Jatland Matrimonial NRI Frauds...

[rajninarwal]

There are people who are posting there matrimonial adds on Jatland and ditching girls. Specially NRI's are doing it. Some of them are already married or into relation with other girls but they still post their matrimonial adds on Jatland. Its not only about posting adds, they marry girls and after spoiling there lives they are running back to abroad. Is there any way Jatland can help those girls?

[amankadian]

How it could be possible ?

[kapdal]

There are people who are posting there matrimonial adds on Jatland and ditching girls. Specially NRI's are doing it. Some of them are already married or into relation with other girls but they still post their matrimonial adds on Jatland. Its not only about posting adds, they marry girls and after spoiling there lives they are running back to abroad. Is there any way Jatland can help those girls?

Not speaking on behalf of JL.

Not sure it is anything JL can do about. This is a case of "buyer beware". Could happen on any matrimonial site. Just because it is a community specific site, it doesn't take away any of the dangers inherent in match-making via internet.

[amankadian]

Matrimonial is also like as Online dating.
:)
bhya shadiya ke kaam bade bude na karne chaiye per aaj kal ke to aapne aap aapni profile bana de matrimonial site pe.

[rajninarwal]

Very mature reply Aman...I am sure you too are following "badey budhon ki nasihat"...The pictures are telling your stories...

[amankadian]

Very mature reply Aman...I am sure you too are following "badey budhon ki nasihat"...The pictures are telling your stories...

Shadi ek baar hoti hai ager uske bare main toda socha samjha or aapne bado se vichaar kia jaye to accha rhata hai.

Per aaj kal ke log ke pass is chiz ke liye bhi time nhi. Marriage is bhi AD dene lage hai sites pe Tv pe Redio pe.

Jis riste ke liye insaan ke pass phele hi time nhi to baad main kha se time ayega us riste ke liye
to marriage hi kyun karni.

[kapdal]

Very mature reply Aman...I am sure you too are following "badey budhon ki nasihat"...The pictures are telling your stories...

Hahahahaha...aapne to aate hi chaala karr diya Rajni-ji..

[rajninarwal]

Do you understand what am I talking about here? I really don't think so.You are on a wrong track lemme tell you...Either you know nothing about Jat marriages or you are not able to understand what it is..Bye

[amankadian]

Aap bhi meri baat nhi samj rhe ho. itne gusse main ho aap ki aapko kuch samj nhi aa rhe.

Ye jo bhi riste online riste.com pe hote hai in pe iske bare main kuch sach pata nhi chalta.

Offline riste main to chore ke gaam alle ek min phele bata de se ek chora ka phala bhya hai ak dusra.

[sanjeev_balyan]

Do you understand what am I talking about here? I really don't think so.You are on a wrong track lemme tell you...Either you know nothing about Jat marriages or you are not able to understand what it is..Bye

lagta hai aap pichhle 5 salo se JL p kewal matrimonail sec hi dekhne aati hai, forum m to pehli baar vichar parkat kiye, any way welcome to the forum

[amankadian]

Lakin topic ek dam jabardaast hai..

Lot of fake profile on Online_Patner_serach_system.com

[rajninarwal]

I am sure there is something wrong with you as well now . Koi jyotish hain aap ki aapko ye pata hai ki main pichley 5 saal se ladke dhundh rahi hun.Forum me vichaar prakat karne ki iraade tow pahle se hi they lekin aap jaise sarcastic or narrow minded log bhi yahan baithey hain ye dekhkar soch rahi hun it's like bhains k aage been bajana..u guys are actually sick..

[amankadian]

Saanjav bhai shaab ab to aapko jarurt padti wo bhi doctor ki ...may be Matrimonial help you to find a doctor haha.

Omg .

[rajninarwal]

seee....who else other than you would know of such fake profiles...

[amankadian]

that's why i was saying its not a good idea to find anyone on Matrimonial site.

[sanjeev_balyan]

Very ...I am sure you too are following "badey budhon ki nasihat"....

lagta hai aapne to bade budhon ko chinka de ke khunte k bandh rakhya hoga.


ibb hamne to narrow minded hi rehndo madam ji aap jitna open mind hogya to bera ni k hojaga lagta hai koi thada jhatka laggya
khali net k profile dekh shadi hogi to uhe haal hoga, gaam gavand, khandan, gharbar aur bhi kimme kuch dekh lena chahiye
agar koi ladke ki padhayi / job dekh k hi sadi kar lo to nuhe dhol bajega

[drkarminder]

matri adds r really helpful in finding a match ...yaar online match ka matlab ye nahi hai ki shaadi bhi online hoti hai....matching ke baad saari wahi cheezein chalti hain jo normal shaadi mein hoti hain....sabkuch pata karo or phir shaadi karo...online matrimonial help in finding match that suits u most...dokha bhi lalachi aadmi ko milta hai jahan tak mera vichar hai....paise k chakkar mein shaadi kar lete hai...phir bolte hain dokha hua..ladki ke per mein fark hai..ek aankh mein fark hai....kyuin bhai pahla na dikkhe tha ...so dont say ki matri site walon ke karan dokha milta hai...
i m a doctor nd thanx to jatland and other matri sites..ki mujhe right match ke liye ghumna nahi padta...phone pe baatein ho jaati hai..pasand aaye to aage baat badha sakte hain...most impt is that i dont disturbed in my practice nd eazy getting matches...

[amankadian]

matri adds r really helpful in finding a match ...yaar online match ka matlab ye nahi hai ki shaadi bhi online hoti hai....matching ke baad saari wahi cheezein chalti hain jo normal shaadi mein hoti hain....sabkuch pata karo or phir shaadi karo...online matrimonial help in finding match that suits u most...dokha bhi lalachi aadmi ko milta hai jahan tak mera vichar hai....paise k chakkar mein shaadi kar lete hai...phir bolte hain dokha hua..ladki ke per mein fark hai..ek aankh mein fark hai....kyuin bhai pahla na dikkhe tha ...so dont say ki matri site walon ke karan dokha milta hai...
i m a doctor nd thanx to jatland and other matri sites..ki mujhe right match ke liye ghumna nahi padta...phone pe baatein ho jaati hai..pasand aaye to aage baat badha sakte hain...most impt is that i dont disturbed in my practice nd eazy getting matches...

Chorri ke ser pe phele ye khun svar hai or upper te aapne ye line likh di.

[sanjeev_balyan]

matri i m a doctor nd thanx to jatland and other matri sites..ki mujhe right match ke liye ghumna nahi padta...phone pe baatein ho jaati hai..pasand aaye to aage baat badha sakte hain...most impt is that i dont disturbed in my practice nd eazy getting matches...

badhiya kaam dhoond rakhya hai bhai / practice ke baad suthra time pass hota hoga
laga reh 5/7 saal

[amankadian]

badhiya kaam dhoond rakhya hai bhai / practice ke baad suthra time pass hota hoga
laga reh 5/7 saal
haha Bhai shaab
roj lunch kisi ne kisi ke ghara hota hoga haha

[drkarminder]

lage to murakh rahte hain...hum to jaldi se khatam karne walon mein se hain.....ek or baat ,time paas karna hota to 12th karte hi shaadi karke baap ke paison pe time paas karta...

[amankadian]

lage to murakh rahte hain...hum to jaldi se khatam karne walon mein se hain.....ek or baat ,time paas karna hota to 12th karte hi shaadi karke baap ke paison pe time paas karta...

