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Samarkadian
January 13th, 2010, 08:37 AM
This tragic and unfortunate news remained unnoticed in hulla-ballo of new year's fog. Nothing new in dowry and murder cases in sub-continent but since dowry and murder has not been heard yet among Jats overseas. This is very much on the lines of infamous Punjab's bride dumped overseas. Both are prominant families of Gurgaon and related to medical profession. First have a look at various News cuttings :-

गुड़गांव के चीफ मेडिकल ऑफिसर की पुत्रवधू नेहा छिकारा के अमेरिका में क्रूज से समुद्र में कूदने के मामले में स्टेट विजिलेंस ब्यूरो बुधवार से अपनी जांच को शुरू कर देगा। मामला स्टेट विजिलेंस ब्यूरो को सौंपे जाने के संबंध में गुड़गांव पुलिस को भी निर्देश मिल चुके हैं। बुधवार को स्टेट विजिलेंस ब्यूरो के अधिकारी गुड़गांव में पहुंचेंगे और अब तक की गई जांच के दस्तावेज हासिल करेंगे।




गुड़गांव के सीएमओ एसएस दलाल के बेटे अंकित दलाल की पत्नी नेहा छिकारा ने 31 दिसम्बर को अमेरिका के बहामास में एक करैबियन क्रूज से समुद्र में छलांग लगा दी थी। इसके बाद गुड़गांव के सेक्टर 17 में रहने वाले नेहा के पिता सुरेश छिकारा ने पुलिस में नेहा के ससुर, पति व सास सहित चार लोगों के खिलाफ शिकायत दी थी जिसमें पुलिस ने भी उक्त चारों के खिलाफ दहेज प्रताड़ना व आत्महत्या के लिए मजबूर करने का मामला दर्ज कर लिया था।




इसके बाद भी आरोपियों को गिरफ्तार नहीं किए जाने पर नेहा छिकारा के परिजनों ने पुलिस पर भी मिलीभगत के आरोप लगाए और सीबीआई जांच की मांग की। ऐसे में पहले ही डीजीपी राठौर मामले में उलझे हरियाणा के पुलिस विभाग ने इस मामले की जांच अपने स्टेट विजिलेंस ब्यूरो को सौंप दी है। इस संबंध में सोमवार को गुड़गांव पुलिस के पास अपनी अब तक की जांच स्टेट विजिलेंस ब्यूरो को सौंप देने के निर्देश दिए गए हैं। पुलिस कमिश्नर एसएस देशवाल के मुताबिक संभवत: बुधवार को टीम आएगी, जिसे अब तक की जांच के दस्तावेज सौंप दिए जाएंगे।

http://www.bhaskar.com/2010/01/13/100113042455_neha_chikara.html

There are other news as well at:
http://www.hindustantimes.com/rssfeed/northindia/Neha-Chhikara-s-father-wants-probe-by-ind-agency-CBI/Article1-494946.aspx

http://www.helpfindthemissing.org/forum/showthread.php?p=709502#post709502

http://www.marinebuzz.com/2010/01/03/weekend-view-mystery-behind-the-death-of-neha-chhikara-at-sea/

I would not like to play a detective here. We often discuss with impeccable rationals here that education is a panacea for a community's progress. In the above mentioned case, it really fails the claim. What you guys have a say?

rajkphogat
January 13th, 2010, 09:07 AM
This tragic and unfortunate news remained unnoticed in hulla-ballo of new year's fog. Nothing new in dowry and murder cases in sub-continent but since dowry and murder has not been heard yet among Jats overseas. This is very much on the lines of infamous Punjab's bride dumped overseas. Both are prominant families of Gurgaon and related to medical profession. First have a look at various News cuttings :-

गुड़गांव के चीफ मेडिकल ऑफिसर की पुत्रवधू नेहा छिकारा के अमेरिका में क्रूज से समुद्र में कूदने के मामले में स्टेट विजिलेंस ब्यूरो बुधवार से अपनी जांच को शुरू कर देगा। मामला स्टेट विजिलेंस ब्यूरो को सौंपे जाने के संबंध में गुड़गांव पुलिस को भी निर्देश मिल चुके हैं। बुधवार को स्टेट विजिलेंस ब्यूरो के अधिकारी गुड़गांव में पहुंचेंगे और अब तक की गई जांच के दस्तावेज हासिल करेंगे।




गुड़गांव के सीएमओ एसएस दलाल के बेटे अंकित दलाल की पत्नी नेहा छिकारा ने 31 दिसम्बर को अमेरिका के बहामास में एक करैबियन क्रूज से समुद्र में छलांग लगा दी थी। इसके बाद गुड़गांव के सेक्टर 17 में रहने वाले नेहा के पिता सुरेश छिकारा ने पुलिस में नेहा के ससुर, पति व सास सहित चार लोगों के खिलाफ शिकायत दी थी जिसमें पुलिस ने भी उक्त चारों के खिलाफ दहेज प्रताड़ना व आत्महत्या के लिए मजबूर करने का मामला दर्ज कर लिया था।




इसके बाद भी आरोपियों को गिरफ्तार नहीं किए जाने पर नेहा छिकारा के परिजनों ने पुलिस पर भी मिलीभगत के आरोप लगाए और सीबीआई जांच की मांग की। ऐसे में पहले ही डीजीपी राठौर मामले में उलझे हरियाणा के पुलिस विभाग ने इस मामले की जांच अपने स्टेट विजिलेंस ब्यूरो को सौंप दी है। इस संबंध में सोमवार को गुड़गांव पुलिस के पास अपनी अब तक की जांच स्टेट विजिलेंस ब्यूरो को सौंप देने के निर्देश दिए गए हैं। पुलिस कमिश्नर एसएस देशवाल के मुताबिक संभवत: बुधवार को टीम आएगी, जिसे अब तक की जांच के दस्तावेज सौंप दिए जाएंगे।

http://www.bhaskar.com/2010/01/13/100113042455_neha_chikara.html

There are other news as well at:
http://www.hindustantimes.com/rssfeed/northindia/Neha-Chhikara-s-father-wants-probe-by-ind-agency-CBI/Article1-494946.aspx

http://www.helpfindthemissing.org/forum/showthread.php?p=709502#post709502

http://www.marinebuzz.com/2010/01/03/weekend-view-mystery-behind-the-death-of-neha-chhikara-at-sea/

I would not like to play a detective here. We often discuss with impeccable rationals here that education is a panacea for a community's progress. In the above mentioned case, it really fails the claim. What you guys have a say?


Bakswaas

She was an air hostess well educated & then she took such an extreme step (her father given 50 lacs cash in dowry- Kisey garib aadmi ne de e te chhori ne Rani ki dhal rakhey e)
Jo jee nahi saktey unke barey me kya kahen, Tawli margi thik se na te balak hoya pachhe balak aur biraan howein e.

