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rekhasmriti
December 5th, 2012, 02:22 AM
Like many JLs I was also bored with same politics talk , humor , shayri n usual stuff . So I was in search of something which would be interesting and meaningful . However no luck , when few days back someone showed some blog about Domestic Violence Case against Men. Later on I googled some , and below are my findings .
The society refuses to accept Female to Male violence and considers Male to Male violence as entertainment. There are around 3300 odd NGOs to rasie voice against domestic violence against women , somewhat 15 laws .
Justice Markenday Katju of the supreme court denied divorce to man after 17 years of arduous legal struggle saying that, "Bow down before your wives, if she says look this side, look this side. If she says look that side, look that side. Even if she sounds insensible, listen to her."
"Wife calling husband names like paagal (mad), buddhoo (idiot), gadha (donkey), is not cruelty", whereas the same is an offense in the Domestic Violence Act wherein a wife can grab a man's hard earned money and property legally by only making allegations (whether true or false) that he name-called me.


http://nimis540.wordpress.com/2010/07/08/violence-against-indian-men-some-statistics/



Why we have so many laws to protect interests n welfare of women ? In past deacdes when such cases against women were less in number we did not pay any heed . Also women never raised issues coz of so called societal pressure . Beacause of which numbers raised exponentiallly . And we have to make laws n all . If we would have taken some sensible step against such crimes decades back - we would have been at better situation now .


We should learn from our mistakes . Now same is happening with cases against men . Cases are less in number , men do not raise voice coz that would hamper their so called man hood image . If we do not start acting against such cases now , numbers would increase . At the end we as a Society would fail and our families would fell apart .


PS------For all the special men in our lives .

Please do check - http://www.saveindianfamily.org/articles/open-letters.html

SandeepSirohi
December 5th, 2012, 10:09 AM
बिलकुल नया विषय चुना है आपने | घरेलु हिंसा की शिकार अगर महिला होती है तो सबको पता भी चल जाता है ओर पुरुष के खिलाफ कार्यवाही भी हो जाती है , चाहे सामाजिक हो या कानूनी लेकिन पुरुष के साथ अगर हो तो किसी को पता भी नहीं चलता ओर अगर चलता भी है तो भी गलती पुरुष की ही मानी जाती है की उसी ने कुछ गलत किया होगा |


men do not raise voice coz that would hamper their so called man hood image

यहाँ पर मेरा विचार थोडा सा अलग है पुरुष के द्वारा आवाज ना उठाने का एक अलग कारण है ओर वो है परिवार को टूटने से बचाना ओर सामाजिक छवि | (यहाँ पर सबकी राय अलग हो सकती है क्योकि घरेलू हिंसा सभी वर्गों ओर सभी पढ़े लिखे संपन्न ओर अनपढ़ परिवारों में मिलती है ) |

महिलाओ को मिले इन कानूनी सुविधाओ का ना जाने कितनी बार गलत फायदा भी उठाया जाता है | हँसी की बात तो ये है के मेरे एक मित्र का कहना है की उसकी पत्नी लड़ते हुए कहती है की दहेज का केस कर दिया तो जिंदगी भर जेल में सड़ोगे पर इसकी गंभीरता का अंदाजा सहज ही लगाया जा सकता है |

sivach
December 5th, 2012, 05:07 PM
महिलाओं के अधिकार एवं उस से जुड़े कानून, बहुत ही महत्वपूर्ण विषय है। ज्यादातर बुध्दिजीवी लोग इस विषय पर इसलिये चर्चा नहीं करना चाहते क्योंकि किसी भी बात का विरोध करने पर उन्हें महिला विरोधी कहा जा सकता है, सिर्फ घरेलू हिंसा संबंधी कानून ही नहीं बाकी कई और कानूनों का भी दुरूपयोग हो रहा है। ये बात किसी से भी छिपी नहीं है कि दहेज़ कानून, बलात्कार कानून, छेड़खानी कानून आदि सभी का पुरुषो को प्रताड़ित करने के लिए इस्तेमाल किया जा रहा है।

ऐसा भी नहीं है कि महिलाओ के खिलाफ अत्याचार बंद हो गये और इसीलिए इस तरह के कानूनों की जरुरत तो है लेकिन समय के साथ उनमें परिवर्तन की जरुरत है। समाज की विचारधारा में बहुत तेजी से बदलाव आ रहे है लेकिन हमारे देश के कानूनो में उन बदलाव का समावेश नहीं हो पा रहा है। ये ही समस्या की जड़ है।

rekhasmriti
December 6th, 2012, 02:21 AM
A married woman involved in an extramarital relationship is legally innocent while the man who is having an affair with her will be committing a criminal offence, and could be imprisoned up to five years or fined or made to endure both under Section 497 of the Indian Penal Code of 1860.

