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Samarkadian
August 5th, 2009, 02:23 PM
Folks, this may sound weird that unconditional love of mother depends facial beauty of their child. Have a look at research report from Harvard Science:-


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Women are more likely than men to reject unattractive-looking babies, according to a study by researchers at Harvard-affiliated McLean Hospital, possibly reflecting an evolutionary-derived need for diverting limited resources towards the nurturing of healthy offspring. The findings also challenge the idea of unconditional maternal love.

“Our study shows how beauty can affect parental attitudes,” said Igor Elman, senior author of the research, director of the Clinical Psychopathology Laboratory at McLean Hospital, and associate professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. “It shows women are more invested in raising healthy babies and that they are more prone to reject unattractive kids.”


The research, published in the journal PLoS ONE, sought to determine whether aesthetic appearance affects how hard that adults are willing to work in order to watch pictures of babies.

Subjects, including 13 healthy men and 14 healthy women, were shown photos of 80 infants, including 50 normal ones and 30 who had abnormal facial features, including such abnormalities as cleft palates, skin disorders, Down syndrome, and others.

Each photo was set to remain on screen for four seconds, but subjects could extend or shorten the viewing time of each photo by pressing certain computer keys. A second part of the experiment asked the subjects to rate the attractiveness of each infant on a numerical scale.

The study found that men and women expended a similar amount of effort – quantified by the number of key presses made to keep photos up on the screen – to extend the viewing time of the normal babies. At the same time, the attractiveness ratings given by men for these normal babies were significantly lower than those given by the women. However, when it came to the photos of abnormal babies, women made a greater effort to avoid looking at them, compared with men. Still, the women rated abnormal faces as unattractive as did men.

The differences between men and women in motivational effort to extend or shorten the viewing time of abnormal-looking babies “may reflect an evolutionary-derived need for diversion of limited resources to the nurturance of healthy offspring,” the paper concludes.

The findings question the concept of unconditional parental love, at least among women. “What our results suggest is that this is determined by facial attractiveness,” said Rinah Yamamoto, first author and a research fellow in psychiatry. “Women may be more sensitized to aesthetic defects and may be more prone to reject unattractive kids. Men do not appear to be as motivated. They didn’t expend the same effort.”

The study noted that work with abandoned and neglected children firmly links their abnormal appearance to maltreatment by caregivers. One study, done in Israel, found that 70 percent of children abandoned by their parents had a conspicuous flaw in their appearance even though those flaws were not life-threatening nor did they affect the children’s intellectual development.

“This may be to some extent because adults are unconsciously motivated to care for infants with healthy facial features, indicating fitness for survival and to exclude the least fit,” the paper said.

“The abandonment and neglect data along with our findings may thus challenge the commonly held view of unconditional maternal love and acceptance of the offspring,” it said. “If mother’s love is not unconditional, what is the condition? The results provide indirect support for ... the idea that babies’ aesthetic appearance has a motivating influence on the adults’ caretaking behavior.”


The paper suggests that the findings may have clinical implications in terms of predicting potential for abuse and neglect of children.

Elman said that because the study involved a small number of subjects it must be replicated in larger follow-up studies. Future studies will also involve brain scans of subjects in order to try to pinpoint how men’s and women’s brains may be functioning differently while they view the images and make their choices for extending or shortening the time they are looking at the images.

http://www.harvardscience.harvard.edu/culture-society/articles/study-women-more-likely-men-reject-unattractive-babies


Whats your say?

spdeshwal
August 5th, 2009, 03:11 PM
Dear Samar

I don't really agree with the findings. I am sure the findings would be entirely different if the participants were to witness the following:

a) If the participant were probed about their own child with deformed facial features.
b) If the participant have one or more children with some deformity and were asked to participate and were shown random pictures, other than their own.

Other study about Israel also lacks solid ground.
It depends, what environment the abandoned kids come from and at what age they were separated from parents.

I strongly believe that a mother would have unconditional love for her child in spite of their unattractive facial features. A mother might have a continuous anxiety for the fear of society remain unfair and unkind to her child at any stage in their lives.


Sateypal

malikdeepak1
August 5th, 2009, 03:21 PM
A small quote defines it all " Apna balak sabne chaand laagya kare":)

vijay
August 5th, 2009, 10:16 PM
If we just look upon some ugly or abnormal kids, obviously most of us will just move ahead, some of us with a bad face in disgrace while some other with a sigh or pity. It is not abnormal to dislike other people's ugly kids. People can take pity on these kids or can help them but loving them is totally a different thing. That's why anybody can't become a social worker. There are really rare people who can accept and love such kids. I don't see any abnormality in the above study/research.