Apney aadmi ke dharey e do chaar appe thik ho ja e, er marna tha te usney maar ki marey e kalesh kaat ki

My sympathy with the aggrieved family. loss only occured to the parents no one else's. Lekin ladki ne bewkoofi ka kaam kiya.

amans
January 13th, 2010, 09:37 AM
Very sad. When people cannot get along in a marriage, they should just separate. There is no need to kill yourself. Amazing, women in India are still getting harassed for dowry.
After the incidents, it is the same thing: he said, she said, and in-laws cooking up things. No shame. The one who is gone will never come back. Education does little for character!
Eternal India!
Some things never change.

jitendershooda
January 13th, 2010, 09:47 AM
I would not like to play a detective here. We often discuss with impeccable rationals here that education is a panacea for a community's progress. In the above mentioned case, it really fails the claim. What you guys have a say?

Dowry .... it is a tool that is used now-a-days by the parents of bride for harrasment of the in-law family. Here also I am not sure if dowry is the true reason behind it. Also whether suicide of murder?

In present day scenerio, education provides you ability to earn good but not behave good. I feel ethics/behaviour are different from being educated. Merely having degrees and earning good is no criteria that they will behave and act good too. If this would be the case then system would have been very nice. We might have crores of degree holders but still the same behaviour when comes to public dealing, on roads etc.

singhabhimanyu
January 13th, 2010, 09:59 AM
ONE life wasted.

What you guys have a say?

Fateh
January 13th, 2010, 02:22 PM
Dowry .... it is a tool that is used now-a-days by the parents of bride for harrasment of the in-law family. Here also I am not sure if dowry is the true reason behind it. Also whether suicide of murder?

In present day scenerio, education provides you ability to earn good but not behave good. I feel ethics/behaviour are different from being educated. Merely having degrees and earning good is no criteria that they will behave and act good too. If this would be the case then system would have been very nice. We might have crores of degree holders but still the same behaviour when comes to public dealing, on roads etc.

Very sad for both the families & our community. I 100% agree with Jitender on education. obtaining degrees & knowing/learning some thing is not complete education. Change in behaviour is called education, what ever one learn from various sources & adops that learning into his/her thinking & action, than only such person can be called an educated.

dkumars
January 13th, 2010, 02:47 PM
This tragic and unfortunate news remained unnoticed in hulla-ballo of new year's fog. Nothing new in dowry and murder cases in sub-continent but since dowry and murder has not been heard yet among Jats overseas. This is very much on the lines of infamous Punjab's bride dumped overseas. Both are prominant families of Gurgaon and related to medical profession. First have a look at various News cuttings :-

गुड़गांव के चीफ मेडिकल ऑफिसर की पुत्रवधू नेहा छिकारा के अमेरिका में क्रूज से समुद्र में कूदने के मामले में स्टेट विजिलेंस ब्यूरो बुधवार से अपनी जांच को शुरू कर देगा। मामला स्टेट विजिलेंस ब्यूरो को सौंपे जाने के संबंध में गुड़गांव पुलिस को भी निर्देश मिल चुके हैं। बुधवार को स्टेट विजिलेंस ब्यूरो के अधिकारी गुड़गांव में पहुंचेंगे और अब तक की गई जांच के दस्तावेज हासिल करेंगे।




गुड़गांव के सीएमओ एसएस दलाल के बेटे अंकित दलाल की पत्नी नेहा छिकारा ने 31 दिसम्बर को अमेरिका के बहामास में एक करैबियन क्रूज से समुद्र में छलांग लगा दी थी। इसके बाद गुड़गांव के सेक्टर 17 में रहने वाले नेहा के पिता सुरेश छिकारा ने पुलिस में नेहा के ससुर, पति व सास सहित चार लोगों के खिलाफ शिकायत दी थी जिसमें पुलिस ने भी उक्त चारों के खिलाफ दहेज प्रताड़ना व आत्महत्या के लिए मजबूर करने का मामला दर्ज कर लिया था।




इसके बाद भी आरोपियों को गिरफ्तार नहीं किए जाने पर नेहा छिकारा के परिजनों ने पुलिस पर भी मिलीभगत के आरोप लगाए और सीबीआई जांच की मांग की। ऐसे में पहले ही डीजीपी राठौर मामले में उलझे हरियाणा के पुलिस विभाग ने इस मामले की जांच अपने स्टेट विजिलेंस ब्यूरो को सौंप दी है। इस संबंध में सोमवार को गुड़गांव पुलिस के पास अपनी अब तक की जांच स्टेट विजिलेंस ब्यूरो को सौंप देने के निर्देश दिए गए हैं। पुलिस कमिश्नर एसएस देशवाल के मुताबिक संभवत: बुधवार को टीम आएगी, जिसे अब तक की जांच के दस्तावेज सौंप दिए जाएंगे।

http://www.bhaskar.com/2010/01/13/100113042455_neha_chikara.html

There are other news as well at:
http://www.hindustantimes.com/rssfeed/northindia/Neha-Chhikara-s-father-wants-probe-by-ind-agency-CBI/Article1-494946.aspx

http://www.helpfindthemissing.org/forum/showthread.php?p=709502#post709502

http://www.marinebuzz.com/2010/01/03/weekend-view-mystery-behind-the-death-of-neha-chhikara-at-sea/

I would not like to play a detective here. We often discuss with impeccable rationals here that education is a panacea for a community's progress. In the above mentioned case, it really fails the claim. What you guys have a say?



I also think that dowry may not be the actual cause behind suicide/murder.

Someone said she was an air hostess so I believe that she knows world well and was a modern gal. Its very difficult to believe that such a modern gal who from Jat community can go for such a bold job can commit suicide easily. Same for dowry issue.

Sum total, dowry is not the real issue. The actual things are still being hidden.

yudhvirmor
January 13th, 2010, 03:29 PM
The wife of a Royal Caribbean Cruise Ship crew member aboard the Monarch of the Seas is reported missing (http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,581712,00.html?test=latestnews). It was initially thought that she fell off the cruise ship (http://cbs4.com/local/Missing.Cruise.Passenger.2.1400001.html); however, it is now being reported that she jumped overboard in the Bahamas. 23 year old Neha Chhikara was reported missing at approximately 12:15 p.m. on Thursday; however, ship surveillance video later showed the passenger jumping overboard (http://www.cruisecritic.co.uk/news/news.cfm?ID=3614) at 4:11 a.m.