Same kind of stuff was told to me ----long time back by one of my Colleague as same was happened to his friend who was struggling for divorce and was falsely accused of such allegation by his spouse (as per my colleague).

Again I have found same kind of thing on some web----may be someone who knows law better can comment about the authenticity of such law . If such law exists then Instead of women talking about equality , Men should be talking of same .

SALURAM
December 6th, 2012, 09:21 AM
Men from across the city wore badges
that read ‘Husband not an ATM machine’,
‘Alimony kills her real potential’ and the
like on Monday to mark the third
anniversary of the Protection of Women
against Domestic Violence Act (PWDVA)
coming into force here.
These men were victims of the misuse of
laws like the PWDVA, section 498A of the
Indian Penal Code (husband or relative of
husband subjecting a woman to cruelty),
section 125 of the Criminal Procedures
Code (maintenance of wives, children)
and child custody laws, which, they
claimed, were heavily biased in favour of
women.
Jinesh Zaveri, a member of the Indian
Family Foundation (IFF) said, “Men who
complain about physical or verbal violence
inflicted by their wives are generally
portrayed as cartoons. It needs to be
understood that a huge number of men in
the country has been caught in the web
of false cases registered by their wives
under various laws.”
Mr. Zaveri claimed that 98 per cent of all
domestic violence cases were found to be
baseless and false. He said: “We stand by
the women who file genuine cases. But
these laws, made for Sitas, have been
cashed in on by Surpanakhas. Many
women misuse these laws to exact
alimony from their husbands. We are
instead in favour of sponsoring
professional courses for wives so that
they become self-sufficient after parting
from their husbands.”
Jaspreet Singh, a member of the IFF, said
that he had to give 50 per cent of his
salary to his wife as alimony, while she
herself earned 50 per cent of his salary.
The amount was huge considering that
their marriage had lasted only a year and
they had not had any children.
Dr. Sandeep Padwale, another member of
the organisation, said that his wife was
employed but had claimed to be
otherwise in her affidavit. The emotional
turmoil had cost him his job.
In order to address the problem of false
cases, the men demanded a provision for
punishment for all those misusing the
law. They said that there should be a
separate section in the IPC to safeguard
the rights of men who were victims of the
misuse of domestic violence laws. They
also demanded the formation of a
Ministry of Men’s Welfare “as it would
take care of the very originator and
contributor of the tax to the
government.”
Mr. Zaveri said that the most basic
problem encountered by men was that
the police did not register cases against
their wives. As a result there were no
statistics regarding the number of men
suffering because of false cases of
domestic violence.
The organisation, therefore, used suicide
statistics obtained from the National
Crime Records Bureau (NCRB) to arrive at
estimates of misuse.
Mr. Zaveri said that as per the figures,
over 56,000 married men committed
suicide compared to 30,000 married
women in 2007. Out of every 100 male
suicides, 45 were married, while for every
100 female suicides, 25 were married.
He said that not only did false cases
under the PWDVA drive the husbands to
suicide but they also took a toll on the
health of the husband’s parents.

rekhasmriti
December 6th, 2012, 01:45 PM
In maximum cases---Gal n her family make false accusations related to dowry . I was wondering what could be the best preventive measure for same .
Law is no wonder ----useless-----in such false cases-----women proved to be very powerful by the time case result decided it is already been years ---n damage would have been done .

Someone suggested-----Registered Marriage could be one way out-----not sure . If any one has clue regarding same , do share it please.

rekhasmriti
December 6th, 2012, 01:56 PM
Some new Law was drafted related to divorce and property division: Shocking
The Government has come up with a new draft law, which says, during a divorce a wife has a right to keep all her savings and her purchased property as her individual property and only the husband's property will be considered marital property and wife will get half of it.
The outrageous point is, if wife and husband had earned same salaries working in same jobs, in same Software Companies and have purchased property together, then after divorce the wife will be 3 times richer than the husband.
Hang on. That is not just the end of it.
The draft law also proposes that courts will give wife half of all earnings and purchased property of the husband even BEFORE the marriage.
In short, a woman can marry a guy today and divorce him tomorrow to walk away with 1/2 of his property .

SandeepSirohi
December 6th, 2012, 02:28 PM
Some new Law was drafted related to divorce and property division: Shocking
The Government has come up with a new draft law, which says, during a divorce a wife has a right to keep all her savings and her purchased property as her individual property and only the husband's property will be considered marital property and wife will get half of it.
The outrageous point is, if wife and husband had earned same salaries working in same jobs, in same Software Companies and have purchased property together, then after divorce the wife will be 3 times richer than the husband.
Hang on. That is not just the end of it.
The draft law also proposes that courts will give wife half of all earnings and purchased property of the husband even BEFORE the marriage.
In short, a woman can marry a guy today and divorce him tomorrow to walk away with 1/2 of his property .

