talkin bot the combination !
ha ha. here speaks the beautiful mind...good wit mate.

[devdahiya]

Beauty is more associated with women.Every one likes and admires a beautiful face at the very outset of things and certainly a pre-requisite towards any further initiation of any substantial dialogs towards ultimate liking/rejection[like it or lump it].....What happens in long run will certainly be decided by the inner strength of character and goodness...but on the spot its the outward beauty for sure.


For men to men it is different all together[may be some percentage of women too would like to do the same].....They vibe mostly on the behavior pattern of each other.......Truthfulness,dependability and loyalty etc count a lot...face does not matter at all.

[amanjaat]

well,,inner beauty is good....i mean hell ,if u wanna live with the person all ur life u want them to be decent.
but outer beauty is what pulls you to them first...
outer beauty can be devided in 2 parts
1. face (50%)
2. body(50%)
this is true for most ppl....
i mean hell if a girl has a nice defined physique and a nice face ,,i wud atleast wanna know her a lil more.
but yeah ,,if she looks nice and internally shez bad...for me EGO sucks,,,so if shez egoistic..ill be instantly turned off....
.
.
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however for women handsomeness takes a backseat when considering a partner,
they want sum1 consistent,successful and more importantly "shud treat a woman right"
.so if a guy is rich,good natured and doesnt look very bad...girls wud prolly go ******s for him ...i was told this by one of my female friend whoz taking phychology at uni.

[shwetadhaka]

I am a bit struck at the first line....Weight???.... I do not think that one can weigh beauty....Beauty give some kind of joy and pleasure and one can not think of weighing it.
Different people call different things as beautiful depending on their perception or what fascinates them.
People say Tajmahal is beautiful...wat makes it beautiful......symmetrical structure, white marble or the associated love story. May be all three of them....some say its beautiful just because they look at the structure, some find it beautiful thinking about the brains gone into constructing it, some find it beautiful bcoz this is unique, some find it beautiful bcoz of the love they see behind the constrution.
They all are right in their own sense. Its ofcourse beautiful but in totally different way for each of them.
A small dog on the street with white long hairs.....i find it really beautiful and so I noticed it.....that fascinates me. I move ahead on my way....Ofcourse I found the dog beautiful.....so...
Physical beauty is surely one of the beauty one can enjoy very much like the beautiful monuments, beautiful creations of nature. There is no harm in that.
Now if one has to make a comparision between external beauty and beauty of soul, then i would say its totally a personal taste and choice. One may have eye for external beauty so only see them, someone else may eye for beauty of soul and they find it more fascinating and enjoyable than the physical appearances. But both of them are right in their own frame. They have to live with the consequences of their choices and will pay for it accordingly.
For instance someone with blue eyes was complemented by two persons that you have beautiful eyes. One say that your eyes are blue in color and they are unique...they look beautiful.....Other says....your eyes speaks volume ..they reflect your soul.......
Now is it justified to say that only one of them is better than other?? They both are right. They have their own choices. We can not make them look the way we want.
And as far as nature of person is concerned it comes into picture depending on the grounds of being together.

Melodious words indeed :)

Well, beauty cant be given weight as such in real or exact terms, but many a times it is given weight, like the people generally say "Wo usse sunder hai" "Wo uske muqaable utni achi nahi dikhati" & the likes. People carry their own weighing machines many a times and do weigh this so relative adjective in comparable terms. An inclination for beauty is quite instintive and do depend on many a factors as have been beautifully enumerated in the above quote, but at times people do act fanatic for beauty. This may be owing to their own perception and way of looking at things, but at times it says silently to ones falling on 'lesser scale of beauty' that they lack a quality, a quality which can only be bestowed upon by the Almighty by virtue of birth but owing to which they will be judged each day, compared each day, & God knows what not ! The reason I started this thread was my thought provoking voyage through some really disgusting thoughts of people I came across. Its but natural to like beauty, but its not natural to like just beauty, overlooking the other very important side of a person, his inner self. People must atleast have some regards to the human face of a person.:)

[shashiverma]

Melodious words indeed :)

but at times people do act fanatic for beauty. At times it says silently to ones falling on 'lesser scale of beauty' that they lack a quality, a quality which can only be bestowed upon by the Almighty by virtue of birth

but owing to which they will be judged each day, compared each day,

The reason I started this thread was my thought provoking voyage through some really disgusting thoughts of people I came across. Its but natural to like beauty, but its not natural to like just beauty, overlooking the other very important side of a person, his inner self. People must atleast have some regards to the human face of a person.:)

I agree with you shweta and i do understand the point you are making. Everynow and then we come across people who have eye only for external beauty. But do they really matter in the long run???
But everything has a positive and negative side.
In fact a person with external beauty and good soul also have to pay the price. They are always sorrounded by people who admire simply their apprearences. They really have to work hard to find people who can understand and admire the beauty of their soul.
So in that sense people who do not carry the so called physical beauty are on the better side. People who are close to them are there because they understand their soul and do not look at them on the basis of what they were created as.
And as far as the comments of other person is concerned...how one take them totally depends on the person. As I mentioned earlier about the beautiful eyes of the person..its for the person to judge what matter to them.....a person who only look at the appearences of her eyes which were created by almighty or the person who look at the beauty of her soul......thats totally a personal choice and a wise person know it well what to go for.