Royal Caribbean spokeswoman Cynthia Martinez says the guest was reported missing by her husband. Security camera footage showed the 23-year-old woman going overboard from the 11th deck early that morning.
Martinez said Friday that Bahamian government officials reviewed the footage and determined that the woman jumped overboard.
The ship left Port Canaveral, Fla., on Monday for a five-day cruise through the Bahamas. It’s due to return Saturday.
UPDATE I: Royal Caribbean’s Monarch of the Seas Back in Port, Still no sign of Neha Chhikara (http://www.floridatoday.com/article/20100102/BREAKINGNEWS/100102004/1006/NEWS01/+Monarch++back+at+Port+Canaveral+minus+passenger)

A C-130 aircraft was dispatched Friday afternoon to aid in the search for Neha Chhikara, said Petty Officer 3rd Class Nick Ameen of the Seventh Coast Guard District in Miami. The 23-year-old was reported missing from Royal Caribbean’s Monarch of the Seas at about 2 p.m. Thursday. A helicopter, a jet and a cutter were sent out to look for the woman.
“The search is continuing today, although so far we’ve had no leads,” Ameen said Saturday.
UPDATE II: Family of Neha Chhikara Crying Foul (http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/delhi/Air-hostess-death-at-sea-Kin-cry-foul/articleshow/5406102.cms)
Well this is rather bizarre, the family claims dowry harassment led to incident on New Year’s Eve; couple worked on luxury liner going from Miami to Bahamas.

The family of former air hostess Neha Chhikara, who allegedly committed suicide on January 1, has submitted a written complaint to the Gurgaon police alleging that she had been physically and mentally tortured for dowry by her husband and in-laws. The police are yet to register an FIR. Neha’s father-in-law is the Gurgaon civil surgeon, S S Dalal.
‘She sent SOS before her death’ (http://www.tribuneindia.com/2010/20100103/main4.htm)

Neha, 23, daughter-in-law of Gurgaon Civil Surgeon Dr SS Dalal, got killed under suspicious circumstances on a luxury ship on way from Miami in the USA to Bahamas.
Nearly an hour before her death, Neha had reportedly sent an e-mail to her brother, Anuj Chhikara, a local advocate, complaining about torture by her husband.
In the e-mail, reportedly sent on the afternoon of December 31, 2009, Neha had written that her husband Ankit Dalal, a manager with the Royal Caribbean Cruise “Monarch of Seas”, often used to get impulsive and beat her up without any reason.

UPDATE III: Search Called Off for Cruise Ship Passenger Neha Chhikara in Bahamas (http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,581815,00.html?test=latestnews)


The Coast Guard stopped searching Saturday afternoon for 23-year-old Neha Chhikara. She was reported missing Thursday afternoon from Royal Caribbean’s Monarch of the Seas as the ship headed from Nassau to CocoCay.


I found some information about how things unfolded.. This is for sure that its an suicide.... However, She sent an email to her brother hour before.. This is a critical part.

rajkphogat
January 13th, 2010, 08:42 PM
The wife of a Royal Caribbean Cruise Ship crew member aboard the Monarch of the Seas is reported missing (http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,581712,00.html?test=latestnews). It was initially thought that she fell off the cruise ship (http://cbs4.com/local/Missing.Cruise.Passenger.2.1400001.html); however, it is now being reported that she jumped overboard in the Bahamas. 23 year old Neha Chhikara was reported missing at approximately 12:15 p.m. on Thursday; however, ship surveillance video later showed the passenger jumping overboard (http://www.cruisecritic.co.uk/news/news.cfm?ID=3614) at 4:11 a.m.

Royal Caribbean spokeswoman Cynthia Martinez says the guest was reported missing by her husband. Security camera footage showed the 23-year-old woman going overboard from the 11th deck early that morning.
Martinez said Friday that Bahamian government officials reviewed the footage and determined that the woman jumped overboard.
The ship left Port Canaveral, Fla., on Monday for a five-day cruise through the Bahamas. It’s due to return Saturday.
UPDATE I: Royal Caribbean’s Monarch of the Seas Back in Port, Still no sign of Neha Chhikara (http://www.floridatoday.com/article/20100102/BREAKINGNEWS/100102004/1006/NEWS01/+Monarch++back+at+Port+Canaveral+minus+passenger)

A C-130 aircraft was dispatched Friday afternoon to aid in the search for Neha Chhikara, said Petty Officer 3rd Class Nick Ameen of the Seventh Coast Guard District in Miami. The 23-year-old was reported missing from Royal Caribbean’s Monarch of the Seas at about 2 p.m. Thursday. A helicopter, a jet and a cutter were sent out to look for the woman.
“The search is continuing today, although so far we’ve had no leads,” Ameen said Saturday.
UPDATE II: Family of Neha Chhikara Crying Foul (http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/delhi/Air-hostess-death-at-sea-Kin-cry-foul/articleshow/5406102.cms)
Well this is rather bizarre, the family claims dowry harassment led to incident on New Year’s Eve; couple worked on luxury liner going from Miami to Bahamas.

The family of former air hostess Neha Chhikara, who allegedly committed suicide on January 1, has submitted a written complaint to the Gurgaon police alleging that she had been physically and mentally tortured for dowry by her husband and in-laws. The police are yet to register an FIR. Neha’s father-in-law is the Gurgaon civil surgeon, S S Dalal.
‘She sent SOS before her death’ (http://www.tribuneindia.com/2010/20100103/main4.htm)

Neha, 23, daughter-in-law of Gurgaon Civil Surgeon Dr SS Dalal, got killed under suspicious circumstances on a luxury ship on way from Miami in the USA to Bahamas.
Nearly an hour before her death, Neha had reportedly sent an e-mail to her brother, Anuj Chhikara, a local advocate, complaining about torture by her husband.
In the e-mail, reportedly sent on the afternoon of December 31, 2009, Neha had written that her husband Ankit Dalal, a manager with the Royal Caribbean Cruise “Monarch of Seas”, often used to get impulsive and beat her up without any reason.



UPDATE III: Search Called Off for Cruise Ship Passenger Neha Chhikara in Bahamas (http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,581815,00.html?test=latestnews)




The Coast Guard stopped searching Saturday afternoon for 23-year-old Neha Chhikara. She was reported missing Thursday afternoon from Royal Caribbean’s Monarch of the Seas as the ship headed from Nassau to CocoCay.



I found some information about how things unfolded.. This is for sure that its an suicide.... However, She sent an email to her brother hour before.. This is a critical part.




Bond James Bond naam hai tera 007, Case close......................