एक मुख्य बात रह गयी, कहानी यहाँ खत्म नहीं होती की तलाक हो गया | तलाक के बाद अब पति को पूरी जिंदगी अपनी पत्नी को गुजारा भत्ता भी तो देना पड़ेगा |

shekharjat
December 8th, 2012, 12:57 PM
legal divorce option to end marriage is life saving for many but also tool for explotation for many more,some women use it repeatedly against men they do it by multiple marriages and then divorce and make lot of property.
women also use their emotional intelligence(shredding crocodile tears in front of media and police)they have used it in abundance but now being exposed on numerous occasions ppl have become intelligent, they don`t help any women .

if we really look in our society women are more responsilble for Dowry Deaths(sasu maa,nanand ji),in case of dowry demand women use their husbands and son for dowry even if husband is not interested or is satisfied with he gets in decent manner.

in one case in dehradun woman involved in the extramaritial affairs and caught by in laws imposed charges of dowry demands and charge of forcefully pushing into prostitution .now if a lady can go to such extremes it really sets alarm bells ringing in everybody head.

rekhasmriti
December 8th, 2012, 03:51 PM
Absolutely in agreement , coz of this DVA or laws many women take undue advantage of same .

However :" in our society women are more responsilble for Dowry Deaths(sasu maa,nanand ji) "

This is where we have disconnect , one cannot accuse of mother-in-law or sister-in-law ( women of the groom's family only)for same . If I am not wrong unless they are backed up by the men of house , they would not dare to to do so .

shekharjat
December 9th, 2012, 02:15 PM
from what i have seen at the time of marriage ,women topic of discussion are centred over KITNA MAAL AYA.............it becomes matter of prestige...and after marriage mostly mother in law and sister in law complain daily of the wife to her husband and petty issues are blown out of proportion this sets the tone for coming problems(one of the reasons why newly wed want BATWARA).

yes men should also apply their minds to these tendencies but some times it becomes to hard for them and as a result all these small angers and frustrations manifest into dowry demands,mistreatment and their more gruesome results as domestic voilence and death.

this is one of the main reasons that in spite of good family,wealth ,good job............these thngs happen in so called good families

SALURAM
December 9th, 2012, 06:02 PM
********************* More than 98% of Indian husbands face Domestic violence at least once from their wife on an average 3 Years of Marriage in terms of economical abuse, mental harassment, relationship cheating. More than 22,000 Indian Men have ended their life in reverse dowry Harassment by their wives against 6800 wives who ended their life due to dowry harassment by their husbands.
********************** In all the 6800 cases the Indian husbands had been sent behind bars without any investigation and more than 68% found to be innocent, where as in the 22,000 cases only 6 cases had been registered and not a single woman has been questioned as to why their Husbands ended their life, let alone any punishment.
********************** More than two-thirds of married Men in India between the ages of 15 and 49 are victims of forced sex by their girlfriends and in more than 78% cases the men had been booked under Rape cases, as they refused to marry their girlfriends.
********************** Crime against men is increasing with a Growth rate of 42% in last 5 years, whereas the media and government have never even bothered to disclose the same in front of Public. Sexual harassment and refusal of sex has happened with more than 82% Indian men as their wives refused for physical union at least once in 6 months and 42% have faced once in 3 months
********************* Due to lack of social support and legal protection many male victims of domestic abuse are taking their lives every day. Recently, the increasing threat of false cases is also driving many married men to commit suicide.
itna kuchh hone ke baad bhi har woqt yeh rona ki hum abla naari hain.

rekhasmriti
December 9th, 2012, 10:33 PM
Hmmmm----may be cases if u have seen different than what I have seen----I m not much aware of customs but heard stuff like -
kitne ki maan karoge
sagai kitne ki honi hai
gadi choti ya badi

In all such concerns-----MEN is the decision maker .

Ghar par 4 bartan honge toh bajenge hi -----even daughters have severe fights with their mothers . Woh kehte hai na " Maa kuch bhi keh de buri se buri chal jati hai AUR Saasu Maa chahe compliment bhi de hazam nahi hota " . It is pretty obvious stuff .

Its human-----one used to rule the house , now there is some outsider -----for that no blame-game rather understanding works

N on top of same Dear Shekhar ----please do not blame brides for Bantwara , how many of our generation GUYS want to stay with family - who work in metro cities

So called PRIVACY- very usual excuse

SandeepSirohi
December 10th, 2012, 01:08 PM
Dear Shekhar ----please do not blame brides for Bantwara , how many of our generation GUYS want to stay with family - who work in metro cities



from what i have seen at the time of marriage ,women topic of discussion are centred over KITNA MAAL AYA.............it becomes matter of prestige...and after marriage mostly mother in law and sister in law complain daily of the wife to her husband and petty issues are blown out of proportion this sets the tone for coming problems(one of the reasons why newly wed want BATWARA).


