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    Exclamation ~~ Lovely lonliness ??

    Leave me alone !! are areeeeee aap log kaha jaane lage, are ye to ek dialouge tha bas !

    Well, times have changed & so have changed the living standards & various other attributes related to our lives. I would like to discuss about the causes underlying the fast growing tendency amongst the people of finding pleasure in living alone. Its not that they dont love their parents or family members but still they find themselves more comfortable in living alone. Recently, I also came across a newer philosophy in this regards ! A boy was of the opinion that he doesnt wants to get married because he dont wanna share his house with anyone ! Just an example amongst many others, but the point that lies beneath is that why people now take even an elderly advise or a gesture out of love as a hinderance to their identity or for that matter, an interruption in their lives?

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    Quote Originally Posted by shwetadhaka View Post
    Leave me alone !! are areeeeee aap log kaha jaane lage, are ye to ek dialouge tha bas !

    Well, times have changed & so have changed the living standards & various other attributes related to our lives. I would like to discuss about the causes underlying the fast growing tendency amongst the people of finding pleasure in living alone. Its not that they dont love their parents or family members but still they find themselves more comfortable in living alone. Recently, I also came across a newer philosophy in this regards ! A boy was of the opinion that he doesnt wants to get married because he dont wanna share his house with anyone ! Just an example amongst many others, but the point that lies beneath is that why people now take even an elderly advise or a gesture out of love as a hinderance to their identity or for that matter, an interruption in their lives?
    Deleted.... can come back on topic
    Last edited by dkumars; September 24th, 2007 at 01:31 PM.

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    itna jyada bi nai sochna chaiye..
    “Lead me, follow me or get out of my way”

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    Quote Originally Posted by dkumars View Post
    If don mind juss wanna know whos dat guy ?
    Is he from JL?
    Areeeee baap re Pehla reply hi off topic !:o Why u wanna know, will it make any difference:rolleyes: !

    Well, JL ke alawa bi duniya bahut badi hai ! Was just a newer kind of approach i got to hear & found it strange, & no one from here pls!

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    Wink

    Quote Originally Posted by mukeshkumar007 View Post
    itna jyada bi nai sochna chaiye..
    Bilkul thik ! par kya kare dimaag samjhata koni yo gyan ke vachaan ! soch baithe hai !:p

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    This comfort of staying alone is growing just coz relationships are deteriorating dese days. ppl r mor self-centered which leads to bad relations n NO RELATION IS BETTER THN BAD RELATION. secondly, life has bcum so busy tht one cnt just kill time in adjusting wid a wrong person, n right person might nt b just around whn u want...so ppl saty unmarried till late years...I AM SURE IF THE GUY U R TALKING ABUT HAD CUM ACROSS WID 'HIS TYPE' GAL, HE WUD HAV NVR SAID A THING LIKE U MENTIONED. HE WUD HAV JUMPED ON MARRIAGE WITHUT FEARS. so it just tht ppl hav bcum mature to wait 4 d right thing 2 happen
    A flask of wine, a book of verse
    And thou beside me, singing in wilderness
    When wilderness is paradise.

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    Well, Shweta marriage is something that must be indviudal choice...if one feel like marryin, should go for it if one is single n happy .... let her/him be!!.....first of all he/she is Indivdual!! ... One shouldnt carried away by social n family pressure, Cuz Marriage is all about mutul understanding & sharin'

    One should nt take relations like marriage for granted n if u cant carry on ur relations its better not to tie then drag!!

    Well, if u ask bout my perception, I'm Single & Happy as far following three very deary things keep fueling my life engine

    1) Beer
    2) Rock Music+Guitars
    3) wanderlust

    Beer+Guitars+Solitdue = Nirvana for me!!!


    Rock on
    Jit
    .. " Until Lions have their historians, tales of the hunt shall always glorify the hunter! " ..



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    Quote Originally Posted by seemasindhu View Post
    This comfort of staying alone is growing just coz relationships are deteriorating dese days. ppl r mor self-centered which leads to bad relations n NO RELATION IS BETTER THN BAD RELATION. secondly, life has bcum so busy tht one cnt just kill time in adjusting wid a wrong person, n right person might nt b just around whn u want...so ppl saty unmarried till late years...I AM SURE IF THE GUY U R TALKING ABUT HAD CUM ACROSS WID 'HIS TYPE' GAL, HE WUD HAV NVR SAID A THING LIKE U MENTIONED. HE WUD HAV JUMPED ON MARRIAGE WITHUT FEARS. so it just tht ppl hav bcum mature to wait 4 d right thing 2 happen
    But is the cause at root is that we expect lot from people? Adjusting is seen as a problem now. "Right person" ....... too tough to decide !