Bhai Mor saab thks for updates

upendersingh
January 14th, 2010, 03:14 AM
भारत से विदेश जाने वाले लोग जानवर क्यों हो जाते हैं?
अंकित दलाल और नेहा छिकारा का मामला इस बात का एक और जीता-जागता सबूत है कि जो लोग भारत की त्याग-तपस्या वाली संस्कृति को त्यागकर विदेशी संस्कृति को अपनाते हैं, उनकी सोच कैसी जानवरों वाली हो जाती है. अप्रवासियों में अभी तक ऐसा सिर्फ सरदारों- पंजाबियों में ही होता था, लेकिन अब जाटों में भी ऐसी घटनाएं सुनने को मिलने लगी हैं कि दहेज़ के लालच में नवविवाहिताओं को आत्महत्या के लिए मजबूर कर दिया गया. मैं पूछता हूँ कि महीने में लाखों- करोड़ों रुपये कमाने के बाद भी इन वहशियों का पेट क्यों नहीं भरता और ये नेहा छिकारा जैसी मासूमों को प्रताड़ित करने से क्यों बाज नहीं आते? अंकित जैसे लोगों की घटिया और असंतुष्टि भरी सोच के कारण नेहा जैसी बेचारियों को आत्महत्या करनी पड़ती है. मैं तो नेहा के घरवालों को भी मूर्ख ही कहूँगा, जिन्होंने नेहा की शादी एक अप्रवासी भारतीय से की. जो लोग भारत को छोड़कर विदेश में बसते हैं उनमें से अधिक़तर की सोच ये होती है कि भारत एक बहुत ही पिछड़ा हुआ देश है और पश्चिमी देशों में लोगों को न कोई दुःख होता है और वे अमर होते हैं. वहां साइंस ने बहुत तरक्की कर ली है. वहां जाकर अप्रवासी लोग 10-10 गर्ल फ्रेंड रखते हैं और खूब ऐश करते हैं. फिर पैसे की भी उनमें खूब हवस होती है. नेहा जैसी मासूम लड़की जब वहां पहुँचती हैं तो अपने पति के रंग-ढंग को बर्दाश्त नहीं कर पातीं और जब दहेज़ की भी मांग होने लगती है तो उनके सामने आत्महत्या के अलावा और कोई रास्ता नहीं रह जाता. एक बात ध्यान रहे कि यदि नेहा कोई बदचलन लड़की होती तो हरगिज़ आत्महत्या न करती, बल्कि तलाक लेकर किसी दूसरे को पकड़ लेती. ऐसी घटनाओं को देखकर ये पढ़ाई-लिखाई, डॉक्टरी, इंजीनियरिंग, आई.टी. वगैरह सब बकवास बातें लगने लगती हैं. भारत में जब कोई दहेज़ हत्या होती है तो भारत के आलोचक यहाँ की संस्कृति में तरह-तरह की कमी निकालने लगते हैं. अब ऐसी घटनाओं के लिए उनके पास क्या जवाब है? अमेरिका में जाकर तो लोगों को वहाँ के 'महान' लोगों की तरह ही महान हो जाना चाहिए था, लेकिन वे तो वहाँ जाकर जानवर बन रहे हैं.
&*$# This Foreign Culture.
वैसे जाटलैंड पर जो अप्रवासी भारतीय हैं, जरूरी नहीं कि वे भी अंकित दलाल जैसे ही हों.

sunillathwal
January 14th, 2010, 04:23 AM
भारत से विदेश जाने वाले लोग जानवर क्यों हो जाते हैं?
अंकित दलाल और नेहा छिकारा का मामला इस बात का एक और जीता-जागता सबूत है कि जो लोग भारत की त्याग-तपस्या वाली संस्कृति को त्यागकर विदेशी संस्कृति को अपनाते हैं, उनकी सोच कैसी जानवरों वाली हो जाती है. अप्रवासियों में अभी तक ऐसा सिर्फ सरदारों- पंजाबियों में ही होता था, लेकिन अब जाटों में भी ऐसी घटनाएं सुनने को मिलने लगी हैं कि दहेज़ के लालच में नवविवाहिताओं को आत्महत्या के लिए मजबूर कर दिया गया. मैं पूछता हूँ कि महीने में लाखों- करोड़ों रुपये कमाने के बाद भी इन वहशियों का पेट क्यों नहीं भरता और ये नेहा छिकारा जैसी मासूमों को प्रताड़ित करने से क्यों बाज नहीं आते? अंकित जैसे लोगों की घटिया और असंतुष्टि भरी सोच के कारण नेहा जैसी बेचारियों को आत्महत्या करनी पड़ती है. मैं तो नेहा के घरवालों को भी मूर्ख ही कहूँगा, जिन्होंने नेहा की शादी एक अप्रवासी भारतीय से की. जो लोग भारत को छोड़कर विदेश में बसते हैं उनमें से अधिक़तर की सोच ये होती है कि भारत एक बहुत ही पिछड़ा हुआ देश है और पश्चिमी देशों में लोगों को न कोई दुःख होता है और वे अमर होते हैं. वहां साइंस ने बहुत तरक्की कर ली है. वहां जाकर अप्रवासी लोग 10-10 गर्ल फ्रेंड रखते हैं और खूब ऐश करते हैं. फिर पैसे की भी उनमें खूब हवस होती है. नेहा जैसी मासूम लड़की जब वहां पहुँचती हैं तो अपने पति के रंग-ढंग को बर्दाश्त नहीं कर पातीं और जब दहेज़ की भी मांग होने लगती है तो उनके सामने आत्महत्या के अलावा और कोई रास्ता नहीं रह जाता. एक बात ध्यान रहे कि यदि नेहा कोई बदचलन लड़की होती तो हरगिज़ आत्महत्या न करती, बल्कि तलाक लेकर किसी दूसरे को पकड़ लेती. ऐसी घटनाओं को देखकर ये पढ़ाई-लिखाई, डॉक्टरी, इंजीनियरिंग, आई.टी. वगैरह सब बकवास बातें लगने लगती हैं. भारत में जब कोई दहेज़ हत्या होती है तो भारत के आलोचक यहाँ की संस्कृति में तरह-तरह की कमी निकालने लगते हैं. अब ऐसी घटनाओं के लिए उनके पास क्या जवाब है? अमेरिका में जाकर तो लोगों को वहाँ के 'महान' लोगों की तरह ही महान हो जाना चाहिए था, लेकिन वे तो वहाँ जाकर जानवर बन रहे हैं.
&*$# This Foreign Culture.
वैसे जाटलैंड पर जो अप्रवासी भारतीय हैं, जरूरी नहीं कि वे भी अंकित दलाल जैसे ही हों.

सारे विदेश जाने वालो को क्यों लपेट रहे हो सर जी.. भारत वर्ष में नहीं होते ऐसे 'काण्ड' ???
वैसे दहेज़- प्रथा "फोरेन-कल्चर" ना है !!
और ना ही लडकियां इतनी मासूम हैं जितना की आप बोल रहे हो "पति के रंग-ढंग बर्दास्त नहीं कर पाई" | :-)

भगवान् जाने सच क्या है इस स्टोरी में.. क्या वजह थी नेहा की आतम-हत्या करने की (भगवान् उनकी आत्मा को शांति प्रदान करे) ..
बहुत सारे केसेज में आत्म-हत्या की वजह "Guilty feeling" भी होता है !! आपका ये कहना की "अगर बदचलन होती तो ..." तर्क-संगत नहीं है|
और विदेशी-कल्चर और विदेश जाने वालों को इसमें घसीटना "Totally-wrong"!!