[chhavi]

Well! Considering beauty as a book, I believe in the quote that " Never judge a book by its cover"

and secondly beauty lies in the eyes of beholder!:)

Cheers!

[shwetadhaka]

Well! Considering beauty as a book, I believe in the quote that " Never judge a book by its cover"

and secondly beauty lies in the eyes of beholder!:)

Cheers!

Yeah, a cover can never tell you exactly what surprises lie in the book :)

[pam06]

HI! PHYSICAL BEAUTY AS WELL AS INNER BEAUTY BOTH ARE IMPORTANT BUT INNER BEAUTY CARRIES MORE WEIGHTAGE COZ IT REMAINS WITH US PERMANENTLY.I WILL RATE AS60/40 . 60 TO IB & 40 TO PB.REGARDS! Freinds, I m starting with a question........... does inner beauty takes a back seat when physical beauty spreads its charisma........... ?

Well, in our lives we do come across many a type of persons, but some catch our eyes instantly:) ....... to put up in other words....... we get impressed by some persons inadvertantly owing to the charm of their personality........ and also at times by the confidence they carry on their face....... and also at times after just listening to the melody of their thoughts!! Depends............. but the question I wanna ask is, does inner beauty comes after physical beauty.............PRACTICALLY SPEAKING !! ........... coz I have also seen many a people running whole life after physical beauty !! For them........ inner beauty might also be appreciable but they just cant resist!! So freinds.......... do enlighten me with ur beautiful words:p U may also rate the inner and physical beauty on a scale of 10 !!

:):confused::)

[mukkijat]

sam
humanity starts from beauty.physical beauyy is more important then inner beauty.beleve it or not it matters always.

[gaganjat]

sam
humanity starts from beauty.physical beauyy is more important then inner beauty.beleve it or not it matters always.

u in sydney now ? How come u didnt tell me man?

[Samarkadian]

>> Well, comprehensive question, looks simple yet answerable.Physical beauty is not aphrodiastic in longer terms because it never has been.Physical beauty starts its scale from 100 and gradually goes down longer.Its market is big but on egg shell.Inner beauty yes starts from zero n go to infinity with its virtues.Like Socrates said ' Know Thyself'.Very simple but really challange when you see inner demons never at truce eating you out like cancer.Physical beauty is not charismatic.Charismatic is inner beauty its more reliable, always growing.



>>>> Self, Identity and personality are entirely different parts of a human being.The main aspect of personality is one's confident image.More confidence Ultimate beautiful.Though Identity is like handling oneself in the toughest situations of life's drama.Self is much deeper which is hard to show or explain. Its just the way you are wired.Physical beauty can be faked but inner beauty is constant peace in joy.You dont need its validation from external enviornment.

One person chooses the scale of physical/inner beauty with his/her mental evolution.Very much applicable in selecting one's biological mate.Once again Women/men do not deceive men. We use women/men to deceive ourselves.



I do believe more physical beauties are self-destructive because they put more emphasis in out appearnce which generally is fake.Beauty is in actions, never in words..Period.

[jagsun]

Physical beauty is temporary and transient while the beauty of the soul is eternal it is a high which has no coming down, We who follow the sanatan dharam or the eternal religion never go for transient things; it is only in western socities that personality is more important than character.Oratory is preferred to inner silence and peace. We should not blindly copy the west but stick to our time tested values. The eyes of the person are the windows to his soul. I will go for something permanent anyday anytime:p

[rajeevkadyan]

Frnds after reading all ths post ....Its depend on situation ..As in our community we believe more in arrange marriage ...in that case you dont have time to judge a person's inner beauty the only thing u can notice is Physical Beauty. (aur ek khas baat ..humare gharon mein hota kaise hai...3 ya 4 lady..humari Ma ..Chachi ya bua etc ek sath jayengi larki dekhne (and same can be from other side as well) ...larki kitni lambi hai...nain nakhs kaise hain...aur jab tak larki unke samne baithi rahegi..wo bechari sharm se ya kuchh bhi laga lo ..bolegi nahi...to chachi ya bua etc ...kahengi "Hey dekha kitni sharif bhi thi" . As they got impressed by external beauty ..to unhen wo sharif bhi lagi..Lekin agar sunder nahi lage to..wo unko sharif bhi nahi lagti....tab unke khayalat kuchh aise hote..." Hey shakal ki to bhundi thi ye...har dekhe bhi kaise thi...". )
Even if u leave all the matter of arrange marriage on a guy/girl ...they will also go with physical beauty...coz u cant judge a person in few hours or in few days.