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    Quote Originally Posted by shwetadhaka View Post
    But is the cause at root is that we expect lot from people? Adjusting is seen as a problem now. "Right person" ....... too tough to decide !
    yup adjusting wid a wrong person is problematic n foolish. bt adjusting wid a right person is prudent n fulfilling
    A flask of wine, a book of verse
    And thou beside me, singing in wilderness
    When wilderness is paradise.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cooljat View Post
    Well, Shweta marriage is something that must be indviudal choice...if one feel like marryin, should go for it if one is single n happy .... let her/him be!!.....first of all he/she is Indivdual!! ... One shouldnt carried away by social n family pressure, Cuz Marriage is all about mutul understanding & sharin'

    One should nt take relations like marriage for granted n if u cant carry on ur relations its better not to tie then drag!!

    Well, if u ask bout my perception, I'm Single & Happy as far following three very deary things keep fueling my life engine

    1) Beer
    2) Rock Music+Guitars
    3) wanderlust

    Beer+Guitars+Solitdue = Nirvana for me!!!


    Rock on
    Jit
    Well really?? But lemme tell u one thing, the topic was not at all on marriage:p Hahaaahahaaaa !

    Anyways, if u have linked it to marriage, then why u dont want to get married? why u think that ur beer, guitars etc can fill the place of a life partner? Its individual choice of course, but what is the reason for such a choice, not for u, i m asking in general?

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    Lovely lonliness ?? _Nothing New- An age old phenomenon

    There is nothing like that this trend is a recent one, it is there for centruries (don't ask me how I know about so many centuries, being just around for a couple of decades ) , there were soliloquists before & in equal abundance...only thing is now a days with the advent of whole lot of new technologies, you can be cocooned & enshrined with minimum disturbance from outside (assumed to be unfriendly & unadjusting) world.The modern means help you to stay in your own sphere of influence undisturbed by the world, whereas in old age for every bit of life , one had to bank upon the society, be it a mere square meal.This is a paradox that world has become flatter n because of speeding on information superhighway that it has taken & one the same time, people are drifting from society encircled by electronic gadgets & auxiliaries.But could it be that pasting emoticons in a chat be a substitute of lsitening to ones voice....NO, a flat NOOOOOooo. Could a voice excahnge replace the warmth of a handshake & inter personal interaction..again NO??? but a strange phenomenon has happened wherein people are replacing all physical things with the virtual stuff ...& to an utter surprise, they feel satiated also initially.....I would term it as an abnormal form of sociophobia enhanced by modern tehnology...........contests/counter claims invited!!!!!!!:rolleyes:
    Last edited by vikasgulia; September 24th, 2007 at 02:56 PM. Reason: Punctuating
    Vikas Gulia
    JAT- Just Adore Them
    "जाट गन्ना न दे, भेली दे दे"

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    Its not fare/possible for anybody

    Its really imposible and unfare also for anybody who say I am stay alone. Anybody who say, I am not interested in anybody is fearing from some thing known to that person only. Why we are feeling that we will not get good relationship or we are unable to adjust with people around. In my view its fear, Negative aproach or some Igo problem. If we think positive we get positive and if we think nagative we get nagative.
    WORD IMPOSSIBLE SAYS I M POSSIBLE.

    Apologising dosent mean that U are wrong & the other is right.....It only means that U value the relationship much more than ur ego.

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    Achaa ji!! fir wat bout ur this example : 'A boy was of the opinion that he doesnt wants to get married because he dont wanna share his house with anyone' ?? ab meri tublight mein to yehi chamak hui ki madamji Shaadi-byaah in today's context ke baare mein batla rehi hai:rolleyes::p

    Nyways, jaise har kisi sawal ke jawab nahi hota hai waise hi....Reason bhi nahi hota.....I dont wanna do cuz I dont feel like doin as simple as that!!

    Now dont get me started again .....Beer is better then woman ny given day....I proved some days before n now shall I start with Guitars too

    I guess no particular reason....many kinda ppl many kinda reason....so Matter of Choice, u see


    Rock on
    Jit



    Quote Originally Posted by shwetadhaka View Post
    Well really?? But lemme tell u one thing, the topic was not at all on marriage:p Hahaaahahaaaa !


    Anyways, if u have linked it to marriage, then why u dont want to get married? why u think that ur beer, guitars etc can fill the place of a life partner? Its individual choice of course, but what is the reason for such a choice, not for u, i m asking in general?
    .. " Until Lions have their historians, tales of the hunt shall always glorify the hunter! " ..