जहाँ तक 'महिला-मित्राओं' की बात है, थोडा सा बहार निकल के देखिये सर .. हर जगह मिलेंगे आपको 'कपल्स' , पार्क में, सिनेमा-हाल..
१०-१२ 'महिला-मित्र'.. एक का पूरा पाट ज्या ना वो बोहत है .. सीरीयसली; ये आपका वहम है की विदेश में जान आके सारे स्वाद ले सै.. जिसने लेने है वो याड़े भी नुए "काच्चे- काटे" सै .. अर ना तो बहेतेरे फॅमिली आले आदमी हैं सै विदेश में भी.. जो किस्से ढाल भी तेरे तै मेरे तै कम "पारिवारिक" ना हैं | गेट रियल सर.

Kind Regards,

amans
January 14th, 2010, 04:42 AM
Who is hiding what?
The father in law is a MD and says the woman was mentally unstable and blah blah.
The woman send email to her brother about domestic violence just hours before She jumped off the ship. Her father an advocate, says She was harassed for dowry.
One of them is lying and the question is who is that?
Could it be that She lost her mental balance due to constant demands for more dowry and then in despair committed suicide?
what has her being an air hostess got to do with her mental makeup? Any one can despair in such a situation.

vijay123
January 14th, 2010, 08:35 AM
Bhai, aisa nahi hai... jaanwar to jaanwar hota hai, woh bharat mei ho ya phir videsh mei. Doosra yeh deahej ka culture parivaar se shuru hota hai.. Agar ghar ke bade log dahej ke khilaaf hai to ladka kuch nahi kar sakata.

aapki soch bilkul galat hai... yahan koi 10 - 10 girl friends nahi rakhta. yahan or india mei koi farak nahi hai mere bhai. wahan baithkar lagata hai ki sab videshi ladkiya badchalan hoti hai but that is just a misconception. I was also disappointed once I came to US :-). girls sab jagah ki ek jaisi hoti hai or boys bhi. Fark sirf system ka hai.



भारत से विदेश जाने वाले लोग जानवर क्यों हो जाते हैं?
अंकित दलाल और नेहा छिकारा का मामला इस बात का एक और जीता-जागता सबूत है कि जो लोग भारत की त्याग-तपस्या वाली संस्कृति को त्यागकर विदेशी संस्कृति को अपनाते हैं, उनकी सोच कैसी जानवरों वाली हो जाती है. अप्रवासियों में अभी तक ऐसा सिर्फ सरदारों- पंजाबियों में ही होता था, लेकिन अब जाटों में भी ऐसी घटनाएं सुनने को मिलने लगी हैं कि दहेज़ के लालच में नवविवाहिताओं को आत्महत्या के लिए मजबूर कर दिया गया. मैं पूछता हूँ कि महीने में लाखों- करोड़ों रुपये कमाने के बाद भी इन वहशियों का पेट क्यों नहीं भरता और ये नेहा छिकारा जैसी मासूमों को प्रताड़ित करने से क्यों बाज नहीं आते? अंकित जैसे लोगों की घटिया और असंतुष्टि भरी सोच के कारण नेहा जैसी बेचारियों को आत्महत्या करनी पड़ती है. मैं तो नेहा के घरवालों को भी मूर्ख ही कहूँगा, जिन्होंने नेहा की शादी एक अप्रवासी भारतीय से की. जो लोग भारत को छोड़कर विदेश में बसते हैं उनमें से अधिक़तर की सोच ये होती है कि भारत एक बहुत ही पिछड़ा हुआ देश है और पश्चिमी देशों में लोगों को न कोई दुःख होता है और वे अमर होते हैं. वहां साइंस ने बहुत तरक्की कर ली है. वहां जाकर अप्रवासी लोग 10-10 गर्ल फ्रेंड रखते हैं और खूब ऐश करते हैं. फिर पैसे की भी उनमें खूब हवस होती है. नेहा जैसी मासूम लड़की जब वहां पहुँचती हैं तो अपने पति के रंग-ढंग को बर्दाश्त नहीं कर पातीं और जब दहेज़ की भी मांग होने लगती है तो उनके सामने आत्महत्या के अलावा और कोई रास्ता नहीं रह जाता. एक बात ध्यान रहे कि यदि नेहा कोई बदचलन लड़की होती तो हरगिज़ आत्महत्या न करती, बल्कि तलाक लेकर किसी दूसरे को पकड़ लेती. ऐसी घटनाओं को देखकर ये पढ़ाई-लिखाई, डॉक्टरी, इंजीनियरिंग, आई.टी. वगैरह सब बकवास बातें लगने लगती हैं. भारत में जब कोई दहेज़ हत्या होती है तो भारत के आलोचक यहाँ की संस्कृति में तरह-तरह की कमी निकालने लगते हैं. अब ऐसी घटनाओं के लिए उनके पास क्या जवाब है? अमेरिका में जाकर तो लोगों को वहाँ के 'महान' लोगों की तरह ही महान हो जाना चाहिए था, लेकिन वे तो वहाँ जाकर जानवर बन रहे हैं.
&*$# This Foreign Culture.
वैसे जाटलैंड पर जो अप्रवासी भारतीय हैं, जरूरी नहीं कि वे भी अंकित दलाल जैसे ही हों.

devdagar
January 14th, 2010, 10:17 AM
Bhai Upender,

Based on your earlier post (actually posts)…I think you are stereotype.
....Good and bad people are all over the world, there are no exceptions.
Please do not assume things and write. ….you have done complete investigation of above case using your keyboard. ..please use this energy for other inclusive/positive discussions.
Dagar

