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nainsunil007
November 10th, 2011, 06:56 PM
शादी के बाद आदमी माँ ओर अपनी पतनी के बीच मे फंस कर रह जाता है ! वह विचलित हो जाता है कि किसकी बात माने,क्योंकि जब सास बहू की लडाई होती है तो कभी माँ की गलती होती है तो कभी पतनी की ! अगर माँ की साईड ले तो पतनी नाराज ओर पतनी की साइड ले तो माँ नाराज!
इस तरह की सिचुयेशन मे आदमी क्या कर सकता है ओर कैसे इस दुविधा से निकल सकता है,
कृप्या अपने विचार प्रकट करें ओर कोई निषकर्ष निकालें.........:confused:

rajneeshantil
November 10th, 2011, 07:30 PM
really tough question sunil bhai but depends upon the mental toughness of a person. mental nu kahi hai ak dil ki kahunga to vo to bivi ki taraf jhuka reh hai. also, nobody can guide you how to handle this type of problem. khud mare te ai kaam chaale hai. kai bar experiment karne pade hai. kai bar diplomatic hona pade hai. kai baar tagdi si acting karni pade hai. kai baar donu ki bheja fry karan aali baata pe ha mein ha milani pade hai. kai baar akle me bari bari donua te maa tu thik hai, bivi to bhi puri galat na hai kehni pade hai. really tough to please both. nu samj lo ak see-saw pe donu bathane pade hai, ak side maa ar dusri side bivi. kade ek uppar karni pade hai, kade dusri. jabbe te jhulan mein bhi donua me maza aa hai. jo bhi donua mein te upar rakh di te usne niche ati hanna jo pet mein gudgudi ho hai uska bera konya lagge na. gehri baat hai samjn ki koshish kariyo.

urmiladuhan
November 10th, 2011, 08:01 PM
शादी के बाद आदमी माँ ओर अपनी पतनी के बीच मे फंस कर रह जाता है ! वह विचलित हो जाता है कि किसकी बात माने,क्योंकि जब सास बहू की लडाई होती है तो कभी माँ की गलती होती है तो कभी पतनी की ! अगर माँ की साईड ले तो पतनी नाराज ओर पतनी की साइड ले तो माँ नाराज!
इस तरह की सिचुयेशन मे आदमी क्या कर सकता है ओर कैसे इस दुविधा से निकल सकता है,
कृप्या अपने विचार प्रकट करें ओर कोई निषकर्ष निकालें.........:confused:


Don't meddle - just watch the saas baahu show live!!!

(Just joking)

JSRana
November 10th, 2011, 08:04 PM
really tough question sunil bhai but depends upon the mental toughness of a person. mental nu kahi hai ak dil ki kahunga to vo to bivi ki taraf jhuka reh hai. also, nobody can guide you how to handle this type of problem. khud mare te ai kaam chaale hai. kai bar experiment karne pade hai. kai bar diplomatic hona pade hai. kai baar tagdi si acting karni pade hai. kai baar donu ki bheja fry karan aali baata pe ha mein ha milani pade hai. kai baar akle me bari bari donua te maa tu thik hai, bivi to bhi puri galat na hai kehni pade hai. really tough to please both. nu samj lo ak see-saw pe donu bathane pade hai, ak side maa ar dusri side bivi. kade ek uppar karni pade hai, kade dusri. jabbe te jhulan mein bhi donua me maza aa hai. jo bhi donua mein te upar rakh di te usne niche ati hanna jo pet mein gudgudi ho hai uska bera konya lagge na. gehri baat hai samjn ki koshish kariyo.

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urmiladuhan
November 10th, 2011, 08:19 PM
Don't meddle - just watch the saas baahu show live!!!