Dr shaab.....Time pass to aapne paison pe hota hai

baap ke paison pe to aasssh hoti maje hote hai .

:rock

[drkarminder]

lage to murakh rahte hain...hum to jaldi se khatam karne walon mein se hain.....ek or baat ,time paas karna hota to 12th karte hi shaadi karke baap ke paison pe time paas karta...

[drkarminder]

jo bhai sahab time paas ki baat kar rahe the unka matlab yahi tha ki phone per phokat k maze hote hain...yaar matrimonial wale appko batate hain ki bhai ye ladki hai....ab us se aage kya karna hai ...ye to aapko hi karna hai...to is mein dokha kahan se aa gaya...

[amankadian]

jo bhai sahab time paas ki baat kar rahe the unka matlab yahi tha ki phone per phokat k maze hote hain...yaar matrimonial wale appko batate hain ki bhai ye ladki hai....ab us se aage kya karna hai ...ye to aapko hi karna hai...to is mein dokha kahan se aa gaya...

To ye baat hai 1st date Matrimonial wale karwate hai.

Good Service

[Prikshit]

Rajni ji we understand the importance of this thread. Those who face such things can only understand the pain.

Well one thing I would like to tell you that JL can't do background check of every individual.
It is sole onus of the person or person's family who is considering for a partner through any matrimonial site.

One more thing as per my observation people look for matrimonials only when simple ways of seach don't work.
Please be wary of looking a match through matrimonials.

[VPannu]

There are people who are posting there matrimonial adds on Jatland and ditching girls. Specially NRI's are doing it. Some of them are already married or into relation with other girls but they still post their matrimonial adds on Jatland. Its not only about posting adds, they marry girls and after spoiling there lives they are running back to abroad. Is there any way Jatland can help those girls?Rajni, ID te teri 5 saal purani se, aaj te pahla kadde koye post na kari. 5 kari hain ib tak ar ve bhi saari ki saaari is thread me. Aman ar Kapil aali baat jamaa saachi hain. gadbad aagi mhaare samajh. ke jarurat se matrimonial te byaah karan ki jab ghar ale aape toh denge ak jaruuri se matrimonial te byaah karna? aade te 70 farji ID aave hain daily, jatland me kis dhore itna tem se ak tafteesh karta haande koye. sawaari apne samaan ki khud jimmewar se.
Disclaimer: main married su, ar NRI bhi, par meri koye profile kona matrimonial. agar koi mere naam se profile banaata hai to is se mera koi lena dena nahi hai :D

[malikdeepak1]

मत्रिमोनेअल केनाः वे भाज्या करे जो अटक रहे हो !!
सुह्र-सर भाईचारा/रिश्तेदारी बना के राखे तो इसी जगह जान की जरूरत इ कोणी पड़े |:thappad

[saurabhjaglan]

@ Rajni :

Stick to the point.
Just tell.Who did this?when and where???
name those concern person(identity)...

we don't want ki yahan kisi ke kehne se sabhee NRI or other Jats badnam ho.
People want Evidence.

there are many Jat IPS/IAS/Lawyers/Politicians/Social Workers who can help you to file a strong complaint against that person.



Regards,
S.Jaglan

[rajninarwal]

Mr. Balyan...let me tell you in your bhasha..."aap jo koi bi ho, aapka dimag sahi mayno me apripakav hai..ye bi prove hai hai ki aapko baatein samajh me hi nahin aati...haan bas kuch na kuch bolna hota hai...beshak se uss baat ka koi matlab ho ya na ho....iss type k manasaan ne haryanvi me ke kahyan karein manney bataan ki jarurat tow nhin mahsoos hoti kyuki aapto mahaan jyotish ho aapko sab pata hai...phir bi bata deti hun...issey mansaan ne mahrey badey budhey khya karein "khamkhaan"...

[kapdal]

Ab rehan bhi do..saare aagli ke paachhe pad liye...

Yahaan roz kham kha ke thread bagaaye jaate hain...koi hindu dharm ko bachaane mein laga hai, koi khaane ki recipe baant raha hai, koi faltoo ke sms/email forward chep raha hai..

She atleast raised a genuine concern of hers. JL can do nothing about it - end of story. Some people accessing matrimonials may get a timely warning while reading this.

[rajninarwal]

Mr Pannu...why are you telling us that you are married and you never had a profile on any of the matrimonial site, though you are an NRI...bera hoga na safae wo diya karein jinki niyat me kammey gadbad ho... ibb jo aap kah rhe ho uski sachaae pata karan ne jatland me kis dhore itna tem se ak tafteesh karta haande koye....bera laagya so chuehe khaake billi hazzz pe chali...

[rajninarwal]

Saurabh..I am not here to blame every NRI...It's not about everyone but some of them..I am not a regular visitor on Jatland...Just wanted to check if anything can be done by the people who own this site if any NRI fraud happens through this site..I don't know why but people have started a different story..some of them are sending dancing smileys...some of them have started blaming me for something baseless..Yes, I do have proofs and evidences for such cases..but now I understand that this is not the right place to discuss something...no offenses to anyone but maximum people are not here to discuss but to make mockery..

[amankadian]

proofs ki to koi jarurt hi nhi hai kyunki sab phele se hi jante hai ye sab chiz itni fake hai. Jasia ki kapil ji ne kha ki ismain jatland bhi kuch nhi karta.

ye sirf NRI hi nhi wasie bhi bhut si profile hogi.

to accha hai asie sites se dur hi rhe sab .

[VPannu]

Saurabh..I am not here to blame every NRI...It's not about everyone but some of them..I am not a regular visitor on Jatland...Just wanted to check if anything can be done by the people who own this site if any NRI fraud happens through this site..I don't know why but people have started a different story..some of them are sending dancing smileys...some of them have started blaming me for something baseless..Yes, I do have proofs and evidences for such cases..but now I understand that this is not the right place to discuss something...no offenses to anyone but maximum people are not here to discuss but to make mockery..madam main bataau saaf sudhi paadhri, genuine maanas profile banaave ae kona matrimonial ki. ya to vo banaavega jisme khot ho, or ya fer jo defected piece ho. ar ye Jaglan jisse nuve thook bilo-2 chale jaange kimme bas ka kona. ' apni suraksha aapke haath'

[amankadian]

madam main bataau saaf sudhi paadhri, genuine maanas profile banaave ae kona matrimonial ki. ya to vo banaavega jisme khot ho, or ya fer jo defected piece ho. ar ye Jaglan jisse nuve thook bilo-2 chale jaange kimme bas ka kona. ' apni suraksha aapke haath'

Bhai sab Matrimonial ka accha khas business hai aaj kal. Apke asie asie answer pakka tap kar dege logo ka business.

[VPannu]

Bhai sab Matrimonial ka accha khas business hai aaj kal. Apke asie asie answer pakka tap kar dege logo ka business.bhai no personal offence or hard feelings for anyone, matrimonial me ghan khare isse hoya kare jinka ya te kitte rishta na hota ho (regardless of whatever may be the reason), ya divorcee/widow ho, etc etc :) . jo samaan bina advertisement ke bik jaa usne advt ki ke jarurat ?

[drkarminder]

mr .pannu...u r talking so immature that i dont kno wt u r doing in foreign...jis tarike ki immature baat aap kar rahe ho ki aap ki shaadi hi gayi hai phir bhi aapki profile matrimonial site per nahi hai...to mein kahna chahat huin ki aap kewal akele jaat nahin hain duniyan mein ke aapki profile zaroori honi chahiya matrimonial site per....sm ppl get good matches very eazly nd for sm ppl its take time to get good matches that all depend on circumstances...nd matrimonial sites really help...
matri sites aapka haath pakadwa kar shaadi karwa rahi hain kya...apako ladki acchi lage to karo nahi to mat karo....