Samarkadian
January 14th, 2010, 11:01 AM
भारत से विदेश जाने वाले लोग जानवर क्यों हो जाते हैं?
अंकित दलाल और नेहा छिकारा का मामला इस बात का एक और जीता-जागता सबूत है कि जो लोग भारत की त्याग-तपस्या वाली संस्कृति को त्यागकर विदेशी संस्कृति को अपनाते हैं, उनकी सोच कैसी जानवरों वाली हो जाती है. अप्रवासियों में अभी तक ऐसा सिर्फ सरदारों- पंजाबियों में ही होता था, लेकिन अब जाटों में भी ऐसी घटनाएं सुनने को मिलने लगी हैं कि दहेज़ के लालच में नवविवाहिताओं को आत्महत्या के लिए मजबूर कर दिया गया. मैं पूछता हूँ कि महीने में लाखों- करोड़ों रुपये कमाने के बाद भी इन वहशियों का पेट क्यों नहीं भरता और ये नेहा छिकारा जैसी मासूमों को प्रताड़ित करने से क्यों बाज नहीं आते? अंकित जैसे लोगों की घटिया और असंतुष्टि भरी सोच के कारण नेहा जैसी बेचारियों को आत्महत्या करनी पड़ती है. मैं तो नेहा के घरवालों को भी मूर्ख ही कहूँगा, जिन्होंने नेहा की शादी एक अप्रवासी भारतीय से की. जो लोग भारत को छोड़कर विदेश में बसते हैं उनमें से अधिक़तर की सोच ये होती है कि भारत एक बहुत ही पिछड़ा हुआ देश है और पश्चिमी देशों में लोगों को न कोई दुःख होता है और वे अमर होते हैं. वहां साइंस ने बहुत तरक्की कर ली है. वहां जाकर अप्रवासी लोग 10-10 गर्ल फ्रेंड रखते हैं और खूब ऐश करते हैं. फिर पैसे की भी उनमें खूब हवस होती है. नेहा जैसी मासूम लड़की जब वहां पहुँचती हैं तो अपने पति के रंग-ढंग को बर्दाश्त नहीं कर पातीं और जब दहेज़ की भी मांग होने लगती है तो उनके सामने आत्महत्या के अलावा और कोई रास्ता नहीं रह जाता. एक बात ध्यान रहे कि यदि नेहा कोई बदचलन लड़की होती तो हरगिज़ आत्महत्या न करती, बल्कि तलाक लेकर किसी दूसरे को पकड़ लेती. ऐसी घटनाओं को देखकर ये पढ़ाई-लिखाई, डॉक्टरी, इंजीनियरिंग, आई.टी. वगैरह सब बकवास बातें लगने लगती हैं. भारत में जब कोई दहेज़ हत्या होती है तो भारत के आलोचक यहाँ की संस्कृति में तरह-तरह की कमी निकालने लगते हैं. अब ऐसी घटनाओं के लिए उनके पास क्या जवाब है? अमेरिका में जाकर तो लोगों को वहाँ के 'महान' लोगों की तरह ही महान हो जाना चाहिए था, लेकिन वे तो वहाँ जाकर जानवर बन रहे हैं.
&*$# This Foreign Culture.
वैसे जाटलैंड पर जो अप्रवासी भारतीय हैं, जरूरी नहीं कि वे भी अंकित दलाल जैसे ही हों.

Self-illusion-delusion with cocksurity of faulty logic is an evolving human trait but few people have developed it beyond usefulness. Upender did you read the last line of first post? I guess you must have but didnt think after reading NRI as its your favourite subject to post. No issues! you may post whatever you feel like but just give a thought that originol post was written with single intent of education and its much hyped impact on community. Since now we have been encountering these monsterous dowry deaths in lower ignorant strata of population. Present case is from prominent families with great education and reputed professions ,where base of their rise is education. Why US is being mentioned - because over the decades it has established itself as a prime work culture and land of classy education. You seem to cough up even humourous joke with Anti-West psyche. Remember your own culture is not superior because some other culture is inferior and vice-versa. I have no intention to play a therapist or baby sitter. Just focus on how education is NOT a panacea in the development of a sound character with better accountablity. What is the alternative?

Thanks a lot.


Dowry .... it is a tool that is used now-a-days by the parents of bride for harrasment of the in-law family. Here also I am not sure if dowry is the true reason behind it. Also whether suicide of murder?

In present day scenerio, education provides you ability to earn good but not behave good. I feel ethics/behaviour are different from being educated. Merely having degrees and earning good is no criteria that they will behave and act good too. If this would be the case then system would have been very nice. We might have crores of degree holders but still the same behaviour when comes to public dealing, on roads etc.

Dowry as you said Jitender , initialy was a Reeti which has turned in to soul killing [I]Kureeti[I].
Greed is that genomic instinct which turns an apparantly educated gentleman in to a devil. Sad but truethat we are prey to our genes.

Lets go a bit further and ponder that How this evil[and such more] can be suppressed in the time of moon landings? Shall we book a ticket to Blueous Pandara many light years away leaving dirt to blow everyone or try to make a grave for such shameful illtraditions?

sanjaymalik
January 14th, 2010, 11:42 AM
Dowry .... it is a tool that is used now-a-days by the parents of bride for harrasment of the in-law family. Here also I am not sure if dowry is the true reason behind it. Also whether suicide of murder?

In present day scenerio, education provides you ability to earn good but not behave good. I feel ethics/behaviour are different from being educated. Merely having degrees and earning good is no criteria that they will behave and act good too. If this would be the case then system would have been very nice. We might have crores of degree holders but still the same behaviour when comes to public dealing, on roads etc.

Totally agree with you Jitender.Now a days education producing Machines not human being. After getting a degree with 99% give you good placement in MNC but not the understanding of other poeples, other fellow, it bring false attitude in the person.

rajkphogat
January 14th, 2010, 12:13 PM
Self-illusion-delusion with cocksurity of faulty logic is an evolving human trait but few people have developed it beyond usefulness. Upender did you read the last line of first post? I guess you must have but didnt think after reading NRI as its your favourite subject to post. No issues! you may post whatever you feel like but just give a thought that originol post was written with single intent of education and its much hyped impact on community. Since now we have been encountering these monsterous dowry deaths in lower ignorant strata of population. Present case is from prominent families with great education and reputed professions ,where base of their rise is education. Why US is being mentioned - because over the decades it has established itself as a prime work culture and land of classy education. You seem to cough up even humourous joke with Anti-West psyche. Remember your own culture is not superior because some other culture is inferior and vice-versa. I have no intention to play a therapist or baby sitter. Just focus on how education is NOT a panacea in the development of a sound character with better accountablity. What is the alternative?

Thanks a lot.



Dowry as you said Jitender , initialy was a Reeti which has turned in to soul killing [I]Kureeti[I].
Greed is that genomic instinct which turns an apparantly educated gentleman in to a devil. Sad but truethat we are prey to our genes.

Lets go a bit further and ponder that How this evil[and such more] can be suppressed in the time of moon landings? Shall we book a ticket to Blueous Pandara many light years away leaving dirt to blow everyone or try to make a grave for such shameful illtraditions?


We jammaney gaye samar Aaj ki date me when an women equally to men then how can her husband ask her for dowry Wa e nahi maang apney aadmi te.

Now a days even in villages people dont want to marry their girls to those who demands dowry.

Aajkal jab ladki apney Maabaap te nu keh sake se ek mai to chhora dekh ki byah karuungi te wa nu bhi keh sake ek main dahej na leki jaa ya fer dahej mangey se te mai byah na karu

malikseema
January 14th, 2010, 01:15 PM
This is really a sad part of Indian society where even today gurls n their families r harrased for dowry ( n Raj.......aajkal bhi beshak ladkiyaan kitni modern ho rahi hon usste koi farak na padta.....kyunki unke modern hon te sasuraal aale modern (dimagi taur par) na ho jaate.)
And as other members hav said that gurl was air hostess n modern ......so she couldnot take such step .........why?
Modern gurls cant b harrased for Dowry?
One member rightly said ,"In present day scenerio, education provides you ability to earn good but not behave good. I feel ethics/behaviour are different from being educated. Merely having degrees and earning good is no criteria that they will behave and act good too."...........i second the above thoughts of Mr. Hooda.
May b watever the reason after Neha's suicide ......but its true a gurl lost her lyf , n that too due to harrasment n mental tortucher by her husband as she had written in her last e mail to his brother,which can not b ignored (her email).
I dont understand why ppl run after money n worldy materials so blindly without caring for a lyf .......wen everybdy kno nthing in this lyf is eternal n everlasting.
God Bless the gurl's soul !

