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MKadwa
February 21st, 2007, 11:26 AM
A psychologist says he has discovered the answer:

Ten years ago, I set out to examine luck. I wanted to know why some people are always in the right place at the right time, while others consistentlyexperience ill fortune. I placed advertisements in national newspapers asking for people who felt consistently lucky or unlucky to contact me.

Hundreds of extraordinary men and women volunteered for my research and over the years, I have interviewed them, monitored their lives and had them take part in experiments.

The results reveal that although these people have almost no insight in to the causes of their luck, their thoughts and behavior are responsible for much of their good and bad fortune. Take the case of seemingly chance opportunities. Lucky people consistently encounter such opportunities,whereas unlucky people do not.

I carried out a simple experiment to discover whether this was due to differences in their ability to spot such opportunities. I gave both lucky and unlucky people a newspaper, and asked them to look through it and tell me how many photographs were inside. I had secretly placed a large message halfway through the newspaper saying: "Tell the experimenter you have seen this and win £250."

This message took up half of the page and was written in type that was more than two inches high. It was staring everyone straight in the face, but the unlucky people tended to miss it and the lucky people tended to spot it. Unlucky people are generally more tense than lucky people, and this anxiety disrupts their ability to notice the unexpected.

As a result, they miss opportunities because they are too focused on looking for something else. They go to parties intent on finding their perfect partner and so miss opportunities to make good friends. They look through newspapers determined to find certain types of job advertisements and miss other types of jobs.

Lucky people are more relaxed and open, and therefore see what is there rather than just what they are looking for. My research eventually revealed that lucky people generate good fortune via four principles. They are skilled at creating and noticing chance opportunities, make lucky decisions by listening to their intuition, create self-fulfilling prophesies via positive expectations, and adopt a resilient attitude that transforms bad luck into good.
Towards the end of the work, I wondered whether these principles could beused to create good luck. I asked a group of volunteers to spend a month carrying out exercises designed to help them think and behave like a luckyperson.

Dramatic results These exercises helped them spot chance opportunities,listen to their intuition, expect to be lucky, and be more resilient to badluck. One month later, the volunteers returned and described what hadhappened. The results were dramatic: 80% of people were now happier, more satisfied with their lives and, perhaps most important of all, luckier.

The lucky people had become even luckier and the unlucky had become lucky.Finally, I had found the elusive "luck factor"
Here are Professor Wiseman's four top tips for becoming lucky:
1) Listen to your gut instincts - they are normally right
2) Be open to new experiences and breaking your normal routine
3) Spend a few moments each day remembering things that went well
4) Visualize yourself being lucky before an important meeting or telephone call. Luck is very often a self- fulfilling prophecy

Have a Lucky day and work for it.

:: By Professor Richard Wiseman, University of Hertfordshire

narendra81
February 21st, 2007, 12:30 PM
nice food for thought dear..
I ve started linking this to me and found it quite true...
i ve always tried to get sm logic behind this luck factor but never got an answer until 2day..
thanx for sharing this dear...

mukeshkumar007
February 21st, 2007, 12:42 PM
that's very true bhai... thanks for sharing it with us,..

raj2rif
February 21st, 2007, 07:18 PM
Dear Mahendra Singh Ji,
Thank you very much for sharing your research work with us. Actually positive thinking is half the battle won. People who don't try any thing new, have no chance of success, while people who do try have at least 50% chance of success. Again, even if one fails while trying a new thing, he/she knows about it and can make a better decision in future as against a person who never tries.
Once again thank you very much for sharing this wealth of information.

deepakchoudhry
February 21st, 2007, 07:40 PM
Hi Mahendera,

Good Article.

I can tell you from my experience whatever your article has said is true.

I used to be doubtful, tensed and negative then I changed and I certainly feel it, of course at times I'm still doubtful and fearful but now the failures are new opporunties not disappointments.

Deepak

keshavdahiya
February 21st, 2007, 11:14 PM
The answer to your question which is the title of the thread is that people don't get success and wait for the lucky times and blame others or watch out on others is because they are highly frustrated and cowards.

Get some life....work hard and baang onnnnnnnnnn....as Luck is not something you can mention in the presence of self-made men and the winds and waves are always on the side of the ablest navigators.

devdahiya
February 21st, 2007, 11:23 PM
The answer to your question which is the title of the thread is that people don't get success and wait for the lucky times and blame others or watch out on others is because they are highly frustrated and cowards.

Get some life....work hard and baang onnnnnnnnnn....as Luck is not something you can mention in the presence of self-made men and the winds and waves are always on the side of the ablest navigators.






Both Mahender and Kessu are bang on target in their own way.

ganeshjat
February 23rd, 2007, 11:34 AM
KABHI KISI KO MUKAMMAL JAHAN NAHIN MILTA ...
kabhi kisi ko mukammal jahan nahin milta
kahin zameen to kahin aasman nahin milta
jisay bhi dekhiyay woh apnay aap mein goum hai
zuban mili hai magar hum zuban nahin milta
kabhi kisi ko mukammal jahan nahin milta....
bujha saka hai bhala kaun waqt kay shoulay
yeh aisi aag hai jis mein dhuaan nahin milta
kabhi kisi ko mukammal jahan nahin milta....
teray jahan mein aisa nahin kay pyar na ho
jahan umeed ho iski wahan nahin milta
kabhi kisi ko mukammal jahan nahin milta
kahin zameen to kahin aasman nahin milta...

cooljat
February 23rd, 2007, 11:41 AM
Bhai Mahender very gud reading :)

Btw I do wonder all the time why do ppl always wish like gud luck, best of luck why dont they say gud hard work ballh ballah!!

its that simple....hard work & Luck both goes hand in hand....kinda couplementry thing....intereleated!!

