the search for Mr.Right

[nirmiti]

will greatly appreciate serious inputs...

Very rarely people show their true colours ....they either over estimate themselves ...or hide their inner feelings

watched munna bhai part 1 last week and loved the part where he advises the girl who is going on a blind date in a restaurant ...to observe how the guy treats and behaves with people less fortunate that him ..if he is kind then obviously he is Mr.Right ...if he is obnoxious ...well dump him ...

on the same lines ...my aussie friend mum ...advised me if the man is kind to his mother he is Mr.Right .. but if he lives with his mum ...run away as far away as you can!!!

well in the indian context ...can't really take the second advise..!!

so ...will request any such subtle insights that the members have used as pointers in the selection of their partners ....

[navingulia]

first point 'dont think too hard', jyada sochne se iraade kamjor ho jaate hain

I followed only one point and it has worked beautifully for us. If heis the mr right, you will be very comfortable being with him, in his presence, talking to him, listening to him. Comfort is the thing, you can feel it.

The only thing when I met khushi was like 'how comfortable we were with each other', it was literally like being alone. i mean as comfortable as being alone.

Maybe its becoz we both are very accepting towards each other and infact towards every one.

In recent times i have seen people looking for partners they can show off in terms of looks/money/status. Well, they have a right to but as far as i am concerned it is a pity. I am yet to see one such happy couple.

[cooljat]

Hi! Nirmiti,

Well, I guess one should keep oneself mind open & free from any prejudices....than spend some time observe & if u feel comfortable, getting positive vibes from the person....I guess thats right choice!!

Positive Vibes r crucial aspect!! :) :)

This is what I believe.....hope it helps!!


Rock on
Jit

[navingulia]

Bhai Jite,
Waise tere ar shobhit mai tai ek jana ladki hovai e tai thaari jodi ekdum badhiya jamti. par eeb ke karaan, eeb tai thamnai do dhuundni padaingi
:D:D:D

[cooljat]

Ha!Ha!Ha! bhaisaab aapne to rogg saa kaat diya!!! :eek::eek: :D :D
Waise Bhaisaab yo Veeru-Jai ki joddi jukkar hai!!
We are forever friends.....he's more than a bro to me!!

Aur haan Bhaisaab.....koi meri match ki Jatni ho to bataiyo (5'8"+) ;) :p

Rock on!...
Jit


Bhai Jite,
Waise tere ar shobhit mai tai ek jana ladki hovai e tai thaari jodi ekdum badhiya jamti. par eeb ke karaan, eeb tai thamnai do dhuundni padaingi
:D:D:D

[sunitahooda]

He must respect other girls/ladies and as Naveen said if you feel comfortable means if you are your real self and dont have to think TWICE in doing anything then you got a RIGHT MAN and he should be protective....here i mean not IMPOSING :) and who doesn't differentiate between yours n his RESPECT/ DIGNITY. Who speaks as well as LISTENS to you or if he understands your WSHES without telling....NOTHING LIKE IT ;)

[ssindhu]

well buddy i m mor inspired by rang de basanti. jaise koi bhi desh perfect nahi hota, oose banana padta hai. waisan maafik koi bhi man "right" nahi hota banana padta hai. kilkiiiiiiiiiii

jokes apart i believe (personal view, with no intention 2 advice others 2 test it) that there is nothing "right". wat is right 2dy cn sound wrong 2 u tommorow. a person changes with times and circumstances. i m nt wat i was 5 yrs back. i wont b wat i m 5 yrs later. as d time adds chapters 2 one's life, one achieves mellowness of different shades. so my philosophy is if u feel lov and respect at d same time 4 a fellow just marry. marrying mr. right is a condition. conditions lead 2 compromise later on if nt met and d whole life turns 2 b nuthing bt compromise; and compromise cn give u only umberella no roof. in nut shell lov and respect shud b d criteria, it gives enuf strength to live evn with mr wrong. y seek only right. 1 person cn b right thru out. neither side--boy or girl