rajkphogat
January 14th, 2010, 02:39 PM
This is really a sad part of Indian society where even today gurls n their families r harrased for dowry ( n Raj.......aajkal bhi beshak ladkiyaan kitni modern ho rahi hon usste koi farak na padta.....kyunki unke modern hon te sasuraal aale modern (dimagi taur par) na ho jaate.)
And as other members hav said that gurl was air hostess n modern ......so she couldnot take such step .........why?
Modern gurls cant b harrased for Dowry?
One member rightly said ,"In present day scenerio, education provides you ability to earn good but not behave good. I feel ethics/behaviour are different from being educated. Merely having degrees and earning good is no criteria that they will behave and act good too."...........i second the above thoughts of Mr. Hooda.
May b watever the reason after Neha's suicide ......but its true a gurl lost her lyf , n that too due to harrasment n mental tortucher by her husband as she had written in her last e mail to his brother,which can not b ignored (her email).
I dont understand why ppl run after money n worldy materials so blindly without caring for a lyf .......wen everybdy kno nthing in this lyf is eternal n everlasting.
God Bless the gurl's soul !

Na Na Ms malik

Mera Matlab yo na tha (Shabda pe na jaawe Bhawnao ko samjo). Jamana change hoga te aadmi bhi change hongey to achhi chwwz apnaney me koi harz na se.

I just want to say, no one can harras any one unless he/she allow others to do.
If you worked in Pvt. sector you may find such bosses which makes ur life hell, Then that doesn't means suicide attempt kardo.

Suicide is the simplest way specially innovated for cowards.

Abhi kuch din pehle Vasant kunj me ek aadmi ney apney 2 bachhe er wife ko maar kar khud sucide karli reason Financial losses though he was owner of a under construction house in vasant kunj & his childrens were studiyng in Ptv school in Rajasthan.

In this case no one would hav sympathy with that person, but in Neha case you r sympathising her because she was a girl(poor girl, bichari ladki etc. etc.) upar sey dowry matter.

I wont say ki ladkey walo ki galti nahi hai, par galti te ladki k maa baap ki bhi hai 50 lacs de diye dahej me cash. Aadmi se bhagwaan te na peesey dekh ki te niyat bigadni e thi eb bugtengey.

I dont understand why ppl run after money ----------- Peesya ka zamaana se seema jiskey dhorey jitney jyada paise uski utni zayada izzat, Garib aadmi ne koye na bujje

May God gives courage to the family of the girl to handle this situation.

bazardparveen
January 14th, 2010, 02:59 PM
Dowry .... it is a tool that is used now-a-days by the parents of bride for harrasment of the in-law family. Here also I am not sure if dowry is the true reason behind it. Also whether suicide of murder?

In present day scenerio, education provides you ability to earn good but not behave good. I feel ethics/behaviour are different from being educated. Merely having degrees and earning good is no criteria that they will behave and act good too. If this would be the case then system would have been very nice. We might have crores of degree holders but still the same behaviour when comes to public dealing, on roads etc.

Agreed with jitender ji......Now a days, dowry is a just a tool used by bride side.......Our media also present these cases like groom side is wrong....Ego of young generation is very high. they are not ready to compromise. i feel these are responsible for these cases.
Nowhere education can be related to behaviour. With education many people become more and more arrogant. That's why divorce and suicide cases are found more specially in metro cities.

rajkphogat
January 14th, 2010, 03:13 PM
Agreed with jitender ji......Now a days, dowry is a just a tool used by bride side.......Our media also present these cases like groom side is wrong....Ego of young generation is very high. they are not ready to compromise. i feel these are responsible for these cases.
Nowhere education can be related to behaviour. With education many people become more and more arrogant. That's why divorce and suicide cases are found more specially in metro cities.

Fer k balka ney anpadh rakh de

Bhai anpadh aadmi ney bera na patega ek talak bhi koye cheez hoya kare to talak na hoga.

Anpadh aadmiyan me bhi domestic voilence (Gharelu hinsa) hoya karey bhai.

ygulia
January 15th, 2010, 07:01 AM
The story is from one side and media makes it spicy. Lot of members have given their judgment here without having the story of both sides. We , indians, are too sentimental and always react in haste. Let the police do their job, truth will come out because case is not handled by Indian Police. Since the incident has occured outside the country, dowry is the only resource left to take revenge if there any.

yudhvirmor
January 15th, 2010, 12:24 PM
The story is from one side and media makes it spicy. Lot of members have given their judgment here without having the story of both sides. We , indians, are too sentimental and always react in haste. Let the police do their job, truth will come out because case is not handled by Indian Police. Since the incident has occured outside the country, dowry is the only resource left to take revenge if there any.

I agree with you.. I don't think dowry is the case here.. It more looks like a case of domestic voilence.

bazardparveen
January 15th, 2010, 02:59 PM
Fer k balka ney anpadh rakh de

Bhai anpadh aadmi ney bera na patega ek talak bhi koye cheez hoya kare to talak na hoga.

Anpadh aadmiyan me bhi domestic voilence (Gharelu hinsa) hoya karey bhai.

I never said education is responsible. I was trying to say with education irresponsible persons becomes arrogant also.....and that's why educated people also do these things.



AR BHAI MUSKIL TAE TO TODA BALAK PADAN LAGE HAI................................UNKA PADNA CHUDVA KE KHADENGA.................................

rajkphogat
January 15th, 2010, 03:55 PM
I never said education is responsible. I was trying to say with education irresponsible persons becomes arrogant also.....and that's why educated people also do these things.



AR BHAI MUSKIL TAE TO TODA BALAK PADAN LAGE HAI................................UNKA PADNA CHUDVA KE KHADENGA.................................

Sahi kah se bhai Mushkil te te balak padan lagey hai.................... hahahaha...............

anilsinghd
February 11th, 2010, 06:18 PM
Have been slammed for the past few weeks at the job , actually was hiring for a c++ developer position. So leveraging from my reent experince , I like the concept of virtual fucntions (for all the programmers to understand).

Let me put it in common man's language. I like things been done with no pre-defined notions. More important than my liking is the fact that most things are best executed if you do them by treating them as stand-alone and independent than trying to derive something from already processed notions.