This study also raise another question:
If people dislike ugly/abnormal kids then what about their own kids?

Answer to this query also lies in the study/research. Yes they have their favorite ones in their own family too. The reason for being or having favorites might differ from person to person but the facts always present there i.e. indifference. Every parent ( mother/father) have his/her own favorite kid and favors with all their worth. This doesn't means that they always hate the other kid/kids but they always prefer the choosen one. Most of the time this favor thing remains within decent limits so that other kids don't gets affected while some other times other kids feels the heat drastically. In decent scenario, only the affected kid feel not liked as compared to the favorite kid. In worst case, the affectd kid feels neglected and almost abandoned resulting in a critical change of mindset about the family ( towards the sibling or the respective parent or whole family ). Most important part of this situation is that neither the favorite kid nor the parents feels that indifference is taking place among the family.

As already said most of the time it remains within the limits so that the affected kid feels some times while other times doesn't. But the indifference is always there.

Just imagine about three close friends and try it. Everyone of the three have his own favorite among the other two. One can't like two people symmetrically and there will be always a slightest favor. Whenever they have to choose either one of them, generally, they don't have to brainstrom to choose their favorite ones. Same implies in the family, within the family and within the siblings.

To conclude, Everyone have his/her own favorites and so does the mother or parents.

rajivsp
August 5th, 2009, 10:27 PM
Harvard Science - can you believe - every after 20 years they just discard their own theory. What is right today is not be true tomorrow.

what is the definition of beauty.

Jab gadhi pe dil aaya tho pari kya hai - ek purani kahavat hai yahan.

vijay
August 5th, 2009, 10:37 PM
Harvard Science - can you believe - every after 20 years they just discard their own theory. What is right today is not be true tomorrow.

what is the definition of beauty.


Newton proposed some Laws of Physics and that were considered Universally true, calculated, practical and tested. Approx after 300 years a guy named Albert Einstein came and proved most of his theories wrong and proposed some new ones which are AGAIN Universally TRUE. Who knows about the future ?

When Physics theories, which are considered as Universal, can be proved wrong after some time then human nature which is much more flexible and unpredictable is bound to change every now and then. :)

poonam
August 5th, 2009, 10:51 PM
Interesting, how you interpret your results. There could be million explanations of one obervation.

I read the entire article and this is B###$$$$$.

If you look at the results, its only the time of looking at the abnormal babies which is different (shorter in women). This can be interpreted in number of ways, may be women heart is more sensitive and cannot see anyone in pain...blah blah..instead of what the group has concluded. The rating of attractivenes was not differet between the two gender groups, mind you which is very important point!!!!

MOreover, very small sample size AND statistical analysis can give you dfferent results if you use different tests...so please dont overrate this particular research and I would just say its...gar%%ge!!!
Wow...people do manage to publish...:o

amritkharb
August 6th, 2009, 12:19 AM
yeh jo budsoorat child hae na, yeh sirf face se badsoorat na balki bahut baari dil se bhi acche na nikalte bade hokar.
kaheen unki budsoorati ko dekh kar tanne ghani daya na aa jawae.

sidchhikara
August 6th, 2009, 01:36 AM
Susri Mayawati ki mummy ne yohe kiya hoga.
Bachpan mein khoob joot pade honge Mayawati ke ... jyate aajkal sabka jeena haraam kar rahi se......badla.
As an extrapolation .... all our politicians are satae od baalak.

aryasatyadev
August 6th, 2009, 02:57 AM
In Indian context mother is different than as explained in this artical, I have seen many mothers who are giving unconditional love to their child irrespective of their physical features.

rajivsp
August 6th, 2009, 05:54 AM
Newton proposed some Laws of Physics and that were considered Universally true, calculated, practical and tested. Approx after 300 years a guy named Albert Einstein came and proved most of his theories wrong and proposed some new ones which are AGAIN Universally TRUE. Who knows about the future ?

When Physics theories, which are considered as Universal, can be proved wrong after some time then human nature which is much more flexible and unpredictable is bound to change every now and then. :)
And then Professor Stephen W. Hawking who proved Albert Einstein wrong.