Now come to the some other situation ..like if somebody (larka ho ya larki) looking for a friendship kind of relation they wud go for a Physical beauty.(Time paas karna hai..so sunder/handsome to honi/hona hee chahiye na).

Thats why physical Beauty is on front seat.

But the basic need of a relation is understanding ..its a part of inner beauty and nobody can judge that in few days or hours.

[dkumars]

Well! Considering beauty as a book, I believe in the quote that " Never judge a book by its cover"

and secondly beauty lies in the eyes of beholder!:)

Cheers!

To correct you :
and secondly beauty lies in the eyes of beerholder!:):D:p:p

[dkumars]

Even if u leave all the matter of arrange marriage on a guy/girl ...they will also go with physical beauty...coz u cant judge a person in few hours or in few days.

Now come to the some other situation ..like if somebody (larka ho ya larki) looking for a friendship kind of relation they wud go for a Physical beauty.(Time paas karna hai..so sunder/handsome to honi/hona hee chahiye na).

Thats why physical Beauty is on front seat.

But the basic need of a relation is understanding ..its a part of inner beauty and nobody can judge that in few days or hours.



Vry much agreed

[dkumars]

hmmm ... read all posts but again got a doubt... what contxt r we talking abt...
well for me if i see then physical appereance doesn matter at all for friendship aur any other relation too... but whn i see the same regarding life partner then its difficult to digest that physique/beauty doen matter... at that time i feel the gal shud b beautiful... doen mean aishwarya but kuch toh honi he hahiye...

The sam question to u too... dekhne mein agar suroopan khaa ya tun tun type par inner beauty bahut hai ... shadi karoge boass ??? kitne hai aise naujawan... same to gals... ladka dil ka bahut achha hai par dekhne mein cartoon .. chalegi kya inner beauty... honest answers plz.... khair ladkiyon k baare mein kuch nahi keh sakta... caring paring hona chahiye phir chaahe gadha hi kyun na hoo:p:D:)

[crsnadar]

Inner beauty Bhagwan nahi dete, wo time ke saath khud change hoti hoti hai, wo hum beautify bhi kar sakte hai, wo circumstances & surroundings par depend karti hai...

...But outer beauty to Bhagwan he dete hain, jisko jaisa bana diya bas bana diya, usme hi khush rahna chahiye



ofcourse jo dikhta nahi hai uska importance hi jyada hota hai, because we don't know what's in someone's mind ...at least not completely

Philanthopy is one example of inner beauty

[shwetadhaka]

hmmm ... read all posts but again got a doubt... what contxt r we talking abt...
well for me if i see then physical appereance doesn matter at all for friendship aur any other relation too... but whn i see the same regarding life partner then its difficult to digest that physique/beauty doen matter... at that time i feel the gal shud b beautiful... doen mean aishwarya but kuch toh honi he hahiye...

The sam question to u too... dekhne mein agar suroopan khaa ya tun tun type par inner beauty bahut hai ... shadi karoge boass ??? kitne hai aise naujawan... same to gals... ladka dil ka bahut achha hai par dekhne mein cartoon .. chalegi kya inner beauty... honest answers plz.... khair ladkiyon k baare mein kuch nahi keh sakta... caring paring hona chahiye phir chaahe gadha hi kyun na hoo:p:D:)

Well, u r being genuinely practical, no denials about that ! Who will not wish to be with the best looking person ! Everyone will obviously be happy to see a perfect looking face around. What I opine is if its a case of marriage, then also a person must of course look for someone who can match his or her looks too, and this too must be to an extent so that if you know someone is a real gem, then that person can just get a few higher marks in this rating process ! Isnt it ! Marriages today have become a rating issue, a perfect analysis is made and finally a rating is arrived at considering the overall package being offered !! So, at least keep some higher points for the qualities :)

[manojsehrawat]

well Sweta ji, i think that inner beauty is the real beauty and if you beleive in god than you must love his creations. every face is unique and a brilliant work done by nature. if someone is just looking for his/her selfishness then the question arises of physical beauty. if i have rate then i rate inner beauty 10/10 and physical beauty 2/10.
because somehow i don't like showbiz

[vivektomar07]

As i think physical beauty attracts more ......
but physical beauty can be changed bt inner beauty cant change by any1........physical beauty is not lifelong bt inner beauty is alwayz stay.........

[mittu]

No doubt as all said...physical beauty is pretty easy and fast to appreciate n admire and inner beauty( or nature) is the ultimate driving force..
But don't u think that nature is pretty overrated?
if we are talking about marriage or relationship, then its concerned with person-person compatibility.
Two people get attracted with each other when they are compatible and understand each other...
what if one is very jolly, with good sense of humour and other is very serious kinda, both are good in nature but when they can't reciprocate or appreciate each others views then where is good nature helping?
i guess nature is too generalized term to compare ppl. what do you mean by good natured girl?
same girl can be good or bad natured for boy and his father depending upon there perceptions..
(Reasoning will be appreciated, we can only better the conclusion!)