Lets take the question of Samar in light of my above "newly found/formed approach ;) " or better put at the face value. Can EDUCATION do something? If yes then how?
Being a fan of definitions let me quote this one from Wikipedia:
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Education or teaching in the broadest sense is any act or experience that has a formative effect on the mind (http://www.jatland.com/forums/wiki/Mind), character (http://www.jatland.com/forums/wiki/Character) or physical ability of an individual. In its technical sense education is the process by which society deliberately transmits its accumulated knowledge (http://www.jatland.com/forums/wiki/Knowledge), skills (http://www.jatland.com/forums/wiki/Skills) and values (http://www.jatland.com/forums/wiki/Values) from one generation to another.
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Be true to yourself , how many of you feel (after reading above!) that the concept of education that you had till you read this was the same as you have now?
Do we ever think of values in there? Cut throat competition meaning more grades/marks to stay afloat and better schools/universities to get that "brand" name , is not that all of what a "practical" definition of education is in today's world? Leave apart teachers (who basically get paid to get students to perform better which obviously translates into a work plan of making them get more grades) , are parents okay with trading 10 % marks with 2 hours of music learning (or for that matter any other art/experience which enhances values)?
So we basically get what we desire ,then why do we cribb?

I have not turned that pessimistic as of now , so lets look at solutions. Can it be imbibed and if yes then what is the right stage?
One thing that's very obvious to me is that the later you try to imbibe culture and values , the difficult it gets to have some tangible results, infact its kind of impossible probably after 14-15 years of age. We at IIT have compulsory 4 humanities courses and i would not be wrong in saying that less than 1 % take them seriously , and a majority of this 1 % is again after the grades. Probably a good idea to start friom the very beginning , srap all this grading system and all and make different parameters to judge if a student is okay to move on from one grade to another. What would be loose if we were to graduate at 25 than 21? 4 years (time and salary?) , guess we all would raise our hands when we have to choose between quality and quantity. Radical , is not it?
The motivation to suggest such weird thoughts is the following : Human behaviour , understanding , reaction , values are subjective concepts , who on earth can judge them with the grades and degrees? Lets define a new system of measurement ;) Yeah i did watch 3 idiots but did not get influenced, i was always the radical self I am.

yudhvirmor
February 11th, 2010, 06:30 PM
Make sense... Education = Knowledge + Skills + Values

In our case. Education = Data + 0 Skills + 0 Values

sometimes when we think about Gurukuls, Those were the real education institutes and somehow they became extinct.

brahmtewatia
February 28th, 2010, 02:39 PM
>>> http://www.498a.org/contents/letters...OIA_PBD_07.pdf (http://www.498a.org/contents/letters/Rakshak_MOIA_PBD_07.pdf)

singhvp
March 3rd, 2010, 10:36 PM
Education plays pivotal role in formation of the thought process which in turn determines human behaviour - good or bad. The very first lession of education begins at home which may be called informal education. This informal education imparted by our parents or grand-parents leaves an indelible imprint on our psyche for the whole life. The value system followed by one's family will certainly reflect in these lessons of informal education. Nowadays, this value system is either missing in the curriculum or has been infected/invaded by the western culture. The parents also have scant regard for home grown value system and have started following Western culture in totality. This is not to say that everything is bad in Western culture but certain arguments/values are untenable or inapplicable in Indian context. The educational pattern in the hi-profile private institutions attended by the wards of affluent sections of our society has become too mechanised to leave very little or no space for moral education & civilized behavioral traints. The new breed produced by these institutions is, therefore highly mechanised, dry, devoid of social/family bonds & values and seeks to achieve worldly pleasures only. Therefore, inspite of spread of education, incidence of infidelity, promiscuity and divorce/separation is rising alarmingly among all sections of society, including Jats -NRI and RI both. Too much consumerism has given rise to a sense of frustration and restlessness. The senseless race of accumulating wealth and worldly comforts has made the present day youth an irrational robot. It is a matter of shame that dowry is prevalent even among well educated Jat families. Notions of false prestige prompt many of us to arrange extravagant marriage and birthday bash & pageantry causing lot of hurt burn to our poor brothers who are living in miserable conditions in villages. In the final analysis, education has helped un in enormous way to earn material comforts and status in society but has failed us in becoming a good human beings.

Whatever was the reason, death of Neha Chhikara is a big tragedy for the family and for all of us. Let us hope good sense will dawn upon those who torture the innocent girls for extortion/dowry or any other pretext.

sukhdip
March 4th, 2010, 09:29 AM
Education plays pivotal role in formation of the thought process which in turn determines human behaviour - good or bad. The very first lession of education begins at home which may be called informal education. This informal education imparted by our parents or grand-parents leaves an indelible imprint on our psyche for the whole life. The value system followed by one's family will certainly reflect in these lessons of informal education. Nowadays, this value system is either missing in the curriculum or has been infected/invaded by the western culture. The parents also have scant regard for home grown value system and have started following Western culture in totality. This is not to say that everything is bad in Western culture but certain arguments/values are untenable or inapplicable in Indian context. The educational pattern in the hi-profile private institutions attended by the wards of affluent sections of our society has become too mechanised to leave very little or no space for moral education & civilized behavioral traints. The new breed produced by these institutions is, therefore highly mechanised, dry, devoid of social/family bonds & values and seeks to achieve worldly pleasures only. Therefore, inspite of spread of education, incidence of infidelity, promiscuity and divorce/separation is rising alarmingly among all sections of society, including Jats -NRI and RI both. Too much consumerism has given rise to a sense of frustration and restlessness. The senseless race of accumulating wealth and worldly comforts has made the present day youth an irrational robot. It is a matter of shame that dowry is prevalent even among well educated Jat families. Notions of false prestige prompt many of us to arrange extravagant marriage and birthday bash & pageantry causing lot of hurt burn to our poor brothers who are living in miserable conditions in villages. In the final analysis, education has helped un in enormous way to earn material comforts and status in society but has failed us in becoming a good human beings.

Whatever was the reason, death of Neha Chhikara is a big tragedy for the family and for all of us. Let us hope good sense will dawn upon those who torture the innocent girls for extortion/dowry or any other pretext.


Whatever is written is very good.I totally agree with the views of the writer. The message is also very clear at the End that the torture of innocent girls should be stopped at all costs. But in our country the law for dowry Whatever the section may be has become a tool in the hands of the family of the bride. as in the present case , the Dalal famiy is being projected as a monster which I don't agree. As the incident has taken place at foreign land let the law prevailing at that country take its action and our media shoul be stopped from unnecessary hyping with the matter with its masala and half baked stories.

singhvp
March 15th, 2010, 01:46 PM
Whatever is written is very good.I totally agree with the views of the writer. The message is also very clear at the End that the torture of innocent girls should be stopped at all costs. But in our country the law for dowry Whatever the section may be has become a tool in the hands of the family of the bride. as in the present case , the Dalal famiy is being projected as a monster which I don't agree. As the incident has taken place at foreign land let the law prevailing at that country take its action and our media shoul be stopped from unnecessary hyping with the matter with its masala and half baked stories.

Yes Sangwan Sahab, I agree with you the anti-dowry law is misused in certain cases. Therefore, there is a need to abolish the menace of dowry system through social awakening and pressures. But there has to be a legal binding too in spite of the fact that it is prone to misuse by the families of bride. Judiciary need to devise safeguards against such misuse. Unfortunately, we have no option but to bear with our very slow moving judicial as well as social reforms.