devdahiya
December 26th, 2004, 12:46 PM
People often wonder why some people have such great friends & manage to keep them .If you manage to apply the following in your life,the same could work for you.
In ancient Greece ,Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in high esteem.One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher & said ,"Do you know what I just heard about your friend?" '' hold on a minute,''socrates replied.''before telling me anything i'd like you to pass a little test.Its called the triple filter test.'' 'Triple filter?'' ''Thats right.'' Socrates continued.Before
you talk to me about my friend , it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you are going to say.That is why i call it the triple filter test.The first filter is TRUST.Have you made absolutly sure that what you are about to tell me is true?" "No."the man said,"actually i just heard about it and .......
" "allright ." Said socrates " so you don't really know if it is true or not."
Now let us try the second filter,the filter of GOODNESS.Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good ? " No,the contrary........."
"so," socrates continued ,"you want to tell me something bad about him, but you are not certain it is true. You may still pass the test , because there is one filter left : The filter of USEFULNESS .
Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me ? " NO,
not really . " "well ," concluded socrates ," if what you want to tell me is niether true ,nor good ,nor even useful to me, why tell it to me atall ?"
In ancient Greece ,Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in high esteem.One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher & said ,"Do you know what I just heard about your friend?" '' hold on a minute,''socrates replied.''before telling me anything i'd like you to pass a little test.Its called the triple filter test.'' 'Triple filter?'' ''Thats right.'' Socrates continued.Before
you talk to me about my friend , it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you are going to say.That is why i call it the triple filter test.The first filter is TRUST.Have you made absolutly sure that what you are about to tell me is true?" "No."the man said,"actually i just heard about it and .......
" "allright ." Said socrates " so you don't really know if it is true or not."
Now let us try the second filter,the filter of GOODNESS.Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good ? " No,the contrary........."
"so," socrates continued ,"you want to tell me something bad about him, but you are not certain it is true. You may still pass the test , because there is one filter left : The filter of USEFULNESS .
Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me ? " NO,
not really . " "well ," concluded socrates ," if what you want to tell me is niether true ,nor good ,nor even useful to me, why tell it to me atall ?"