[VPannu]

mr .pannu...u r talking so immature that i dont kno wt u r doing in foreign...jis tarike ki immature baat aap kar rahe ho ki aap ki shaadi hi gayi hai phir bhi aapki profile matrimonial site per nahi hai...to mein kahna chahat huin ki aap kewal akele jaat nahin hain duniyan mein ke aapki profile zaroori honi chahiya matrimonial site per....sm ppl get good matches very eazly nd for sm ppl its take time to get good matches that all depend on circumstances...nd matrimonial sites really help...
matri sites aapka haath pakadwa kar shaadi karwa rahi hain kya...apako ladki acchi lage to karo nahi to mat karo....aaja bhaatiyaa ki kasar rah ri thi. main aaya karu aade manoranjan karan, gyaan len ne ar den ne or bhateri jagah hain duniya me. ;)

[amankadian]

mr .pannu...u r talking so immature that i dont kno wt u r doing in foreign...jis tarike ki immature baat aap kar rahe ho ki aap ki shaadi hi gayi hai phir bhi aapki profile matrimonial site per nahi hai...to mein kahna chahat huin ki aap kewal akele jaat nahin hain duniyan mein ke aapki profile zaroori honi chahiya matrimonial site per....sm ppl get good matches very eazly nd for sm ppl its take time to get good matches that all depend on circumstances...nd matrimonial sites really help...
matri sites aapka haath pakadwa kar shaadi karwa rahi hain kya...apako ladki acchi lage to karo nahi to mat karo....

I am not agree with you buddy. Match to aapni samj se or upper wale duwa se bante hai fir match banne ke liye matrimonial hi kyun.

[Malikpriya]

aaja bhaatiyaa ki kasar rah ri thi. main aaya karu aade manoranjan, gyaan len ne ar den ne or bhateri jagah hain duniya me. ;)


achaaaaaa to tu serious matter pe b manoranjan karegaaaa...........:rock

[rakeshsehrawat]

mr .pannu...u r talking so immature that i dont kno wt u r doing in foreign...jis tarike ki immature baat aap kar rahe ho ki aap ki shaadi hi gayi hai phir bhi aapki profile matrimonial site per nahi hai...to mein kahna chahat huin ki aap kewal akele jaat nahin hain duniyan mein ke aapki profile zaroori honi chahiya matrimonial site per....sm ppl get good matches very eazly nd for sm ppl its take time to get good matches that all depend on circumstances...nd matrimonial sites really help...
matri sites aapka haath pakadwa kar shaadi karwa rahi hain kya...apako ladki acchi lage to karo nahi to mat karo....

Bhai ya catch kunse johad mein kari ja hai ? mhare gaam mein ghane e kunware reh rahe hain

[VPannu]

achaaaaaa to tu serious matter pe b manoranjan karegaaaa...........:rock

Don't show me Attitude .............I got more than You............:cool::cool:

[amankadian]

Bhai ya catch kunse johad mein kari ja hai ? mhare gaam mein ghane e kunware reh rahe hain
Rakesh Bhai shaab 100-100 deke sara ki profile banwa do

Koi na koi to contact kar hi lega :rock

[drkarminder]

mr pannu......bhai maane na lage tera bya hogya,,,...mere khyal te tu randa e ghum rhya se...janhe tai tu cho man rhya se...tanne bhaati kade dekhe e konya lag e manne....jaldi bhya karwale sharir thanda ho zyaga..

[Malikpriya]

Rakesh Bhai shaab 100-100 deke sara ki profile banwa do

Koi na koi to contact kar hi lega :rock


Aman teri profile kitne de ke ban gi thi .............:p

[VPannu]

mr pannu......bhai maane na lage tera bya hogya,,,...mere khyal te tu randa e ghum rhya se...tanne isaa laage hai to thaare gaam me toh de fer?

[amankadian]

Aman teri profile kitne de ke ban gi thi .............:p

main to shadi main hi visvaas nhi karta muje profile ki kya jarurt hai

[drkarminder]

yaar kadian uper wala neeche tera rista leke thodi aawaga.....haath pair to marne padenge ..ya tu maar le ..ya tere ghar wale mar lenge...ya alag baat hai ki bhai pahle hi teri jaankaari mein baat chaal ri ho..or baat ban jaa pahli hi baar mein...
ib JL ne hi le le ..tu apna sahi data bhej..bhai aachi acchi family se lag contact karte hain..baat ban jya to bahut badhiya...is mein galat kya hai yaar ek baat bata...

[drkarminder]

...mahre gaam mein tere gaam ki chori bya rakhi se...unke baalkan te kar le....karega..

[amankadian]

yaar kadian uper wala neeche tera rista leke thodi aawaga.....haath pair to marne padenge ..ya tu maar le ..ya tere ghar wale mar lenge...ya alag baat hai ki bhai pahle hi teri jaankaari mein baat chaal ri ho..or baat ban jaa pahli hi baar mein...
ib JL ne hi le le ..tu apna sahi data bhej..bhai aachi acchi family se lag contact karte hain..baat ban jya to bahut badhiya...is mein galat kya hai yaar ek baat bata...
bhai ji

ager asie site pe koi buri baat hi nhi hoti to
wa chorri kyun pareshan ho rhi hai Jatland Matrimoinal se

[drkarminder]

tanne dekh ke lag se ...batan ki zaroorat na se...bhai tu jaat se ke khati....manne te isa kag se janu tu is photo wale ghar mein khidki chadan aa rhua se.
.

[Prikshit]

Instead of quoting it frauds it should be lack of sound background check.
Bhaiye ek dusre ki bat katan te kame na ho...tod yo se ek shadi chahe gahr aale doonde ya fer koi matrimonial te doonde aage pache ka bera patane khud ki jimadari se.

[drkarminder]

yaar kadyan taane to wahe baat kar di.... chorrian ki baatan ne kyun serious le rhya se...kacche kaat arr tote uda..per apne pannu bhai ne thoda samjha....mama nyun kah rya se mera bhya karwa de arr us te pahlyan kahrya tha ki mein ti bhyoda suin...yo zarror fayad thawega is discussion ka chahi or logan ne milo chae na...yo to matri sites ne bhi pichhe chhodega..

[amankadian]

tanne dekh ke lag se ...batan ki zaroorat na se...bhai tu jaat se ke khati....manne te isa kag se janu tu is photo wale ghar mein khidki chadan aa rhua se.
. Bhai su to jaat ager khati bhi hota to koi baat nhi.
Insaan to insaan hote hai.
Jaat main koi asi ek bhi baat nhi jo unhe dusre Insaano ke alag kare.

Apne kha aap doctor ho kya ilaj bhi aap sirf jaata ka hi karte ho ya non jaat ka bhi.

Insaan main ager guts ho na to dunia uske picche hoti hai usse dating ya shaadi.com pe jaane ki jarurt nhi

Samj gaya bhai

[drkarminder]

kadiyan yaar ye tere liye nahi tha...taane galat padh liya....ye mr.rakesh ke liye tha

[drkarminder]

kadyan ji agar aap mera pahla thread is site per padhoge to usme meine saaf saaf likha hai ki after my M.D.S i will open a cheritable hospital exclusive for jat community...i want the uplift of our community in every field...