(Just joking)

I know (personal experience) that mothers purposely want to drag their son into the fight. I think, the son should keep out in his own interest.

ravinderjeet
November 10th, 2011, 08:53 PM
पत्नी ते और भी आ जावें ,माँ कोणी आवे |

urmiladuhan
November 10th, 2011, 09:22 PM
पत्नी ते और भी आ जावें ,माँ कोणी आवे |

such thinking is not in the interest of keeping the family together - rather breaks it apart.

saurabhjaglan
November 10th, 2011, 09:57 PM
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शादी के बाद आदमी माँ ओर अपनी पतनी के बीच मे फंस कर रह जाता है ! वह विचलित हो जाता है कि किसकी बात माने,क्योंकि जब सास बहू की लडाई होती है तो कभी माँ की गलती होती है तो कभी पतनी की ! अगर माँ की साईड ले तो पतनी नाराज ओर पतनी की साइड ले तो माँ नाराज!
इस तरह की सिचुयेशन मे आदमी क्या कर सकता है ओर कैसे इस दुविधा से निकल सकता है,
कृप्या अपने विचार प्रकट करें ओर कोई निषकर्ष निकालें.........:confused:

nainsunil007
November 11th, 2011, 09:57 AM
really tough question sunil bhai but depends upon the mental toughness of a person. mental nu kahi hai ak dil ki kahunga to vo to bivi ki taraf jhuka reh hai. also, nobody can guide you how to handle this type of problem. khud mare te ai kaam chaale hai. kai bar experiment karne pade hai. kai bar diplomatic hona pade hai. kai baar tagdi si acting karni pade hai. kai baar donu ki bheja fry karan aali baata pe ha mein ha milani pade hai. kai baar akle me bari bari donua te maa tu thik hai, bivi to bhi puri galat na hai kehni pade hai. really tough to please both. nu samj lo ak see-saw pe donu bathane pade hai, ak side maa ar dusri side bivi. kade ek uppar karni pade hai, kade dusri. jabbe te jhulan mein bhi donua me maza aa hai. jo bhi donua mein te upar rakh di te usne niche ati hanna jo pet mein gudgudi ho hai uska bera konya lagge na. gehri baat hai samjn ki koshish kariyo.

सही मै इसतै बत्ती इस बात को कोए तोड नही हो सकता! पर कई बार सिचुएशन इतनी बदतर हो जाती है कि दिमाग खराब हो जाता है !
ऐसा मेरे साथ तो नही हूआ क्योंकि ना तो मेरे पास माँ है ना बहू, पर मेरे कई दोस्तों की यही समस्यi थी, तो सोचा तागा चला कै देख लूं के बेरा कुछ
ज्ञान की बात मिल जा

kuldeeppunia25
November 11th, 2011, 10:07 AM
शादी के बाद आदमी माँ ओर अपनी पतनी के बीच मे फंस कर रह जाता है ! वह विचलित हो जाता है कि किसकी बात माने,क्योंकि जब सास बहू की लडाई होती है तो कभी माँ की गलती होती है तो कभी पतनी की ! अगर माँ की साईड ले तो पतनी नाराज ओर पतनी की साइड ले तो माँ नाराज!
इस तरह की सिचुयेशन मे आदमी क्या कर सकता है ओर कैसे इस दुविधा से निकल सकता है,
कृप्या अपने विचार प्रकट करें ओर कोई निषकर्ष निकालें.........:confused:


donua ne kise maharaj ka naam duwa dyo :eek:,,,,vichar mil jyange :p

ravinderjeet
November 11th, 2011, 10:09 AM
सही मै इसतै बत्ती इस बात को कोए तोड नही हो सकता! पर कई बार सिचुएशन इतनी बदतर हो जाती है कि दिमाग खराब हो जाता है !
ऐसा मेरे साथ तो नही हूआ क्योंकि ना तो मेरे पास माँ है ना बहू, पर मेरे कई दोस्तों की यही समस्यi थी, तो सोचा तागा चला कै देख लूं के बेरा कुछ
ज्ञान की बात मिल जा


आड़े तोड़ कोणी पावे सुलील ,बस तेरी लेगाँ ने पुल कर लेजांगे लोग अर घषीट के ने बेरा ना कित गेरेंगे | तोड़ जब होया करे जब कोए वाद-विवाद तर्कों पर आधारित हो | तर्क और वितर्क कर के तोड़ काढ्या करें | आड़े कुतर्क का सहारा ले के बहस ने जित्तन की कोशिश करी जा स ,समाज के सिद्धांतों के विरुद्ध |ते तोड़ कोणी लिकड़े कोम्मन फोरम पे |----सद- भावनाओं सहित |

Rajkamal
November 11th, 2011, 10:45 AM
donua ne kise maharaj ka naam duwa dyo :eek:,,,,vichar mil jyange :p

Bhai fer koi si bhi kaam ke haath naa laave sara din mala fere jaangi ar roti aaape po ke khaani ar khuwaani padengi......