I've heaps of example where ppl get success without any much hard work while some ppl struggle their whole life but dont get enough success!!

but still we cant criticise luck...some ppl do have all the luck but without being low we should always work hard cuz still if we dont get expected result atlease we wont have regrets then that we didnt worked hard!!!

rest...geeta ka gyaan pad lo....karam kiye jaa....fal ki ichha mat naa kare...kyunki faal to already fixed hai!!

Rock on!
Jit

netrapalsingh
February 23rd, 2007, 11:59 AM
Bhai Mahender very gud reading :)

Btw I do wonder all the time why do ppl always wish like gud luck, best of luck why dont they say gud hard work ballh ballah!!

its that simple....hard work & Luck both goes hand in hand....kinda couplementry thing....intereleated!!

I've heaps of example where ppl get success without any much hard work while some ppl struggle their whole life but dont get enough success!!

but still we cant criticise luck...some ppl do have all the luck but without being low we should always work hard cuz still if we dont get expected result atlease we wont have regrets then that we didnt worked hard!!!

rest...geeta ka gyaan pad lo....karam kiye jaa....fal ki ichha mat naa kare...kyunki faal to already fixed hai!!

Rock on!
Jit

Bhai jite bat to teree bhee sach bat mera experience kuch alag hee hai ye sahee hai karm karo par kismat ko aap nakar nahee saktee kai aadmee hardwaork kare bhee wo nahee pa sakte jo kisee ko virasat me hee mil jatee hai.

Shataranj ko to dekha hoga aapne isko to insaan ne banayaa hai or insaan hee khelta hai par chalte hai mohare koi ek kadam kam chalta to koi do koi teen ye kismat nahi hai sipaahee isme ladta hai par kya wo hard work karke haathe se jeet sakta hai?

khair meraa manna hai kee kismat or hardwork dono kee apnee apee keemat hai...

netra.....:confused:

MKadwa
February 23rd, 2007, 12:07 PM
Thanks a lot to all of you.

You are right Jit bhai, and Keshu too!!


It depends on person to person, How we think of those wishess!!

vinish1984
February 23rd, 2007, 12:11 PM
hi brothers...
i appreciate tht work and findings on luck.
but my friends i have a few words to say,as i have felt or u can say observed by past experience...
those people who cant prove their ability..find themselves unlucky,
what is luck? its merely an excuse given by weak people to cope up with the frustration or whatever u say it.

i want to say few words for our community...
brothers we are lions....
lion never wait for his dinner...he takes it.
lion never wait for his promotion...he takes it.
so we shouldn't use the words lucky or unlucky coz thts not meant for lions.....

MKadwa
February 23rd, 2007, 12:19 PM
Vinish Ji,

I will appreciate your spirit, and you are right to some extent also!!

I will not say that we should not believe in luck but, What is this, that we are JAT's?. I will prefer to call it as we are lucky here!!. Isn't it?

MKadwa
February 23rd, 2007, 12:22 PM
Both Mahender and Kessu are bang on target in their own way.



Welcome Dev uncle!!

vinish1984
February 23rd, 2007, 12:34 PM
yaar mahender singh tum itna shabashi de rahe ho to....isi baat pe few lines aur arrz karta hu....


:)
no one is born under a bad star....
there are just people who misread the sky......

bls31
February 23rd, 2007, 01:05 PM
yaar mahender singh tum itna shabashi de rahe ho to....isi baat pe few lines aur arrz karta hu....


:)
no one is born under a bad star....
there are just people who misread the sky......

With positive mental attitude one can achieve any thing.

LIFE AND ATTITUDE

Life acts and you react.Life is 10 % what happens to you, and90% how you react to it, you are responsible for all your experiences of life(not in life) you are responsible how you react to what happens to you.

BLS

ritu
February 23rd, 2007, 07:42 PM
no one is born under a bad star....
there are just people who misread the sky......
very good and very true

mukeshkumar007
February 24th, 2007, 01:10 PM
:)
no one is born under a bad star....
there are just people who misread the sky......

bhai yo joke tha kye..mann to ab bhi hansi aa rehi hai yaar...khair yeh doha kaunsi kitab se padh kar aya hai ? :rolleyes: tu yaar yeh aise dohe koi shaba maie mat na de diye nahi bheed gail hojyagi...baghya hi koni chodegi..:D






rest...geeta ka gyaan pad lo....karam kiye jaa....fal ki ichha mat naa kare...kyunki faal to already fixed hai!!

na bhai jit yo thoda sa change hai...Karam karo lakin Fal ko dekh kar... tu har jageh geeta ki baat mat manya kar yaar bawali hai baa...

tomar.iitr
February 24th, 2007, 03:33 PM
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