[amankadian]

kadyan ji agar aap mera pahla thread is site per padhoge to usme meine saaf saaf likha hai ki after my M.D.S i will open a cheritable hospital exclusive for jat community...i want the uplift of our community in every field...

why not for everyone.

[drkarminder]

kadyan ji.....yaar kyonki jatton ki seva ke liye mujhe balance to rakhna padega na....infact agar har banda agar abs apni community ko hi sambhal le to apne aap developement ho jayega...yaar pahle maine apne baare mein socha ki mere ko apne aap ko kabil banana hai..ab mein ban gaya to ab mein apni community ke baare mein soch raha huin.....

[Prikshit]

Karm+inder= karmo se inder ki tarah

Bade bhai apki bhavnao ko hum samaj sakte h lekin agar aap is noble peshe to garibo aur jarurat mando ke liye kholenge to apke jyada khusi pure Jat samaj ko hogi.

If you really want to contribute than do it to everyone.

Hamari kaum ka hamesha se doosro ki madad karne ka raha h... aap usko kayam rakhenge iski hum sab aapse ummed karte h

[amankadian]

bhut acchi soch hai doctor shaab aapki.
muje to lagta hai help uski karni chiye jisko help ki jarurt ho che wo jat ho ya non-jat

[drkarminder]

prikshit ji..mein aapki baat ki kadar karta huin...or mein is se bilkul sahmat huin....lekin meri community ka bhi mere uper kuch farz banta hai...garib log jaaton mein bhi hain....raat ko khet mein lavni karte hain ..subah paper dene jaate hain or 1st div. leke aate hain..mein apni community ke unn bacchon ki madad karna chahta huin jo talented hote hue kewal paise ki wajah se rah jaate hain....
or mein ye isliye feel karta huin kyonki mein bhi kabhi apne time per aisa hi tha..mera ek yadav dost or ek baniya dost bed per sote the or mein neeche sota tha kyonki us room ka kiraya wo dono bharte the ..mere paas paise nahi the...phir mein p.g ke liye select hua...aise log jaaton mein bhi hain jo treatement afford nahi kar sakte....or aap ko kya kagta hai agar mein itna karronga or koi or cast ka patient mere paas aayeg a to mein mana karronga....basically i want o say that i want to serve poor class of our community...

[Samarkadian]

prikshit ji..mein aapki baat ki kadar karta huin...or mein is se bilkul sahmat huin....lekin meri community ka bhi mere uper kuch farz banta hai...garib log jaaton mein bhi hain....raat ko khet mein lavni karte hain ..subah paper dene jaate hain or 1st div. leke aate hain..mein apni community ke unn bacchon ki madad karna chahta huin jo talented hote hue kewal paise ki wajah se rah jaate hain....
or mein ye isliye feel karta huin kyonki mein bhi kabhi apne time per aisa hi tha..mera ek yadav dost or ek baniya dost bed per sote the or mein neeche sota tha kyonki us room ka kiraya wo dono bharte the ..mere paas paise nahi the...phir mein p.g ke liye select hua...aise log jaaton mein bhi hain jo treatement afford nahi kar sakte....or aap ko kya kagta hai agar mein itna karronga or koi or cast ka patient mere paas aayeg a to mein mana karronga....basically i want o say that i want to serve poor class of our community...

थोडा सा उत्सुक हूँ भाई डाक्टर , नूय बता अक ये रात ने लामनी करानिये कुनसे गाम के स ?

[drkarminder]

samar ji ...aaj kal haryana mein raat ko hi laavni hoti hai saayad aapko jaankaari na ho..kyonki din ki dhoop se bachne ke liye bulb jala kar raat ko laavni karte hain or dopaha r mein aaram karte hai....chalo aapko address bhi bata duin...

vill-mahrana...disttt- jhajhar...name- anand singh mere jija(cousin sister) ji..raat ko lavni karte the ..subah paper dene jaate the...b.com1st div...m.com-1st div....kewal isliye ajj ghar per hain kyonki mere mausa ji paise nahi dete the form bharne ke liye...
samar ji itna basic mat jaao..nahi to aapko pata legega ki aap update nahi ho dhang se...

[Prikshit]

I appreciate your point of view Karminder bhai, but don't segregate like this.
Help is meant for needed, that should be the only intention.
Even I want to work for upliftment of our society, we can make a plan to start it at our village level.

I want more hands to join in, on weekends or in free time we can help them.They don't need much but some necessary guidance.

[Samarkadian]

I appreciate your point of view Karminder bhai, but don't segregate like this.
Help is meant for needed, that should be the only intention.
Even I want to work for upliftment of our society, we can make a plan to start it at our village level.

I want more hands to join in, on weekends or in free time we can help them.They don't need much but some necessary guidance.



परीक्षित , डाक्टर ,

इसा छोटा सा प्रयास करण की मानने भी सोची स ! ज थारे आले प्रयास त मेल खमता हो त एक ब इसने पढ़ ल्यो

http://www.jatland.com/forums/showthread.php?32327-Ch.-Chhotu-Ram-Jatland-Scholarship-Ideas-and-Execution

[upendersingh]

यो तो ठीक है, पर वो 'रात नै लामणी' का के रह्या...:)

[drkarminder]

prikshit ji...u r most welcome ..infact i like such volunteers...bt prikshit ji...i want to help in a palnned way..its nt like that koi aaya bola baache ki fis bharni hai .100 rupees de diye..aajkal mean and selfish log bahut hain ..apni community mein bhi jo kewal help chahte hain..karte nahin hain...a well planned need to everybody nd support them to help others...mere paas ek plan hai jo main yahan per batana nahi chahata .....if u r interested contact me at facebook...search as karminder singh,hyderabad

[drkarminder]

upender ji ...hamne u.p ka to pata nahi..per haryane mein raat ko bhi laavni hoti hai...in fact till early morning or jaise hi dhoop hoti hai...ghar jaate hain or puri dopahar aaram karte hain...phir shaam hote hi jaate hain...pooch bhi lo apne aas paas..badhiya rahega

[upendersingh]

डॉक्टर साहब, आपकी बात तो मैंने ऊपर ही पढ़ ली थी...मैं तो समर से पूछ रहा था कि वो आपकी बात से सहमत हैं या नहीं..
...

[Samarkadian]

उपेंदर मने ते इसे धोरे सुनी स या रात न लामनी आली बात ! दुफारी में तू न्यू भी लामनी कोई सा जाट न करता ! उपर त लामनी इब घनखरी जगह बिहारी मजदूर ही करते हैं ! हो सके स ज इस डाक्टर भाई ने बताई यो घटना हुई हो पर ये कोई ट्रेंड नहीं है !

[drkarminder]

kadiyan ji meine aapka link dekha or padha...aapne jo socha hai wahi meri soch hai...chalo baat discolse ho hi gayi to bata duin....i will help a poor student bt with condition that he will also help poor ppl if he succeed. that can be made as an agreement also...in this way the propogation will take place nd it will nt end blindly with that student only....we dont want any student to persue good education with our scholarship become an i.a.s nd then doing nothing...it may be a too professinal bt our main objective is to serve all community not individual

[drkarminder]

kadiyan ji pure haryane mein bihari hi laamni karte hain kya...sir ji galat update ho gaye aap to.....aap bol rehe ho dopahar mein laavni na karte..or is baat ne bhi na maan re ki raat ko laavni karte hain....to karyana mein laavni kab hoti hai..ye to ek bahut tagda sawal ho gya...upender ji iska to thread banaya jaaye ki...HARYANA MEIN LAAVNI KIS TIME HOTI HAI..or jo raat ya dopahar likhega unko jawab apne kadiyan sahab denge...