मेरे विचार से दोनों ही बाते ठीक है जब घर में कलह बढ़ जाती है तो कई बार माता पिता खुद ही बोल देते है की बेटा तुम लोग अलग रह लो खुश तो रहोगे |

ndalal
December 10th, 2012, 07:32 PM
बहुत ही अचंभे की बात है की किसी का भी कमेंट धागे के खिलाफ नही आया है किसी महिला/लड़की ने (रेखा उर्फ स्मृति को छोडकर )इस धागे पर अपने विचार व्यक्त नही किये... रेखा तुम्हारे पास कोनसे आंकड़ें है और वो कहाँ से प्राप्त किये हैं??
तुम्हारे अनुसार महिलाएं कोर्ट जाने के लिए उत्सुक बैठी दिखती है...पर समाज मे इन महिलाओ के साथ कोई सहानुभूति नही है॥एक तलाक़शुदा पुरुष और महिला मे दुबारा शादी होने की समभावनए(अवसर भी)किसके ज्यादा होते है??
चरित्र पर किसके ज्यादा बड़ा कलंक लगता है???
बलात्कार के बाद कितनी महिलाएं अत्महत्या करती है??इसके बरक्स कितने पूरुष जिनपर बलात्कार का आरोप लगता है वे आत्महत्या करते है???
यहाँ तो देखने पर ये भी आता है कि दहेज के लिए लड़की को मार देने और जेल मे से छूट आने पर कोई और अपनी बेटी को उन हत्यारों के यहाँ फिर से भेजने को राजी हो जाता है (ये तथ्य जानते हुए भी कि एक लड़की कुछ दिन पहले अपनी जान गवा चुकी है )

सोच मे परिवर्तन (महिला हो चाहे पूरुष )से शायद स्थिति मे सुधार आए॥


In maximum cases---Gal n her family make false accusations related to dowry . I was wondering what could be the best preventive measure for same .
Law is no wonder ----useless-----in such false cases-----women proved to be very powerful by the time case result decided it is already been years ---n damage would have been done .

Someone suggested-----Registered Marriage could be one way out-----not sure . If any one has clue regarding same , do share it please.

ndalal
December 10th, 2012, 07:33 PM
कृपा करके आप अपने आंकड़ों हेतु संदर्भ बताए (कहाँ से ये इतने कथन आपने जुटाये हैं?)
********************* More than 98% of Indian husbands face Domestic violence at least once from their wife on an average 3 Years of Marriage in terms of economical abuse, mental harassment, relationship cheating. More than 22,000 Indian Men have ended their life in reverse dowry Harassment by their wives against 6800 wives who ended their life due to dowry harassment by their husbands.
********************** In all the 6800 cases the Indian husbands had been sent behind bars without any investigation and more than 68% found to be innocent, where as in the 22,000 cases only 6 cases had been registered and not a single woman has been questioned as to why their Husbands ended their life, let alone any punishment.
********************** More than two-thirds of married Men in India between the ages of 15 and 49 are victims of forced sex by their girlfriends and in more than 78% cases the men had been booked under Rape cases, as they refused to marry their girlfriends.
********************** Crime against men is increasing with a Growth rate of 42% in last 5 years, whereas the media and government have never even bothered to disclose the same in front of Public. Sexual harassment and refusal of sex has happened with more than 82% Indian men as their wives refused for physical union at least once in 6 months and 42% have faced once in 3 months
********************* Due to lack of social support and legal protection many male victims of domestic abuse are taking their lives every day. Recently, the increasing threat of false cases is also driving many married men to commit suicide.
itna kuchh hone ke baad bhi har woqt yeh rona ki hum abla naari hain.

ndalal
December 10th, 2012, 07:51 PM
पूरुष सीधे महिलाओ से बात नही कर सकते(अधिकतर संयुक्त परिवारों मे ,पति को छोड़कर बहुओ से घर के पूरुष सीधे बातचीत नही करते हैं), आपसी बातचीत मे तो अधिकतर महिलाएं ही आमने सामने होती है। ये भी ध्यान रखना चाहिए कि ये सास और ननद भी मोहरे तो पूरुषों के ही है, इनको थोड़ी पावर देकर वो अपनी सत्ता को बनाए रखने का ही काम करते ह(वृहत स्तर पर)।और इससे बड़ी त्रासदी ये है कि वो महिलाए खुद इस खेल को नही समझ पाती हैं। जो उनके साथ उनके संधार्भ विशेष मे उनके साथ हुआ है वो उसी को आगे बढ़ाने का काम करती हैं। और उस व्यवस्था को बनाए रखने का औज़ार मात्र बन कर रह जाती है मान ज्यादा मिलने से उन्हे क्या हासिल हो जाएगा???10 रुपए के मान कि जगह 100 रुपए मिलने से वो धनवान तो होने से रही...न ही ज्यादा दहेज मिलने से पैसे या समान उनके हाथ लगना...वो ये सब समझती ही नही है॥
कितने लड़के हैं जिनकी अपने भाइयों से बनती है???या जो सच मे अपने माँ बाप कि सेवा करना चाहते है?या फिर बंटवारा नही चाहते?? और अगर इतने ही परिवार भक्त है तो महिलाओं मे नही इतनी ताकत कि वो आते ही घर के टुकड़े कर दें...बस शादी के बाद उनको बहाना मिल जाता है कि दोषारोपण तो आ जाएगा इसके सिर और मेरा काम बन जाएगा।