[vivekdh]

miss right ke bare me bhi bata koi kade mere jise bhole bhale chore kaa nash ho jaa :D:D

[ssindhu]

He must respect other girls/ladies and as Naveen said if you feel comfortable means if you are your real self and dont have to think TWICE in doing anything then you got a RIGHT MAN and he should be protective....here i mean not IMPOSING :) and who doesn't differentiate between yours n his RESPECT/ DIGNITY. Who speaks as well as LISTENS to you or if he understands your WSHES without telling....NOTHING LIKE IT ;)
sunita e bina bataaye koi na samjhta jiji. gone r d dys whn ppl had time 2 sit nad brood or analyse. nobody's intuition is reliable thse dys and i dnt blame ppl 4 tht since who has time 2 ponder with dilligence over anything in such running-against-time life. jiji tanne main janu su ja maare comment kar diya. nvr take such risk. expressionism is still d best art. abstract art is meant 4 few insanes.

[sunitahooda]

Vivek Ladies first:D

[vivekdh]

wohi to main bhi keh raha hu ki ladies first, Miss Right ki baat karo pehle Mr. Right to mere barge kahi honge ......:D:D

[sunitahooda]

Na mai to iss baat pai kahu hoon ki hum to pehley bholi-bhali chhoriyan ka naas karwa lengey....tu bachya reh:p;)
miss right ke bare me bhi bata koi kade mere jise bhole bhale chore kaa nash ho jaa :D:D

[vivekdh]

thik se ji naa manno to ker lo nash choriyan kaa pehla per 1 ne to bacha liyo kade sarra ka bhya ho jhya urr Mr. Right hannde unke balkan ne kahani sunata :)

[sunitahooda]

Jai ek bacha bhi lee tai tere tai byah karwa kai hojaga KHADDA NAAS....yo tai ho kai rehga....bakri ki maa kad taayi khair manaavegi:D tu kalli manna maane....koye tai kittey tere naam ki bi paida holi sai:p
thik se ji naa manno to ker lo nash choriyan kaa pehla per 1 ne to bacha liyo kade sarra ka bhya ho jhya urr Mr. Right hannde unke balkan ne kahani sunata :)

[vivekdh]

nu or bata do kit sik hoi hai paida ....:)

[sunitahooda]

Nyu bera laagety ki saath Naayi aapke kivadd khuddka dega....:D:p;) aaj tai raaji rehga...khyalon mein:D
nu or bata do kit sik hoi hai paida ....:)

[shweta123]

will greatly appreciate serious inputs...

Very rarely people show their true colours ....they either over estimate themselves ...or hide their inner feelings

watched munna bhai part 1 last week and loved the part where he advises the girl who is going on a blind date in a restaurant ...to observe how the guy treats and behaves with people less fortunate that him ..if he is kind then obviously he is Mr.Right ...if he is obnoxious ...well dump him ...

on the same lines ...my aussie friend mum ...advised me if the man is kind to his mother he is Mr.Right .. but if he lives with his mum ...run away as far away as you can!!!

well in the indian context ...can't really take the second advise..!!

so ...will request any such subtle insights that the members have used as pointers in the selection of their partners ....


Well, its true, when it comes to the situation that one knows that he or she is being judged & if the judgment is favorable then he will be bestowed with a ‘shaadi ka laddoo’ :p then he will surely put his best foot forward & try projecting himself as someone really nice to be with! All the good things will be projected distinctively and even the dark ones are clothed in a good packet! ;) But, basic instincts of a person cant live under this cover of shelter for quite long ! So, it depends on how much time u have at ur disposal to arrive at the judgement. Any person's true character can also be judged by his body language, his attitude, mannerism & a lots more which comprise a whole set of personality! So, if one can read these things then he will surely get some signs as to the true colour of the person, unless the person is just an expert at covering !! :rolleyes:

[vivekdh]

fer to ho liya bhya je itna sochne lage to ....