[Samarkadian]

Doctor,

discuss this stuff on that particular thread. Present thread shall not loose its momentum.

[sanjeev_balyan]

Mr. Balyan... issey mansaan ne mahrey badey budhey khya karein "khamkhaan"...

aur apne bade budhaya ne aap ya ijjat baksya karo

""Very mature reply Aman...I am sure you too are following "badey budhon ki nasihat"...The pictures are telling your stories...""




par meri bhasa aap abhi bhi nahi bol payi
thanx any way

[ravinderpannu]

Dr shaab.....Time pass to aapne paison pe hota hai

baap ke paison pe to aasssh hoti maje hote hai .

:rock

aman, tu to manne aassssh karta dikhe hain...!!!!

[bharti]

kadiyan ji pure haryane mein bihari hi laamni karte hain kya...sir ji galat update ho gaye aap to.....aap bol rehe ho dopahar mein laavni na karte..or is baat ne bhi na maan re ki raat ko laavni karte hain....to karyana mein laavni kab hoti hai..ye to ek bahut tagda sawal ho gya...upender ji iska to thread banaya jaaye ki...HARYANA MEIN LAAVNI KIS TIME HOTI HAI..or jo raat ya dopahar likhega unko jawab apne kadiyan sahab denge...

Samar,

Laavni(लावणी) or Lavani, however you spell it, surely must be happening at night since it is a genre of music popular in Maharashtra and some other adjoining states ;)
Here is the link:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lavani



(http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lavani)

[rakeshsehrawat]

Doctor bhai doosra ke fotu pe comment karan tein pehlam apni fotu dekh le
Raat ne kala chasma la rehya -Hieght of fashion

[bharti]

Dear all,
Sorry for going off-topic in my earlier post but I could not resist making that comment.

Coming back to the topic of discussion on Matrimonial fraud happening here on our site.
My opinion is, anyone who has some connection with his/her community will hardly ever face this kind of problem since verification is so easy a thing amongst us Jats.
If I talk to any Jat from Haryana ... kahin na kahin, koi na koi jaan-pehchaan ya rishtedaari jaroor nikal hi aati hai :-)
I have had this experience with many whom I have spoken to.
Recently got a match for a cousin fixed through Jatland Matrimonials. When we sat to talk, we did find some common friends and the girls' family too was relieved as they too were a little apprehensive fixing a match through internet.

Even the newspapers carrying countless matrimonial ads advice their readers to make appropriate /thorough enquiry before acting upon any advertisement.
So, Jatland can in no way should be held responsible for such thing. It is for people using the facility to make enquiry.

regards,
bharti.

[Prikshit]

Bharti ji

I agree to you for most of it, but one thing you have said "Verification is easy" is not fully true.
Until very close people are there we don't get to know the full and transparent inforamtion.

The very idea is "Verification is necessary,but be wary" :) :) :)

[mhundpuriamann]

Aman teri profile kitne de ke ban gi thi .............:p

yaa kattaigee rog inn saaryaan ka.............

[rajninarwal]

Bharti...
I have a scenario for you.If there is an NRI...His family wants him to marry an Indian JAT GIRL so that they can show in their circle or society k dekho humara ladka humare kahe main chalta hai, ye humare sanskaar hi hain k humara ladka videsh jaake bi nahin badla,humare kahe anusaar chalta hai, pata nahin wo kaise maa baap hote hain jinkey bachey bahar jaakar wahin k ho jaate hain,humara beta aisa nahin hai...but the boy is either already married or in relation with a girl in abroad...now the boy love his family very much and doesnt want to hurt them either,wo chahta hai k uskey maa baap ki naak nichi nahin honi chahiye...so only for their happiness and so called respect in society he comes to India and marry a girl...he will stay with the girl for some time and will go back to abroad...wat you suggest in this scenario...obviosly kahin na kahin, koi na koi jaan-pehchaan ya rishtedaari jaroor nikal hi aati hai...lekin har family ki jaan pahchaan videshon main nahin hoti naa....

[amankadian]

Bharti...
I have a scenario for you.If there is an NRI...His family wants him to marry an Indian JAT GIRL so that they can show in their circle or society k dekho humara ladka humare kahe main chalta hai, ye humare sanskaar hi hain k humara ladka videsh jaake bi nahin badla,humare kahe anusaar chalta hai, pata nahin wo kaise maa baap hote hain jinkey bachey bahar jaakar wahin k ho jaate hain,humara beta aisa nahin hai...but the boy is either already married or in relation with a girl in abroad...now the boy love his family very much and doesnt want to hurt them either,wo chahta hai k uskey maa baap ki naak nichi nahin honi chahiye...so only for their happiness and so called respect in society he comes to India and marry a girl...he will stay with the girl for some time and will go back to abroad...wat you suggest in this scenario...obviosly kahin na kahin, koi na koi jaan-pehchaan ya rishtedaari jaroor nikal hi aati hai...lekin har family ki jaan pahchaan videshon main nahin hoti naa....

muje bhar ke log bhut passand hai. kyunki iske karan bhut hote hai

1. Honest hote hai
2. sacche bhi hote hai
3. ek dusre se jalte nhi
4. aapne kaam se kaam rhate hai
5. muj masti karte hai
6. ek system ke anusar chalte hai
7. Insaano ki trha rhate hai

ager koi bhar jake un jasia ban bhi jaye to koi burai nhi usmain.

or ye bar bar NRI ko baadnaam karna band karo aap . Jasia desh wasia bhesh ho jata madam ji

[Samarkadian]

Rajni,

You may find these cases even in non-NRI marriages equally which are not fixed through Jatland Matrimonial or any other services. Fraud is a serious allegation when you tag Jatland with it. Its services are free as we all know and its a medium/tool basically. It would not be wise to completely blame a tool like JL matri services for the hidden motives of the boy or family.No one in the world has yet guranteed the human nature,including both boy and girls. Thaty there are divorce cases are on its all time high even in jat community even in arranged marriaged fixed through all socital verifications by elders.Marriages are otherwise a gamble in itself, if you win, then its bingo if not then its a loss. Mostly the matri users are not even active members of the forum.They just sign up for matrimonial purposes. However, the paramount pain goes a family through in such cases is highly unfortunate. Haryana Govt has started recently some corrective measures for NRIs marriages. You may ve a look. If any such thing has happened in your circle then your emphasis and energy must focus on saving the girl's remaining future and if you want to punish the groom's family there are legal proceedings. One can easily understand the bitterness and frustation it creates but is it wise to be just bitter and blame the the tool in totality. Thats my opinion and do not take it otherwise.

[Arvindc]

Adding to what Samar said:

You can take help of Jatland, there are many NRI members here, someone might help you to get the reality, etc. To what extent an unknown person would go depends upon your request and the trust. It would be easier if you personally know a regular member on jatland (with active participation in forums) and forward your request through her/him.

Wish you good luck!

[drkarminder]

rakesh ji aap ne us photo mein din raat bi deekhegya k...tu kasuta chala kr rya s bhai...C.i.A mein bharti ho jya...nayi intellegnce agency khuli s...aap jaise chokas aadamyan ki zroot s...yaar rakesh ya to tanne batani padagi bhai mero photo mein tanne raat kistariyan dikhi......