Fateh
November 11th, 2011, 11:37 AM
a) first of all the mother, son and other members of the family must understand and be considerate that the girl has joined the family by leaving her family.
b)mother must accept the girl as her daughter,
c) the son must respect his mother by heart, care for her and give clear indication to his wife that his mother and her respect is very dear to him.
d) love his wife by heart, take care of her and let all family members including mother to know about it.
e)when mother and wife stays together, there bound to be some misunderstandings/nok-jhok, the boy should avoide but if asked to come in, than be towards truth, be polite, peaceful, tactful and matured.
f) respect parents of the girl like yours and care for them, no comment against either family/any of family member.
Urmila, please do not mind, all these serials are totally away from reality, product of ill mind and directed by immature people.

ravinderjeet
November 11th, 2011, 11:45 AM
a) first of all the mother, son and other members of the family must understand and be considerate that the girl has joined the family by leaving her family.
B)mother must accept the girl as her daughter,
c) the son must respect his mother by heart, care for her and give clear indication to his wife that his mother and her respect is very dear to him.
D) love his wife by heart, take care of her and let all family members including mother to know about it.
E)when mother and wife stays together, there bound to be some misunderstandings/nok-jhok, the boy should avoide but if asked to come in, than be towards truth, be polite, peaceful, tactful and matured.
F) respect parents of the girl like yours and care for them, no comment against either family/any of family member.
Urmila, please do not mind, all these serials are totally away from reality, product of ill mind and directed by immature people.

फतह सर , जा सुपर लाईक बट्टन होन्दा ते में वो दाबदा |

dahiyarocks
November 11th, 2011, 11:52 AM
5-6 saal ruk................byah karke experience kar ke.............tood kad ke btaunga...............


itne datta reh madan mein...............best of luck :)

kuldeeppunia25
November 11th, 2011, 11:53 AM
[QUOTE=Rajkamal;286053]Bhai fer koi si bhi kaam ke haath naa laave sara din mala fere jaangi ar roti aaape po ke khaani ar khuwaani padengi......[/QUOTE

bhai,,,,,,roti mharaj ke dere m e khani padengi pher ,,,,,:cool:

kuldeeppunia25
November 11th, 2011, 11:56 AM
a) first of all the mother, son and other members of the family must understand and be considerate that the girl has joined the family by leaving her family.
b)mother must accept the girl as her daughter,
c) the son must respect his mother by heart, care for her and give clear indication to his wife that his mother and her respect is very dear to him.
d) love his wife by heart, take care of her and let all family members including mother to know about it.
e)when mother and wife stays together, there bound to be some misunderstandings/nok-jhok, the boy should avoide but if asked to come in, than be towards truth, be polite, peaceful, tactful and matured.
f) respect parents of the girl like yours and care for them, no comment against either family/any of family member.
Urmila, please do not mind, all these serials are totally away from reality, product of ill mind and directed by immature people.

fatah sir ,,,,,,really a good Enlightenment on concern matter.

Fateh
November 11th, 2011, 01:15 PM
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फतह सर , जा सुपर लाईक बट्टन होन्दा ते में वो दाबदा |
Brother, thanks

Fateh
November 11th, 2011, 01:18 PM
fatah sir ,,,,,,really a good Enlightenment on concern matter.

Dear Brother, thanks

nehasinghaz
November 11th, 2011, 05:44 PM
शादी के बाद आदमी माँ ओर अपनी पतनी के बीच मे फंस कर रह जाता है ! वह विचलित हो जाता है कि किसकी बात माने,क्योंकि जब सास बहू की लडाई होती है तो कभी माँ की गलती होती है तो कभी पतनी की ! अगर माँ की साईड ले तो पतनी नाराज ओर पतनी की साइड ले तो माँ नाराज!
इस तरह की सिचुयेशन मे आदमी क्या कर सकता है ओर कैसे इस दुविधा से निकल सकता है,
कृप्या अपने विचार प्रकट करें ओर कोई निषकर्ष निकालें.........:confused:



samajdar insaan woh hota hai jo doo logo k beech mi na pade...........................

nainsunil007
November 11th, 2011, 07:51 PM
samajdar insaan woh hota hai jo doo logo k beech mi na pade...........................