[vivekdh]

sabse badiya tarika naveen bahisaab kaa hai comfort feel karo to sab right hai

[sunitahooda]

When i found Ravinder Dahiya reading this thread....cudn't stop myself from inviting him to post....n he replied ke mai to MISS RIGHT hi tohunga....:D;) SO guys STATUTORY WARNING-Make necessary changes in topic while you do a customised search for respective partners:D!!!!

[nirmiti]

Thanks for the response so far ladies and gentlemen ...

Have realised that even guys are in a dilema when selecting their partners so would request inputs on that front as well ..

on a lighter note .....apparently my grandfather was keen to see his wife before getting married ...so he tried many times hiding behind trees, scouting around her house ..hoping to catch a glimpse of her ...but no luck ...

when finally the d day arrived ....her ghagra slipped just enough for her feet to be exposed ...well that was it for him ....my father claimed that grandpa was smitten ....inspite of the hard laborious work done by his bride ...she had the most beautiful and soft feet ..obviously he must have felt that if a girl had beautiful feet ..she would be beautiful too....(guess he was not dissapointed ..) that was that generation ...where only the sight of feet was enough..;)

nowadays ...it is a different ball game alltogether..

[trueblueindian]

well i would like to give a new dimension to this thread by sort of re naming the thread from Mr. right ..... RIGHT / PERFECT PArtner


as according to me the basics principals of a relationship do not change might as well it is for a man or a lady ... both need to have tolerence and yess if there is trust and commitment level at its best nothing like it..

a very worth point on the same issue is that if at the START POINT of a particular relationship the TRUTH and TRUST factor is given priority from both ends it is going to last lifetime ...

rest destiny is the mother of all thoughts and fates .. my take HEAD TAIL KARO DIMAAG ARR TAMMME BACHAO :confused::eek::rolleyes::p

[satyakarwasra]

The most common characteristics people want in their partners include honesty, intelligence, sense of humor, openness to new ideas, stability, communication, common hobbies and interests, and willingness to work on the relationship to make it succeed.

Though men and women might seek similar traits in a partner, research has demonstrated that each individual focuses on different qualities. Men typically want a relationship that allows autonomy, while women look for a sense of connection.

[navingulia]

I always say
1. 'it is not the rightness or wrongness of a decision but the sincerity with which a decision is made that is important'
2. 'Jyada sochne se koi bhi iraada kamzor ho jaata hai'

if you have little acceptance, you cant survive with any other human. These days people hurry out of relationships/friendships, which shows the acceptance/tolerance/understanding is pretty low.

[deepakchoudhry]

will greatly appreciate serious inputs...

Very rarely people show their true colours ....they either over estimate themselves ...or hide their inner feelings

watched munna bhai part 1 last week and loved the part where he advises the girl who is going on a blind date in a restaurant ...to observe how the guy treats and behaves with people less fortunate that him ..if he is kind then obviously he is Mr.Right ...if he is obnoxious ...well dump him ...

on the same lines ...my aussie friend mum ...advised me if the man is kind to his mother he is Mr.Right .. but if he lives with his mum ...run away as far away as you can!!!

well in the indian context ...can't really take the second advise..!!

so ...will request any such subtle insights that the members have used as pointers in the selection of their partners ....

Nimriti....Before you go on this search become Miss right yourself (and I'm not suggesting you aren't) as like attracts like. :)
Mr Right will surely appear.

And dont take romance shown in Bollywood films too seriously.

All the best.

[ritu]

there r not any rules to follow aur education to know how to recognize ur mr right.believe me u will know it the moment u meet that person.he does not have to be like u.opposites attract more.ur instinct will tell u .and if u r in dilemma then definately that person is not the mr right for u.

[gaganjat]

Mr. Right (wright or watever) has left India after finishing his contract with Indian cricket control board.
He is still alive u can search him !