[rajninarwal]

You badly need a Psychiatrist...

[rajninarwal]

Samar,
I did not blame Jatland for anything. Objective was just to know is there anyway Jatland can help those girls who are being ditched by those NRI's who posted their matrimonial adds on Jatland.... I appreciate your suggestions and will pass it on to the victim...

Rajni

[Dagar25]

.
"People look for matrimonials only when simple ways of seach don't work".
Please be wary of looking a match through matrimonials.

Good observation brother......i think most of the person of our community would have ever needed matrimonial site's services....these things are made for ppl who don't keep good family tie-up.

[dahiyarocks]

i have a few suggestion regarding matrimonial on jatland

but i dont think that admin will be generous enough to even take a glance over them and respond.

[saurabhjaglan]

रजनी जी ,

आपने जो विषय हम सभी लोगो के समक्ष रखा है ये प्रशंसा योग्य है |
इस से हम सभी लोग आगे से सचेत रहेंगे |

परन्तु "NRI " शब्द का direct प्रयोग ठीक नहीं लगता |
एक केस से सभी NRI भाईओं पर हम शक की सुईं नहीं ड़ाल सकते |

और JL Matrimonial service से अब तक किसी का कुछ भला ही हुआ है |

और जहाँ तक ऐसी किसी लड़की का सवाल है जिसके साथ ऐसा कुछ हुआ है तो हमारा समाज उसके साथ है |
परन्तु जींवन में जंग खुद ही लड़ कर जीती जाती है | दुसरे तो Genuine guidance दे सकते हैं |
और कोई इतना भी कर दे तो बहुत है |
केस तो खुद ही लड़ना पड़ेगा |

चाहे कोई लड़की हो या लड़का..सब जीवन मैं सुख शांति से जीना चाहते हैं |
और कोई भी अपना घर बर्बाद करके ,अपनी खानदान,कुनबे की बदनामी करके क्यों दुसरे देश भागा हुआ है ये भी सोचने का विषय है |

एक बात और मैं कहना चाहूँगा की एक पक्ष को सुन कर हम लोग चाहे कोई भी हो फैसला नहीं सुना सकते |
समझदार इंसान को दोनों पक्ष सुन कर या दुसरे पक्ष का पता करके ही कोई सलाह मशवरा देना चाहिए |

धन्यवाद्,

[vkbalyan]

Sabhi Bhayo ne meri Ram Ram. Case koi bhi hua ho ya hona ho vah mukader ka khel hai. Agar koi Jatland ko esme dosh de to vah sarasar galat hai. Jatland se Jat Samaj ka bhala hi hua hai yah meri me dekh chuka hu. Jatland ke dwara meri Cousin ki shaadi hui and she is living with her hubby with enjoy. Jatland apko yah kabhi nahi kahti ki guys (Ladke/Ladki) ka chal-chalan thik hai. Ye to sirf ads dekhne wale ko hi puchh-tachh karke shaadi ke liye aage badhna chahiye. Esliye Jatland ko dosh dena galat hai kyoki ye to ek dusre ka ads dekhne ka madhyam hai. Raha NRI ka mamla. Me yah dekh chuka hu ki NRI ke mamle jayadatar fraud hi hote hai. NRI ko verify karna bhi muskil hota hai ki kon us country me jakar dekhega ki vah kya kar raha hai. yah muskil hai. Kuch NRI foreign me chhota-mota kam karte hai tatha yaha deenge marte hai ki me to achchhi post par hu dollar kama raha hu. Bhayo ko meri salah hai ki NRI Guy ko shaadi ke liye consider karte samay bahut sabdhani ki jarurat hai.

[vkbalyan]

Dear Rajni ji,
I also appreciate what are you saying Rajni, but in my opinion it is not possible for Jatland to verify the ads whether it is true or false. Jatland is only media of connecting the people through ads. After going through the ads people who want to go at final stage for marriage must she everything at his own responsibility. This is not responsiblity of Jatland to verify the character of a Guy whether he belongs to good family or bad. Jatland can help only deleting the ads of NRI, but it would not be good for NRI persons who are honest.

[rajninarwal]

Good to see your comments Jaglan Sir. I believe no participant of this thread actually checked what I have posted?
I had no intentions to blame Jatland and NRI's ever. If it seems my apologies....
The thread was to discuss the wayouts and to check if by any chance there is any possibilty Jatland can help.
And as far as the help of society is concern, my opinion differs to yours. Society never helps but complicate a life. Even if a soul try to recollect life and forget whatever happened..our society kinda force the soul to remain in grief.
I will write in to ADMIN to shred this thread. Its unnecessarily eating memories..Do take care...
Regards
Rajni

[rajninarwal]

Thank you for taking time to comment Vinod Ji..The thread was just to check the way outs to help a soul. There were no intentions to blame Jatland or NRI's. If it seems in any of the comments...apologies
Do take care
Regards
Rajni

[saurabhjaglan]

धन्यवाद् रजनी जी,

आपकी भावनाए और विचार बहुत अच्छे हैं जिन पर कोई भी शक नहीं कर सकता |
परन्तु मेरे विचार से कभी "शब्द" misunderstangings खड़ी कर देते हैं ,जिनका तात्पर्य पूछ लेने में भलाई रहती है |और सम्बन्ध मधुर बने रहते हैं |
इसी लिए मैंने भी अपने विचार आपके सामने रख दिए |

जहाँ तक हमारी उस बहिन का सवाल है जिसके साथ गलत हुआ है |हम और हमारा JL परिवार उसकी मदद के लिए खड़ा हुआ है |
और जब हमने उसे बहिन बोल दिया तो उसको अपनी प्रॉब्लम हमसे या जिस भी JL senior मेम्बर से discuss करना चाहे ,जिस पर उसको भरोसा हो ,तो कर सकती है |
उनका नाम ,पता पूर्ण रूप से गुप्त रखा जायेगा |

जैसे हम अपनी सगी बहिन के लिए मदद करते ,वैसे ही हम उसके लिए भी तत्पर रहेंगे |

सामने आये बिना ,discuss किये बिना ,कोई उनकी प्रोब्लेम्स को नहीं समझ पायेगा |
उनके केस की क्या latest condition है ,कोन कोन सी धराये लगी हुए हैं ,उनका IEO (पुलिस) कोन था?
बहुत सी चीज़े हैं जिन्हें वही लड़की और उसके legal papers ही clear कर सकते हैं |

और लड़की को यह समझना चाहिए की ये एक लम्बी लड़ाई है जिसमे उसके धेर्य और संयम की परीक्षा होगी ही |

शायद आप समझ रही हो की मैं क्या कहना चाहता हूँ |

[rajninarwal]

The request is been sent to Delete the thread...

[saurabhjaglan]

अगर मान्निये बुरडक जी के या मेरे विचार पूछे जाये तो ये Thread डिलीट नहीं होना चाहिए |

इस Thread से हमारे समाज को बहुत सी सिक्षाये मिलती हैं ,जो आने वाले JL मेबेर्स को भी सचेत करती रहेंगी |

इसलिए इस Thread का यहाँ बने रहना ज़रूरी है |
इस से लोगो को ये भी रहे की JL परिवार उनके लिए खड़ा होने की शमता भी रखता है |
कल हमें लोगो को जवाब भी देना है की हमने क्या किया या नहीं ?