do logo ke beech ki baat nahi hai neha jee, do lugaian ke beech ki baat hai

nehasinghaz
November 11th, 2011, 08:45 PM
do logo ke beech ki baat nahi hai neha jee, do lugaian ke beech ki baat hai

agar do females ki baat hai tab tho beech mi bilkul padne k bhi soachna maat .........nahi phir bhagwan hi maalik hai

nainsunil007
November 12th, 2011, 09:58 AM
agar do females ki baat hai tab tho beech mi bilkul padne k bhi soachna maat .........nahi phir bhagwan hi maalik hai
यहि तो बात है नेहा जी, आदमी बीच में पडना नही चाहता, पर दोनो (माँ ओर बहू) आदमी को बीच में घसीट लेती हैं - माँ कहती है तेरी बहु नै न्यूं करा, बहू कहती है तेरी माँ मेरे तै न्यूं बोली
अब आप ही बताओ बेचारा आदमी जाए तो कहाँ जाए

preetikhatri
November 12th, 2011, 10:59 AM
sunil bhai
tu kyukar fass gya do lugaiya me?
bhai nyu kaha k sujata di ka bhai hai

ravinderpannu
November 12th, 2011, 12:39 PM
donua ne kise maharaj ka naam duwa dyo :eek:,,,,vichar mil jyange :p

Sirsa aale baabe ka,,,donu ''pitaji'' kehwegi..!!! !@#$%^&*
LOL

preetikhatri
November 12th, 2011, 01:11 PM
Sirsa aale baabe ka,,,donu ''pitaji'' kehwegi..!!! !@#$%^&*
LOL
nash ho ja ga ghar ka
sare bhukhe mar jaange is naam k chakkar mae.
kiska naam le diya
kyu apni maa bahan ki biranmati karwao ho
IN BABA K CHAKKAR TE badhiya tae kise hobby class like cooking ya
yoga class me bhej do kuch dhang ka seekengi
badhiya bana k khwavengi or
badhiya sehat ki rahvengi

Dagar25
November 12th, 2011, 01:19 PM
samajdar insaan woh hota hai jo doo logo k beech mi na pade...........................

Neha bebe tann kuchh jyada a samjhdari ki baat kah di.........

Sure
November 12th, 2011, 02:46 PM
Aik illaaz hai Maa tahi kah de ke ya bahu tanne kati pasand nahi karti bera na tere mei ke kharabi dekh li aur dusri taraf bahu ne bhi nue kaha de ki maa tanne kati pasand-----------------bera na ke kharabi hai. donoo aik dusri tah darati rahengi. mere mammle mein teh char saal baad donua ne aek dusri tah darti darti ne puchh liya ki tu manne kyun pasand na karti ke kharabi hai jab ja ke meri pol khulgi oos din baad ve dono theek hain aur mei presaan hoon.

par yoh kaam bayah hote hi karna thha.

preetikhatri
November 12th, 2011, 03:37 PM
hahahhaha
yaa tae ghanni ae bhundi bani aap gell
shukar manao narajagi me ae kaam chal gya
naa tae ek aadhi to kasuti khabar liya karre
:p :p
lol

Sure
November 12th, 2011, 03:47 PM
Mai bach gya Preeti ji, I am happy by seeing both of them with harmonious relationship. mera toh gujara oon dono ko sath lekar hi hoga na.
Aik Do Bar agar bahu apni sans ko bhi shopping karwa kar le aaaye apne sath toh bhi dosti ho jati hai jayada muskil kaam nahi hai achhe relation banana aur nibhana agar aadmi thoda sa bhi samajhdar hai toh. haan bigadna oos se bhi aasan hai log oos ko chun lete hain.

amitdeswal85
November 12th, 2011, 03:51 PM
Urmila ji you don't put all blame on mothers, wifes are also drag the husband in this fight but I cann't say any word about your personal experience.I think if wifes co-operate with the mothers than no fight will take place between them.

amitdeswal85
November 12th, 2011, 03:55 PM
Kisi khabar liya kra Preeti Ji hamne bhi to pata chala.