[dreamer]

He must respect other girls/ladies and as Naveen said if you feel comfortable means if you are your real self and dont have to think TWICE in doing anything then you got a RIGHT MAN and he should be protective....here i mean not IMPOSING :) and who doesn't differentiate between yours n his RESPECT/ DIGNITY. Who speaks as well as LISTENS to you or if he understands your WSHES without telling....NOTHING LIKE IT ;)


Respect other gals (matlab or kisai kaani na dekhai ... :p)
Protective matlab Dhisum dhisum
Speaks as well as listens ka ke matlab dono kaam ek saath kis trah ho sakai sain .....


Jokes apart .... Agreed with you as well as with Seema Sindhu's As time and circumstannces matter .. it really matters ...So might be in the future the things may get wrong which were right initially :cool:

[ssindhu]

Mr. Right (wright or watever) has left India after finishing his contract with Indian cricket control board.
He is still alive u can search him !
ha ha and tht mr. wright was a most wrong person we had.

[Maniisha]

According to me the very concept of Mr. Right is jst another fad bcoz most of the lives v spend dreaming v need to do this with life .....do that with life.Similarly we also spent our good part of youth dreaming that we want to spent our life with the man/woman with so and so qualities. Even if we succeed in finding such man or woman to spend our lives at the end of those days we find that our very concept of Mr Right or to say Right itself has changed. So in my opinion there is nothing as Mr. Right rather i would vouch for the point try to accept others for what they are for rather than trying to find out what they are not...:)

[anilsinghd]

as like attracts like. :)



Sorry bro but maine to padha tha ki like repels like :eek::confused:

for example :

like charges repel each other :p

like poles repel eaah other !:o


matlab meri physics ki knowledege galat hai ? :D:D

[desijat]

Aur haan Bhaisaab.....koi meri match ki Jatni ho to bataiyo (5'8"+) ;) :p

Rock on!...
Jit

lol :pnyu to likh deta bhai ak waa bhi rock onn kare :p:p

[desijat]

What's the fun in life if everything/everyone is right n perfect?

Get whatever u are getting and make it right and perfect... wouldn't life be more interesting and worth living then ...

Doesn't our elders come from the same school of thought where they believe in getting a guy/girl of equal status, qualification to arrange marriages and ignore their personality traits, compatibility factors etc? And surprisingly arranged marriages are said to be more successful than love marriages .. . . .

P.S. -
Arranged marriage - where 2 people try to make each other Mr./Ms. Right
Love Marriage - Where people assumingly marry Mr. or Ms. Right

[anilsinghd]

miss right ke bare me bhi bata koi kade mere jise bhole bhale chore kaa nash ho jaa :D:D


main bhi kuch ias ahi soch raha :o:p:o:p:D:o:p:o

[anilsinghd]

Any person's true character can also be judged by his body language, his attitude, mannerism & a lots more which comprise a whole set of personality! So, if one can read these things then he will surely get some signs as to the true colour of the person, unless the person is just an expert at covering !! :rolleyes:




maka Shweta ji aur kimai reh gaya ho to woh bhi likh do:eek:

body language , attitude , mannerism and lots more ar fer bhi nyun keh rahe ki cahracter judge kar rahe ! fer reh bhi key gaya !:D
approximation ki jaroorat na sai itna guess kar liya to exact fit hi ho gaya :p

[anilsinghd]

if you have little acceptance, you cant survive with any other human.


Navin bhai survival ki baat na ho rahi ! :eek::confused: byaah ki ho rahi !!:D

aapka to ho gaya aur aap khushi ji ke saath khush hain ar ibb isi genral statements de ke behkaan laag rahe humein :mad::o
karwaaoge kaam mhaara , laag rahya mujhe :p:D


On a serious note , i guess Navin bhai statements shows a lot more generalization that he meant ( my guess ) !

Even i have always believed that there is nothing like a "THE" match !
there are lots of persons with whom u can match very aptly :)

[devdahiya]

will greatly appreciate serious inputs...