वो बात अलग है की किसी ने पहले मदद के लिए Thread बनाये और बाद मैं मदद लेने से मन भी किये और thread डिलीट करने को कह दिया -|

Thread कोई भी अपनी मर्ज़ी से बना सकता है परन्तु अगर वह thread सामाजिक problems से रूबरू करवाता है तो उसको इतने आराम से डिलीट नहीं किया जाना चाहिए |

धन्यवाद ,

[ravinderjeet]

छोरी ने ----दुनिया का सब तें सुथरा बटेऊ चाहिए ,सब तें घणा कमाऊ हो , सब तें ऊंचे खानदान का हो ,करोड़आँ अरबां की कमाई हो |छोरे ने ----- दुनिया की सब तें सुथरी,लांबी,ठाडी छोरी चाहिए ,घर का सारा काम आंदा हो घणी सारी पढ़ लिख री हो |


गुण ,खानदान कोए ना देखता आजकाल ,ज्यां तें इतने रोले अर तलाक होवें सें |

[Prikshit]

In my opinion deleting this thread means getting away with this serious issue. A very serious matter is being brought to the notice. With little awareness and thorough background check such incidents can be prevented. What happened was very
inhuman act and the culprits should not be spared. Please mull over it just don't go blind after seeing the wealth and status and marry your kins or relatives their.

I have seen parents who take a huge burden of marrying their daughters as soon as possible. As a result many a times wrong selections are being made. Time has changed so does people, so one need to be very careful about these matters.
No doubt girls suffers the most but this can be avoided with little efforts in right direction. One never tolerates bad to their daughters, why not the same being done to daughter in laws. This is still a major issue which need to be dealt seriously.

[vijay]

Good Topic !
But, Instead of some good answers most of the people will start questioning.


For Example :

http://www.jatland.com/forums/showthread.php?22375-Matrimonial-Websites

[rajninarwal]

@Vijay Singh...do you have a suggestion for members or ADMIN Vijay Ji? We would for sure not question your valued suggestion.Please do suggest.

[vijay]

Suggestions do come out of discussions, if they do happen positively.

I hope you have read the earlier discussion ( I posted a link ) and how people take it GENERALLY.

I don't know the exact ratio but its all about Few People's Lives Vs FUN UNLIMITED. :)

[AbhinavMahle]

In old days our parents used to meet many people in various occasions and finding a match was too easy. Earlier our relatives used to suggest matches for marriages.
But now a days no one has so regular visits to their relatives and relatives do not suggest matches easily because they do not want to be responsible for anything.
So matrimonial site are very good and helping.
In matrimonial adds, people just gathers a few information;Everything else used to be completed in the former manner.

[ssgoyat]

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/life-style/relationships/man-woman/NRI-grooms-no-longer-in-demand/articleshow/10726123.cms


The charm of the NRI groom is fading in the marriage market as overseas economies continue to be unstable.

Indian brides, it seems, are paying attention to what the song, "Pardesiyon Se Naa Ankhiyaan Milana", preaches. Girls from NRI families too, are humming "Yeh Mera India". It's India shining for both when it comes to seeking life partners, as Indian and NRI girls want matches in India. Now, while 50% of Indians as well as NRIs discreetly mention in their wedding profiles on matchmaking portals that they are not interested in an NRI match, the remaining 50% don't put 'NRI' as even one of the options in the preferences.

Gourav Rakshit from a wedding portal says, "During recession in 2008 and 2009, 60% of the people registering on our portal mentioned 'no NRI grooms'. In 2011, after America was stripped of its AAA rating and many NRIs returned home looking for jobs, this year too, 50% have mentioned they don't want NRI grooms." Rakshit adds that things have gotten worse as even NRI girls are now looking for India-based grooms. "Many NRI families seeking a match for their daughters too have mentioned they don't want an NRI groom," he says.

Faced with declining salaries and job cuts, an increasing number of NRIs is moving to India. The Doshi family in New Jersey is one such. Their daughter, Hetal, who is married to an IT professional, recently shifted to India after her husband lost his job. Her parents have now decided to look for an Indian groom for their younger daughter, Shikha. Her father, Jigen Doshi, told us, "Many NRIs are shifting to India. Western economies are unstable."

Murugavel Janakiraman, founder and CEO of another wedding portal, says, "With the Indian economy booming, Indian grooms are looking as attractive as the NRI ones. Indian brides are realising that professionals in India are as smart, qualified and well-paid as their NRI counterparts."

Says Anushree Pal, who is looking for a groom for her 26-year-old daughter, "After 9/11 and other terror attacks around the world, there have been so many reports where Indians have not been treated well. I don't want that to be the case with my daughter. Also, we have everything here now - from top brands to supermarkets. My daughter will have it all, so why go for an NRI?"

For research analyst Preeti Vats*, 26, India is where the heart is. "Given the recession that's hit the foreign market, my parents haven't looked for a match outside India. India is progressing at an amazing rate - we have everything here, including our families." Says Suggandha Mehrotra, 26, 'I would rather marry a desi because they are a safer bet. There are fewer chances of them being handed the pink slip."

[virenderahlawat]

There are people who are posting there matrimonial adds on Jatland and ditching girls. Specially NRI's are doing it. Some of them are already married or into relation with other girls but they still post their matrimonial adds on Jatland. Its not only about posting adds, they marry girls and after spoiling there lives they are running back to abroad. Is there any way Jatland can help those girls?

Dear Friend

JL is doing a great service to the jat community , otherwise all the other communty matri sites are the biggest fleecers of money and dupe you just for small amount of money

I am also using JL, other sites for my daughter's matri, but you should take up the responsibility of investigating, even if the proposal is through a known person

[ssgoyat]

There are people who are posting there matrimonial adds on Jatland and ditching girls. Specially NRI's are doing it. Some of them are already married or into relation with other girls but they still post their matrimonial adds on Jatland. Its not only about posting adds, they marry girls and after spoiling there lives they are running back to abroad. Is there any way Jatland can help those girls?


Bharti...
I have a scenario for you.If there is an NRI...His family wants him to marry an Indian JAT GIRL so that they can show in their circle or society k dekho humara ladka humare kahe main chalta hai, ye humare sanskaar hi hain k humara ladka videsh jaake bi nahin badla,humare kahe anusaar chalta hai, pata nahin wo kaise maa baap hote hain jinkey bachey bahar jaakar wahin k ho jaate hain,humara beta aisa nahin hai...but the boy is either already married or in relation with a girl in abroad...now the boy love his family very much and doesnt want to hurt them either,wo chahta hai k uskey maa baap ki naak nichi nahin honi chahiye...so only for their happiness and so called respect in society he comes to India and marry a girl...he will stay with the girl for some time and will go back to abroad...wat you suggest in this scenario...obviosly kahin na kahin, koi na koi jaan-pehchaan ya rishtedaari jaroor nikal hi aati hai...lekin har family ki jaan pahchaan videshon main nahin hoti naa....

This scenario finally has happy ending, the girl is also abroad now with the said NRI :-). Wonder if she ever gets time to log on to Jatland now.

[rekhasmriti]

NRI or No NRI
BGV or No BGV
Referred by relative or not
JL matrimonial or No JL matrimonial

Blah .... Or No Blah....

Marriage is the biggest gamble ever . Jiski kismat mei harna likha hai usse duniya ki koi takat nahi jeeta sakti .

PS : It applies to both the players Guy and Gal .