अगर पूरुषों की कुंठा का परिणाम घरेलु हिंसा अवम महिला की मौत होना साधारण बात है तो मुझे लगता है की दहेज के लिए प्रताड़ित महिला(का कुंठा परिणाम स्वरूप ) द्वारा कोर्ट की धम्की देना, पति को पीटना या अन्य इसी तरह के कार्यों मे सलग्न होना उतनी ही साधारण बात है...इस पर कोई हाय तौबा मचाने और धागा छेड़ने की जरूरत नही है ....

from what i have seen at the time of marriage ,women topic of discussion are centred over KITNA MAAL AYA.............it becomes matter of prestige...and after marriage mostly mother in law and sister in law complain daily of the wife to her husband and petty issues are blown out of proportion this sets the tone for coming problems(one of the reasons why newly wed want BATWARA).

yes men should also apply their minds to these tendencies but some times it becomes to hard for them and as a result all these small angers and frustrations manifest into dowry demands,mistreatment and their more gruesome results as domestic voilence and death.

this is one of the main reasons that in spite of good family,wealth ,good job............these thngs happen in so called good families

rekhasmriti
December 10th, 2012, 08:29 PM
I was equally shocked when I got to know about such cases , links mentioned post 1 :

No doubt----cases against women are too brutal and numbers are big . Becoz of which we have many laws to support welfare of women . Countless NGOs .

Why we have so many laws to protect interests n welfare of women ? In past deacdes when such cases against women were less in number we did not pay any heed . Also women never raised issues coz of so called societal pressure . Beacause of which numbers raised exponentiallly . And we have to make laws n all . If we would have taken some sensible step against such crimes decades back - we would have been at better situation now .


We should learn from our mistakes . Now same is happening with cases against men . Cases are less in number , men do not raise voice coz that would hamper their so called man hood image . If we do not start acting against such cases now , numbers would increase . At the end we as a Society would fail and our families would fell apart .

Count of false cases , false accusations may be less even though must not be ignored before they increase exponentially .

I m not Law expert --as per post 4 and 7 , law is gender bias .

"सोच मे परिवर्तन (महिला हो चाहे पूरुष )से शायद स्थिति मे सुधार आए॥"-----Absolutely in agreement









बहुत ही अचंभे की बात है की किसी का भी कमेंट धागे के खिलाफ नही आया है किसी महिला/लड़की ने (रेखा उर्फ स्मृति को छोडकर )इस धागे पर अपने विचार व्यक्त नही किये... रेखा तुम्हारे पास कोनसे आंकड़ें है और वो कहाँ से प्राप्त किये हैं??
तुम्हारे अनुसार महिलाएं कोर्ट जाने के लिए उत्सुक बैठी दिखती है...पर समाज मे इन महिलाओ के साथ कोई सहानुभूति नही है॥एक तलाक़शुदा पुरुष और महिला मे दुबारा शादी होने की समभावनए(अवसर भी)किसके ज्यादा होते है??
चरित्र पर किसके ज्यादा बड़ा कलंक लगता है???
बलात्कार के बाद कितनी महिलाएं अत्महत्या करती है??इसके बरक्स कितने पूरुष जिनपर बलात्कार का आरोप लगता है वे आत्महत्या करते है???
यहाँ तो देखने पर ये भी आता है कि दहेज के लिए लड़की को मार देने और जेल मे से छूट आने पर कोई और अपनी बेटी को उन हत्यारों के यहाँ फिर से भेजने को राजी हो जाता है (ये तथ्य जानते हुए भी कि एक लड़की कुछ दिन पहले अपनी जान गवा चुकी है )

सोच मे परिवर्तन (महिला हो चाहे पूरुष )से शायद स्थिति मे सुधार आए॥

ndalal
December 10th, 2012, 08:38 PM
http://nimis540.wordpress.com/2010/07/08/violence-against-indian-men-some-statistics/ (http://nimis540.wordpress.com/2010/0...me-statistics/) this particular link says Sorry, but you are looking for something that isn't here.


http://www.saveindianfamily.org/articles/open-letters.html (http://www.saveindianfamily.org/arti...n-letters.html) this one says that You may not be able to visit this page because of:

an out-of-date bookmark/favourite
a search engine that has an out-of-date listing for this site
a mistyped address
you have no access to this page
The requested resource was not found.
An error has occurred while processing your request.