Sure
November 12th, 2011, 03:55 PM
Khabar kuch nahi gharelu batein hain. inko khabar kaho ya presani aadmi ki apni samajh ke anusar hai

amitdeswal85
November 12th, 2011, 04:02 PM
Bilkul sahi kaha aapne.

preetikhatri
November 12th, 2011, 04:40 PM
Kisi khabar liya kra Preeti Ji hamne bhi to pata chala.
bhai amit tu to pahla ae ghanna dhukhi laage hai
aurato tae.
so no comments
@sure
main to apni sasu tae maa maa kahti mar gi
sari tali arr jewar arr baksha uske hath mae thamma diya
fer b na jeen deti
uske nyu dard hoye jaave hai k sab kimm ek be tha layu apne babu kae
kasam tae
itni politics khele hai
k samjh main ae na aata k karu
arr meethi bijli si rahve hai
sab nae sudhi ban k dikha de hai
nash kara diya
:(

Sure
November 12th, 2011, 05:04 PM
Shopping ki kabhi ooske sath jakar ooske liye. You know shopping is the only thing which females like the most. so try this too once. aur ye bolkar ki aapki pasand aur haan apni pasand bilkul mat bataeeye

preetikhatri
November 12th, 2011, 05:26 PM
shopping k cheej hai jo kahve hai vo karu hu
arr bina kahe b
roj raat nae paa b dabaye
tadke uthte ae paa chuna
oil lagana k clr karna k
sab koshish kar li
bera na kis maati ki banni hai
patidev k shyami to preeti
paache tae aa ae yo karle vo karle
hahhaha
kasam tae itni apni maa ki seva karti na
meri maa laadu ghal k khuvati
:D :D
bas ibb to aadat pad gi
achha karte raho
kadde tae sudhar jagi

JSRana
November 12th, 2011, 05:30 PM
Shopping ki kabhi ooske sath jakar ooske liye. You know shopping is the only thing which females like the most. so try this too once. aur ye bolkar ki aapki pasand aur haan apni pasand bilkul mat bataeeye

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Sure
November 12th, 2011, 05:40 PM
Khud ki ladki apne baap aur maa ko kabhi bhi kuchh bhi kaam ke liye mana kar sakti hai aur maa kuch nahi bolti apni ladki maa ko dhamka bhi deti hai. lekin bahu kisi kaam ko mana kar ke dekho saans ki aur dhamkane ki baat toh karo bhi mat jabhi maloom pad jayega ki kaun maa hai aur kaun saans. saans kabhi bhi bahu ko beti nahi bana sakti aur bahu kabhi bhi saans koh maa samajh kar ulta nahi bol sakti. ye duri toh bani hi hai abtak toh dekhe dheere dheere dur ho jaye toh sab hak jatane wali batein hai burai jayada nahi eesme sirf security ka sawal hai. jab bacha dur hone lagta hai toh bardast nahi ho pata aur unsecure feel hone lagta hai.

urmiladuhan
November 12th, 2011, 05:53 PM
[QUOTE=amitdeswal85;286523I think if wifes co-operate with the mothers than no fight will take place between them.[/QUOTE]

Ideally.

But in reality, family situation has lot of politics - it can be quite complicated.

rajneeshantil
November 14th, 2011, 11:13 PM
har ghar mein ek ladka ar ek lakhi ho te ya problem bhi kati khatam ho jagi. ek bahu ne apni maa roti dikhigi te wa kisi aur ki maa ne ni rowavegi. dusri aur, ek saas ne bhi jib apni beti saas se bhulte dikhegi te wa apni bahu ke pankha karegi ak kade ya bhi saas na bhul ja. this is what we call "human nature".

shivamchaudhary
November 15th, 2011, 07:43 AM
Samajhdaari se kaam lo aur beech me na pado :)

Kinare reh ke spectator bane raho :)

Sure
November 15th, 2011, 01:50 PM
shopping k cheej hai jo kahve hai vo karu hu
arr bina kahe b
roj raat nae paa b dabaye
tadke uthte ae paa chuna
oil lagana k clr karna k
sab koshish kar li
bera na kis maati ki banni hai
patidev k shyami to preeti
paache tae aa ae yo karle vo karle
hahhaha
kasam tae itni apni maa ki seva karti na
meri maa laadu ghal k khuvati
:D :D
bas ibb to aadat pad gi
achha karte raho
kadde tae sudhar jagi

Achhe sanskaron ka fal meethha hi hota hai. haan sirf pakne mei der laag ja sa arr log kacha ye tod kai khana chahave sa. let this fruit be ripen and this will be the most tasty fruit of life with lot many rememberable memories and every memory will bring smile on your face.