[rinkusheoran]

NRI or No NRI
BGV or No BGV
Referred by relative or not
JL matrimonial or No JL matrimonial

Blah .... Or No Blah....

Marriage is the biggest gamble ever . Jiski kismat mei harna likha hai usse duniya ki koi takat nahi jeeta sakti .

PS : It applies to both the players Guy and Gal .

true to certain extent but when you play gamble you take stpes very carefully you dont step blindly. When someone suggest anyone, verify by yourself as well.

[rekhasmriti]

In agreement , apni jeb n doosri ke jeb dekhni toh banti hai before one start making bets .
Still no garranty of winning .

[anilsangwan]

This scenario finally has happy ending, the girl is also abroad now with the said NRI :-). Wonder if she ever gets time to log on to Jatland now.

Ha ha ha ha ha ha! Ebbb to NRI bann ke ....muh chikdda chikdaa ke angrejji kaategi :) ...... !! People have many faces!

[bishanleo2001]

hahah means one girl's gain on the loss of another..... that guy is still in win-win situation and got the upper hand in choosing the one he want to spend his life with.... i hope this relationship lasts longer happily......
This scenario finally has happy ending, the girl is also abroad now with the said NRI :-). Wonder if she ever gets time to log on to Jatland now.

[saurabhjaglan]

Its everywhere , not only in Jat matrimonial sites but also in others too..

So pyar andha hota hai...so do greed of a humen being.

i am talking abt both factors chahe "NRI" tag dekh kr shadi ki ho ya pyar main "andhe" ho kar..
here "andha" means neglecting advise of ur parents or your closed friends or not doing cross checks.

The rest is here...a thread that started a few months back but still people are enjoying it rather than taking a lesson out of it.

May God bless the poor girl who suffered a lot .

this is why we need a "society" that can help and protect the rights and life of such girls and shd also do cross check of the guys who just made false matrimonial profiles and play with emotions of innocent girls.

At the end , only a girl suffers ..

No one is ready to marry such girls kz our man dominated society always try their best to find the fault of a girl and play jokes on her tears.

Jis din admi ko khud chot lagti hai oos din wo dusre ke dukh ko samzta hai


Thanks for your patience and time ,
Saurabh Jaglan

[rekhasmriti]

" can help and protect the rights and life of such girls and shd also do cross check of the guys who just made false matrimonial profiles and play with emotions of innocent girls"

May be I an ignorant person but why only gals ........why not we have society which protect so called rights of an individual irrespective of they being gal or guy .
Unless you are trying to say only " guys " make fake profiles and gals are too innocent .

" At the end , only a girl suffers .. "

I here disagree , the kinda cliche society we are talking about is full of so called educated ( in terms of degrees only ) people who without any reasons for the sake of gossip accuse women . However we also have educated people who understand the situation and be a support instead accusing gal / guy .

Who gives a damn about that - Cliche society full of uneducated people . I believe start changing urself , society itself be changed . Its people like me n u make society .

[saurabhjaglan]

"you are trying to say only " guys " make fake profiles and gals are too innocent ."

Really i never had encountered a single girl who is involved in fake profiles...cd be u r better judge.

we also have educated people who understand the situation and be a support instead accusing gal / guy ."

Where are those guys smriti?please let us know such live examples.

You could be right as you are more of "theoritical" educated and i am "practically" educated.

Girls cd be 1% or less involved in fake profiles and ; as per your def of "educated" guy there cd be .001% such educated guys in society.but % of such girls who are suffering is more than 1 % in our society.

You are pretty very intelligent but we have to look analyze society on a more practical grounds rather than theoretical Bookish moral value lectures.


There is a Huge difference between being an "HR of a company" and understanding "HR of our society."

Do you know how much time a girl gets to get the justice from our courts?
do you think parents also supports 100% to these girls?and what abt society?
have you ever accompanied such girls in courts?do u know how much they suffer?

Come to practical facts ...what matters to me is only Facts and fgures..and live examples.
i hv seen so many cases cnt name them here..
so i support girls on practical grounds by Legal help(Police,women cell,Court) rather than bookish words on JL threads.

But yes your Advice,replies,suggestions makes our threads more alive.

So please keep posting..replying

Thanks for your patience and time,
Saurabh Jaglan


" can help and protect the rights and life of such girls and shd also do cross check of the guys who just made false matrimonial profiles and play with emotions of innocent girls"

May be I an ignorant person but why only gals ........why not we have society which protect so called rights of an individual irrespective of they being gal or guy .
Unless you are trying to say only " guys " make fake profiles and gals are too innocent .

" At the end , only a girl suffers .. "

I here disagree , the kinda cliche society we are talking about is full of so called educated ( in terms of degrees only ) people who without any reasons for the sake of gossip accuse women . However we also have educated people who understand the situation and be a support instead accusing gal / guy .

Who gives a damn about that - Cliche society full of uneducated people . I believe start changing urself , society itself be changed . Its people like me n u make society .

[ssgoyat]

"you are trying to say only " guys " make fake profiles and gals are too innocent ."

Really i never had encountered a single girl who is involved in fake profiles...cd be u r better judge.


Thanks for your patience and time,
Saurabh Jaglan

The very first thing one will find fake on a girls profile is the pic..... i won't say fake, but very very deceptive.

waise bhi 'apne baalak ne ke koe bhunda bataya karei"

[rekhasmriti]

" Really i never had encountered a single girl who is involved in fake profiles...cd be u r better judge "
I have no clue about either guy or gal fake profile . I was referring natural human tendency here irrespective of gender .

" Where are those guys smriti?please let us know such live examples. "
Come on now u sounded like a pessimist , please I m not judging somebody as per ur posts u seems to be like one . Though I do not know many people but I m sure there would plenty more .

" You could be right as you are more of "theoritical" educated and i am "practically" educated " -U may be right , no practical knowledge about same

Do you know how much time a girl gets to get the justice from our courts?
No , agar ladki court ke chakkar kat rahi hai toh ladka bhi toh kat raha hai . We are using suffering word for gal why COZ she is a gal -----

do you think parents also supports 100% to these girls?and what abt society?
Such cliche society -----I do not care . If parents not supporting gals so .........what can I say sue the parents for finding bad match .
All find the best match they can .........

Yar itna padhane likhane ke bad bhi , independent banane ke bad bhi , social aware banane ke bad bhi , confident banane ke bad bhi ( all coz of parents )
+ laws ( by govt ) ke bad bhi
Still agar LAKDI suffer kar rahi hai , toh I do not know what else we can do to fix it . It is much of the mind set irrespective of anybody's fault or may be nobody's fault ,
always BECHARI ladki .
This BECHARA word is what I am talking about .

Marriage is a gamble , bad luck things do not work out goes for both . I may be wrong but in order to avoid this so called " BECHARI " tag gals remain stuck with awful marriages ( i m referring to domestic violence here ).

[jstomar]

Dear Madam,
Its not at all Bechari or Behara...We do suffer in life because lack of self confidence and less maturity in life.
We must develop ourself other wise all education, all best wishes, all caring from relatives will not help and will continue to be called like Bechari or Bechara. So wake up and improve the self confidence. Improving self confidence will give power to fight in life.

[rekhasmriti]

In agreement with you Sir .

[Prikshit]

It's better to be safe than sorry. Likewise its better to do a good BGC. 100% to kisi ka pata nhi chalta but if you give it a try 70-80% percent bedh to sabka lagja se.

[rekhasmriti]

"70-80% percent bedh"

Seriously .......Amen for all .