मेरे पल्ले किममे न पड़ा इनसे ,......

rekhasmriti
December 10th, 2012, 08:46 PM
Word Press :

Violence against Indian Men-some interesting statistics
More than 98% of Indian husbands face Domestic violence at least once from their wife on an average 3 Years of Marriage in terms of economical abuse, mental harassment, relationship cheating. More than 22,000 Indian Men have ended their life in reverse dowry Harassment by their wives against 6800 wives who ended their life due to dowry harassment by their husbands.
In all the 6800 cases the Indian husbands had been sent behind bars without any investigation and more than 68% found to be innocent, where as in the 22,000 cases only 6 cases had been registered and not a single woman has been questioned as to why their Husbands ended their life, let alone any punishment.
More than two-thirds of married Men in India between the ages of 15 and 49 are victims of forced sex by their girlfriends and in more than 78% cases the men had been booked under Rape cases, as they refused to marry their girlfriends.
Crime against men is increasing with a Growth rate of 42% in last 5 years, whereas the media and government have never even bothered to disclose the same in front of Public. Sexual harassment and refusal of sex has happened with more than 82% Indian men as their wives refused for physical union at least once in 6 months and 42% have faced once in 3 months
Due to lack of social support and legal protection many male victims of domestic abuse are taking their lives every day. Recently, the increasing threat of false cases is also driving many married men to commit suicide.
“False cases are severely hampering the personal and professional lives of the most productive section of the Indian population. Aspirations of young men and women are being crushed, and their most fruitful years are being wasted in litigation. Many men have lost their jobs or have had to quit their professions as a result of the never-ending legalized harassment”, said Vikas.

rekhasmriti
December 10th, 2012, 08:49 PM
No clue how come links not working at your end .

Check this web as well :

www.saveindianfamily.org

ndalal
December 10th, 2012, 09:11 PM
क्या तुम पहली ही पंक्ति पर विश्वास कर सकती हो?
जाट लैंड के शादीशुदा पूरुषों पर बहुत बड़ा सवालिया निशान है ये...
100 जानो मे से 98 पत्नी पीड़ित है....कृपया शादीशुदा पूरुष इस बात की पुष्टि करें..
मैन हूड़ पर कोई आंच नही आएगी। सद्भ भावनाओ सहित

Word Press :

Violence against Indian Men-some interesting statistics


More than 98% of Indian husbands face Domestic violence at least once from their wife on an average 3 Years of Marriage in terms of economical abuse, mental harassment, relationship cheating. More than 22,000 Indian Men have ended their life in reverse dowry Harassment by their wives against 6800 wives who ended their life due to dowry harassment by their husbands.
In all the 6800 cases the Indian husbands had been sent behind bars without any investigation and more than 68% found to be innocent, where as in the 22,000 cases only 6 cases had been registered and not a single woman has been questioned as to why their Husbands ended their life, let alone any punishment.
More than two-thirds of married Men in India between the ages of 15 and 49 are victims of forced sex by their girlfriends and in more than 78% cases the men had been booked under Rape cases, as they refused to marry their girlfriends.
Crime against men is increasing with a Growth rate of 42% in last 5 years, whereas the media and government have never even bothered to disclose the same in front of Public. Sexual harassment and refusal of sex has happened with more than 82% Indian men as their wives refused for physical union at least once in 6 months and 42% have faced once in 3 months
Due to lack of social support and legal protection many male victims of domestic abuse are taking their lives every day. Recently, the increasing threat of false cases is also driving many married men to commit suicide.
“False cases are severely hampering the personal and professional lives of the most productive section of the Indian population. Aspirations of young men and women are being crushed, and their most fruitful years are being wasted in litigation. Many men have lost their jobs or have had to quit their professions as a result of the never-ending legalized harassment”, said Vikas.

rekhasmriti
December 10th, 2012, 09:40 PM
Yes :

More than 98% of Indian husbands face Domestic violence at least once from their wife on an average 3 Years of Marriage in terms of economical abuse, mental harassment, relationship cheating.

In 3 years -ONCE in form of economical abuse , mental harrasment , relationship ------is very much possible .
Shouting on tisie-bitsie stuff , accusing of not being able to afford good life standard ,not giving time to family , playing mind games to create differences in family -----Very common irrespective of caste-religion .
Again as u said----we both Men n Women need to be understanding , well behaved ----we all need to work together to save our Family culture .