Very rarely people show their true colours ....they either over estimate themselves ...or hide their inner feelings

watched munna bhai part 1 last week and loved the part where he advises the girl who is going on a blind date in a restaurant ...to observe how the guy treats and behaves with people less fortunate that him ..if he is kind then obviously he is Mr.Right ...if he is obnoxious ...well dump him ...

on the same lines ...my aussie friend mum ...advised me if the man is kind to his mother he is Mr.Right .. but if he lives with his mum ...run away as far away as you can!!!

well in the indian context ...can't really take the second advise..!!

so ...will request any such subtle insights that the members have used as pointers in the selection of their partners ....





There are no fundamental rules for sure shot success of marriage.It is the question of shedding inhibitions,Take some-give some,Sacrifice a lot for each other,Love the person you once selected[irrespective of who he/she might be],Allow each other space to grow as an indvidual also,Respect each other's point of view and the foremost Show committment[both sides]. Ferr chahe gandde nalle mei raho......Life will rock.

[poonam]

Ferr chahe gandde nalle mei raho......Life will rock.

Heheehehheheehhe........:D:D:D

[anilsinghd]

According to me the very concept of Mr. Right is jst another fad bcoz most of the lives v spend dreaming v need to do this with life .....do that with life.Similarly we also spent our good part of youth dreaming that we want to spent our life with the man/woman with so and so qualities. Even if we succeed in finding such man or woman to spend our lives at the end of those days we find that our very concept of Mr Right or to say Right itself has changed. So in my opinion there is nothing as Mr. Right rather i would vouch for the point try to accept others for what they are for rather than trying to find out what they are not...



Kya baat hai mansiha ji :p:D dhoomma saa thaa diya !!!:D

But manisha dont you believe one cannot accep anyone ??
There has to be some least traits a man should possess for you to really accept her !
So the concept of MR. Right is not that vague so to say as you have really shown by your post !:) Might be it is your individualistic perception , but on a general sense , yes one need to make clear cut mind on what kind of a person he/she wants to spend his/her life with !:)

My personal opinion on this is that it is very importnat to know yourself well before really thinking about a mr. or miss right !
If u r a genius in mind , then on a complementary sense one must go for a emotional person as a match !
There are lots of things like ego issues , comfortability and complimentariness to look at !

I am surely not suggesting that one must go for a total complimentary match because one must also look at that when u two sit together and talk , there cannot be a huge difference of mental level and ability ! :) Ideas must synchronise !
And of course Seema ji hit it right that it is also situation based ! :) With time people change , their philosophies change so one has to be having adaptive skills and qualities !

I personally would go for some having common sense :D , someone who is charming ( to me charming and beautiful are different !) , caring , loving , a lil exuberant , one who knows hows to laugh , one who knows how to love and get loved ( a very important quality ) and one who respect a lil traditionilism
and culture ! A soft one at heart !

I am ready to pamper her a lot :D I just love doing that !:)

[Maniisha]

Kya baat hai mansiha ji :p:D dhoomma saa thaa diya !!!:D

But manisha dont you believe one cannot accep anyone ??
There has to be some least traits a man should possess for you to really accept her !
So the concept of MR. Right is not that vague so to say as you have really shown by your post !:) Might be it is your individualistic perception , but on a general sense , yes one need to make clear cut mind on what kind of a person he/she wants to spend his/her life with !:)


Ofcourse everyone lives with certain perceptions but over ambitions and over perceptions kill the relationship. Without perception no one can live but the over perception or over ambition of Mr. Right or Miss right is not my type thats wat i said....:)

[Maniisha]

Kya baat hai mansiha ji :p:D dhoomma saa thaa diya !!!:D




Or mera naam mansiha nahi hai ... Maniisha hai....:p:p:D

[anilsinghd]

Or mera naam mansiha nahi hai ... Maniisha hai....:p:D


aapne hi to kaha upar abhi ki over perception na hona chahiye !

