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December 30th, 2002, 05:05 AM
Here is article in The Tribune Editorial dated 30/12/02.
Get trained you daughter before she takes up the responsibility of daughter-in-law
Grooming daughters-in-law
Rohit Ghosh
WANT your daughter to be an ideal homemaker and daughter-in-law some day?
Send her to a unique school in Bhopal, Madhya Pradesh, that promises to give women of marriageable age all the tips they need for a happy wedded life.
The school, Manju Sukhramdas Sanskar Kendra, says it teaches young women the qualities and responsibilities of an ideal daughter-in-law, how to adjust to a new household and how to behave with her husband and in-laws.
And all this comes for no charge.
The school, managed by a society called Navyuvak Parishad, claims about 4,500 girls have “passed out” since it opened in 1987. The only teacher is 60-year-old Aaildas Hemnani, who says 99 per cent of her students are leading a happy married life.
Popularly known as Bhauji, Hemnani rues that more and more marriages are breaking these days because of increasing materialism and Western influence.
“I try to inculcate the values of our culture in the girls and keep them away from the Western culture. Also, I stress on tolerance. I tell the girls that in case their in-laws are hostile, they should tolerate as much as possible,” says Hemnani.
“But that does not mean that the girl should tolerate harassment. In that case, she should take every possible step to give a befitting reply to her in-laws.”
And Hemnani says the few of her students who did not have happy marriages had the odds stacked against them.
“The marriages of 1 per cent of the girls who passed out from here failed because their in-laws did not budge even an inch from their stand.”
An officer with the state government’s Tribal Welfare Department, Hemnani opted for early retirement to dedicate her time to what she sees as a social cause.
Asked how this unusual idea struck her, Hemnani told IANS: “Some of my friends were very impressed with the behaviour of my daughter after her marriage and advised me to train other girls for their marital life.”
Hemnani has also penned a book: “How to become a good son-in-law”.
“Whenever a student gets married, I gift the book to her to present it to her husband on the first day of their marital life,” she says.
From 7 a.m. to 9 a.m., Hemnani can be seen sitting in the school in front of a group of 20-25 young women, sharing tips on how to become a good daughter-in-law. The classes run for three months.
Says Jaya Thavnani, a post-graduate student: “I joined the school because I will get married soon and want to get adjusted in the new household very smoothly.”
Rashmi Chandwani, another student who joined the school in November, says of Hemnani: “She teaches us how to control our anger and how to dress after we get married.”
With tips like that, Hemnani’s students hope they are dressed for success at marriage. IANS
Get trained you daughter before she takes up the responsibility of daughter-in-law
Grooming daughters-in-law
Rohit Ghosh
WANT your daughter to be an ideal homemaker and daughter-in-law some day?
Send her to a unique school in Bhopal, Madhya Pradesh, that promises to give women of marriageable age all the tips they need for a happy wedded life.
The school, Manju Sukhramdas Sanskar Kendra, says it teaches young women the qualities and responsibilities of an ideal daughter-in-law, how to adjust to a new household and how to behave with her husband and in-laws.
And all this comes for no charge.
The school, managed by a society called Navyuvak Parishad, claims about 4,500 girls have “passed out” since it opened in 1987. The only teacher is 60-year-old Aaildas Hemnani, who says 99 per cent of her students are leading a happy married life.
Popularly known as Bhauji, Hemnani rues that more and more marriages are breaking these days because of increasing materialism and Western influence.
“I try to inculcate the values of our culture in the girls and keep them away from the Western culture. Also, I stress on tolerance. I tell the girls that in case their in-laws are hostile, they should tolerate as much as possible,” says Hemnani.
“But that does not mean that the girl should tolerate harassment. In that case, she should take every possible step to give a befitting reply to her in-laws.”
And Hemnani says the few of her students who did not have happy marriages had the odds stacked against them.
“The marriages of 1 per cent of the girls who passed out from here failed because their in-laws did not budge even an inch from their stand.”
An officer with the state government’s Tribal Welfare Department, Hemnani opted for early retirement to dedicate her time to what she sees as a social cause.
Asked how this unusual idea struck her, Hemnani told IANS: “Some of my friends were very impressed with the behaviour of my daughter after her marriage and advised me to train other girls for their marital life.”
Hemnani has also penned a book: “How to become a good son-in-law”.
“Whenever a student gets married, I gift the book to her to present it to her husband on the first day of their marital life,” she says.
From 7 a.m. to 9 a.m., Hemnani can be seen sitting in the school in front of a group of 20-25 young women, sharing tips on how to become a good daughter-in-law. The classes run for three months.
Says Jaya Thavnani, a post-graduate student: “I joined the school because I will get married soon and want to get adjusted in the new household very smoothly.”
Rashmi Chandwani, another student who joined the school in November, says of Hemnani: “She teaches us how to control our anger and how to dress after we get married.”
With tips like that, Hemnani’s students hope they are dressed for success at marriage. IANS