क्या तुम पहली ही पंक्ति पर विश्वास कर सकती हो?
जाट लैंड के शादीशुदा पूरुषों पर बहुत बड़ा सवालिया निशान है ये...
100 जानो मे से 98 पत्नी पीड़ित है....कृपया शादीशुदा पूरुष इस बात की पुष्टि करें..
मैन हूड़ पर कोई आंच नही आएगी। सद्भ भावनाओ सहित

swaich
December 10th, 2012, 11:32 PM
Word Press :

Violence against Indian Men-some interesting statistics
More than 98% of Indian husbands face Domestic violence at least once from their wife on an average 3 Years of Marriage in terms of economical abuse, mental harassment, relationship cheating. More than 22,000 Indian Men have ended their life in reverse dowry Harassment by their wives against 6800 wives who ended their life due to dowry harassment by their husbands.
In all the 6800 cases the Indian husbands had been sent behind ybars without any investigation and more than 68% found to be innocent, where as in the 22,000 cases only 6 cases had been registered and not a single woman has been questioned as to why their Husbands ended their life, let alone any punishment.
More than two-thirds of married Men in India between the ages of 15 and 49 are victims of forced sex by their girlfriends and in more than 78% cases the men had been booked under Rape cases, as they refused to marry their girlfriends.
Crime against men is increasing with a Growth rate of 42% in last 5 years, whereas the media and government have never even bothered to disclose the same in front of Public. Sexual harassment and refusal of sex has happened with more than 82% Indian men as their wives refused for physical union at least once in 6 months and 42% have faced once in 3 months
Due to lack of social support and legal protection many male victims of domestic abuse are taking their lives every day. Recently, the increasing threat of false cases is also driving many married men to commit suicide.
“False cases are severely hampering the personal and professional lives of the most productive section of the Indian population. Aspirations of young men and women are being crushed, and their most frl years are being wasted in litigation. Many men have lost their jobs or have had to quit their professions as a result of the never-ending legalized harassment”, said Vikas.


What is the source of all of these figures quoted by the website. ? Most numbers seem made up. Is there any research report to back up these numbers. They sound preposterous.

rekhasmriti
December 10th, 2012, 11:36 PM
Dear Sir ,

Please go thru post 1 - links are mentioned there .
Figures made up or not ----can not comment . I was just browsing something and ended up on those web.
Figures indeed alarming . Also as per post 4-7 , some gender bias law as well ( please note I m not law expert , just stated what I have found on google)


What is the source of all of these figures quoted by the website. ? Most numbers seem made up. Is there any research report to back up these numbers. They sound preposterous.

swaich
December 11th, 2012, 08:50 AM
Dear Sir ,

Please go thru post 1 - links are mentioned there .
Figures made up or not ----can not comment . I was just browsing something and ended up on those web.
Figures indeed alarming . Also as per post 4-7 , some gender bias law as well ( please note I m not law expert , just stated what I have found on google)

The links provided are of a blog, which further quotes another website - Punjab newsline, which further starts with a few figures from NHRC and then makes sweeping statements about 98% men without disclosing the source of the data.

And even the blog has comments underneath the post criticizing the accuracy of the data. So highly debatable and unconfirmed stats.

And even if we are just browsing and happen to find something like this, its one's responsibility to check and verify before starting a thread. The onus lies on the thread starter.

On the topic, I'd say women outnumber men by a far far margin when it comes to domestic abuse. One simply has to read up a newspaper to see how many case of brutality towards women occur In a male dominated society like ours, domestic violence towards women is often a usual phenomenon of many homes.

Agreed, men are victims of aggression too but only to an extent and that too of a non-violent kind.

SandeepSirohi
December 11th, 2012, 09:53 AM
कितने लड़के हैं जिनकी अपने भाइयों से बनती है???या जो सच मे अपने माँ बाप कि सेवा करना चाहते है?या फिर बंटवारा नही चाहते?? और अगर इतने ही परिवार भक्त है तो महिलाओं मे नही इतनी ताकत कि वो आते ही घर के टुकड़े कर दें...बस शादी के बाद उनको बहाना मिल जाता है कि दोषारोपण तो आ जाएगा इसके सिर और मेरा काम बन जाएगा।


नीलम जी, कुछ अभागे होंगे जो माँ बाप की सेवा नहीं करना चाहते या जिनकी भाइयो से नहीं बनती , केवल कुछ प्रतिशत | कहते है ना "जाके पैर ना फटी बिवाई वो क्या जाने पीर परायी". मैंने देखा है सबकुछ तो अच्छे से जानता हू | गलती गलती होती है चाहे वो पुरुष की हो चाहे महिलाओं की | लिंग भेद से गलती या घरेलू हिंसा को परिभाषित नहीं किया जा सकता | खैर चलिए, हम इस धागे को इसके शीर्षक के तहत ही चलाये तो जयादा ठीक है वरना इसका हाल भी बाकियों जैसा हो जायेगा |

rekhasmriti
December 11th, 2012, 10:39 PM
" its one's responsibility to check and verify before starting a thread. The onus lies on the thread starter. " Absolutely in agreement . I guess below mentioned facts and sources would try to prove my point .