sirf percieve karo mansiha ko maniisha :D:p

over perceive na karo :D

hai na mansiha ji ?:p:p:o

[keshavdahiya]

aapne hi to kaha upar abhi ki over perception na hona chahiye !

sirf percieve karo mansiha ko maniisha :D:p

over perceive na karo :D

hai na mansiha ji ?:p:p:o



aur aapka naam hum ANIL ke bahaye A-Nil percive karein to kanahiya ji..;):D:p

[desijat]

aur aapka naam hum ANIL ke bahaye A-Nil percive karein to kanahiya ji..;):D:p

A pleasent surprise to see you here bro

[anilsinghd]

aur aapka naam hum ANIL ke bahaye A-Nil percive karein to kanahiya ji..;):p


maka kassai janamdin aale din tai baksh deta :confused::mad::D

chal koi na ! dekh tu A-Nil key kimai ho perceive kar le !


mera byaah karaan ka , ohh sorry , i mean ki mere taain Miss Right dhoondan ka theka to tune hi le rakha hai ;):p:D:D:D

[anilsinghd]

A pleasent surprise to see you here bro


meri baat kar raha key vikas :o:o:D:D


ya is keshav kassai ki ??? :p:confused:

[keshavdahiya]

maka kassai janamdin aale din tai baksh deta :confused::mad::D

chal koi na ! dekh tu A-Nil key kimai ho perceive kar le !


mera byaah karaan ka , ohh sorry , i mean ki mere taain Miss Right dhoondan ka theka to tune hi le rakha hai ;):p:D:D:D

hahahaa jibbe tu iis thread mein itne zor shorr sei bhagg len laag rehya hai......Miss rite tohan laaag rehya hai ke aare......

lekin bandhu yeh to ladies ke liye hai...and jatnis are looking for Mr Rite.....nyu karr tu bhi shuru karr le ek nayi thread.........search for Miss Right

[keshavdahiya]

A pleasent surprise to see you here bro

hehehe nahi yaar aise to koi baat nahi hai.........I am frequent visitor here...I mite be dumbstuck at times but i am observing you people involaved here...so dedicated......in various serious discussions........;):p


terrra janamdin purra maach maach ke manaya hai kaal to tanne ;).....daiki munh bhi bhaar ke photu khinchwaa rehya tha.....kiss chorri ne laa diya tere munh pei cake...humne bhi batta dei....hein hein..??

[anilsinghd]

hahahaa jibbe tu iis thread mein itne zor shorr sei bhagg len laag rehya hai......Miss rite tohan laaag rehya hai ke aare......

lekin bandhu yeh to ladies ke liye hai...and jatnis are looking for Mr Rite.....nyu karr tu bhi shuru karr le ek nayi thread.........search for Miss Right


arai kassai poora taaga tai padh leta ! :mad:

haade donuan ki baat ho rahi !:)

ar main na dhoondta kimai ho haade ! :o :o

bharosa sai tere pe :D:p

[keshavdahiya]

arai kassai poora taaga tai padh leta ! :mad:

haade donuan ki baat ho rahi !:)

ar main na dhoondta kimai ho haade ! :o :o

bharosa sai tere pe :D:p

hahaha woh to manne berra hai yu kaam manne hi karna hai terra...lekin yaar iiib itni fursaat konya ke mein purra thread paadhun......mere naam ka tu hi paadh liye.......er koi bhull chuuk maaf kariye bhai......chilll

[anilsinghd]

hahaha woh to manne berra hai yu kaam manne hi karna hai terra...lekin yaar iiib itni fursaat konya ke mein purra thread paadhun......mere naam ka tu hi paadh liye.......er koi bhull chuuk maaf kariye bhai......chilll


theak sai bhai !:) maafi ki baat kit tai aagi ??:)

tere naam ka bhi main hi padh loonga ! manne ghani jaroorat sai ! :o:o:p