According to the men's rights movements in India, the laws suffer from the following shortcomings:
Gender Bias: The laws do not recognize cruelty and domestic violence against men. The police in India almost never register complaints of extortion or violence against men in a domestic relationship, but registering a complaint under 498A (where a woman is the aggrieved party) is widespread.
Vague definitions of dowry and stridhan.
Presumption of guilt. IPC 304B assumes that if an accidental death of a wife happens within seven years of marriage, it is to be assumed to be murder unless the husband can prove his innocence.[7]
Corruption in the police force, which often does no investigation before arresting innocent people.
Human rights violations: in most cases involving non-resident Indians, their passports are impounded and they are restricted from traveling outside the country.


No penalties for false complaints or perjury.
Often gifts offered by the bride's parents to win over the bridegroom are channelized into a dowry tunnel.[11]




The Centre for Social Research released a research report [1] opposing amendments to section 498A. According to this report, in the studied cases there were no convictions based solely on section 498A. The report however states that 6.5 percent of the studied cases were falsified. They also state that many people believe the law has been abused by "educated and independent minded women". A police official asserted that in his district one-third of dowry murder cases were found totally false by the police




Source : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dowry_law_in_India


Although socially women have been at a disadvantage but the Indian laws highly favor women. If a husband commits adultery he will be jailed, but a women can not be jailed for adultery and neither will be punished by courts
The law IPC498A demands that the husband's family be considered criminal by default unless proven clean.
According to one source, this provision is much abused as only four percent of the cases go to court and the final conviction rate is as low as two percent


Source :http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gender_discrimination_in_India


Nearly twice as many married men committed suicide compared to females in the years 2007 and 2008. Nearly twice as many men separated from their wives committed suicide compared to separated women in both the years.”
In 80% of the older cases that concluded in year 2007-08, the accused were not found guilty. The same is true for the previous years as well. Isn’t it a clear indication of how frivolous the charges usually are and how wide-spread the abuse of the system is?”


Source :http://www.indianexpress.com/news/amend-domestic-violence-act-to-plug-its-misuse-against-men-demands-ngo/527991/2


As per the figures, over 56,000 married men committed suicide compared to 30,000 married women in 2007. Out of every 100 male suicides, 45 were married, while for every 100 female suicides, 25 were married.


He said that not only did false cases under the PWDVA drive the husbands to suicide but they also took a toll on the health of the husband’s parents.


Source : http://www.thehindu.com/news/states/other-states/article38941.ece


Research Paper by Anant Kumar - http://www.academia.edu/1491737/Domestic_Violence_against_Men_in_India_A_Perspecti ve




The DV act singles out men as perpetrators of domestic violence and assumes that only women are victims. As per this law, only a woman can file a complaint against her male partner. A man, who is a victim of domestic violence, has no rights under this law.


Source : http://www.498a.org/domesticViolence.htm


Gender Bias Law :http://indiankanoon.org/doc/1833006/

rekhasmriti
December 11th, 2012, 10:47 PM
Please people understand ------We do witness such cases in our social circle .
Even if one such case gets reported , it is a concern. Before A Concern becomes Major Problem we should take some preventive measures or corrective measures to stop all such cases .
Else one day it would be an alarming situation for all of us.

Prikshit
October 9th, 2013, 10:40 AM
I was equally shocked when I got to know about such cases , links mentioned post 1 :

No doubt----cases against women are too brutal and numbers are big . Becoz of which we have many laws to support welfare of women . Countless NGOs .

Why we have so many laws to protect interests n welfare of women ? In past deacdes when such cases against women were less in number we did not pay any heed . Also women never raised issues coz of so called societal pressure . Beacause of which numbers raised exponentiallly . And we have to make laws n all . If we would have taken some sensible step against such crimes decades back - we would have been at better situation now .


We should learn from our mistakes . Now same is happening with cases against men . Cases are less in number , men do not raise voice coz that would hamper their so called man hood image . If we do not start acting against such cases now , numbers would increase . At the end we as a Society would fail and our families would fell apart .

Count of false cases , false accusations may be less even though must not be ignored before they increase exponentially .

I m not Law expert --as per post 4 and 7 , law is gender bias .

"सोच मे परिवर्तन (महिला हो चाहे पूरुष )से शायद स्थिति मे सुधार आए॥"-----Absolutely in agreement
Neither women nor men are innocent, but the irony is in both the cases the one who is innocent suffers. Facts and figures are numbers to support an idea,reality is known to those who actually suffers. Its a never ending debate, what best can be done here is that some checks and laws should be made so as to prevent the misuse of laws.