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    Quote Originally Posted by skarmveer View Post
    Its really imposible and unfare also for anybody who say I am stay alone. Anybody who say, I am not interested in anybody is fearing from some thing known to that person only. Why we are feeling that we will not get good relationship or we are unable to adjust with people around. In my view its fear, Negative aproach or some Igo problem. If we think positive we get positive and if we think nagative we get nagative.
    sir there is nuthing unfair in it. ppl cn b alone in full-fledge family as well. credit goes to better aware ppl...nw we r mor individual thn just a shadow of relation's as it used 2 b in older times. nw our mental faculties r mor capable n d mor intellectual one is, d mor isolated he will bcum
    A flask of wine, a book of verse
    And thou beside me, singing in wilderness
    When wilderness is paradise.

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    Exclamation Har sawaal ka jawab hota hai, aapko nahi pata ho tab bi hota hai....

    Quote Originally Posted by cooljat View Post
    Achaa ji!! fir wat bout ur this example : 'A boy was of the opinion that he doesnt wants to get married because he dont wanna share his house with anyone' ?? ab meri tublight mein to yehi chamak hui ki madamji Shaadi-byaah in today's context ke baare mein batla rehi hai:rolleyes::p

    Nyways, jaise har kisi sawal ke jawab nahi hota hai waise hi....Reason bhi nahi hota.....I dont wanna do cuz I dont feel like doin as simple as that!!

    Now dont get me started again .....Beer is better then woman ny given day....I proved some days before n now shall I start with Guitars too

    I guess no particular reason....many kinda ppl many kinda reason....so Matter of Choice, u see


    Rock on
    Jit
    Well, on serious note, no particular remarks, but when anyone says 'there is no reason', it doesnt means there isnt any. Reasons are of 2 kinds as per my understanding, reasons which we know about & the ones which either we dont know or dont wanna know! So, reason is always there is the crux !

    & 'beer is better than woman any given day' - Articles or things and living beings cant be compared at an equal platform. A woman has given u life & another one can make ur life, but a beer can do nothing more than providing instant pleasures to ur senses, however hard u may love it. And coming to the matter of proving, can u prove that the woman who gave u birth is not even better than a beer?

    When it comes to saying or proving, anyone can say anything or prove anything but it can in no manner change the truth.

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    Confining a generalist topic to man-woman relation is a best example of myopic thinking. Reasons are numerous, man woman relationships is significant part but not the only one which defines human interaction....issue ko aisa todo ki log chatkhare leke padhen aur jawab dein..a typical phenomenon now a days!!!!
    Vikas Gulia
    JAT- Just Adore Them
    "जाट गन्ना न दे, भेली दे दे"

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    Quote Originally Posted by shwetadhaka View Post
    Well, on serious note, no particular remarks, but when anyone says 'there is no reason', it doesnt means there isnt any. Reasons are of 2 kinds as per my understanding, reasons which we know about & the ones which either we dont know or dont wanna know! So, reason is always there is the crux !

    & 'beer is better than woman any given day' - Articles or things and living beings cant be compared at an equal platform. A woman has given u life & another one can make ur life, but a beer can do nothing more than providing instant pleasures to ur senses, however hard u may love it. And coming to the matter of proving, can u prove that the woman who gave u birth is not even better than a beer?

    When it comes to saying or proving, anyone can say anything or prove anything but it can in no manner change the truth.



    Yoooooooh maraaaaaaaaa ... ibb bol bhai... ya shweta tai tera byah karwakai maanegi lagei sai :D:D:D

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    Smile

    hummmm....no offense to anyone ... just watched Abhay Deol's latest movie Manorma.....movie was so so but one dialogue in the movie was awesome n I really liked it.... Deol's bro-in-law said to him that -

    " Ye aurten bhi Azeeb hoti hein.....Shaadi ke baad agar Husband kharab mil jaaye to zindgi bhar khud rotti rehti hai....aur agar kismat se achha husband mil jaaye to usse rulaati rehti hai!!:D:p:D:p:rolleyes:"

    As for the very reason ur curious bout ....I dont wanna marry cuz Im free bird just like floatin cloud.....aaj yahan kal wahan!! So simply I dont wanna spoil ny gal's life....so am happy with beer cuz she atleast wont ever complain that u've spoiled my lyf

    n the comparison between Beer n Woman was in a ligther note yaar.....mazak bhi nahi samjti tum!!! on a serious note I'm a big time feminist n I respect women a lot but I dont trust them


    over n out!!!



    Rock on
    Jit


    Quote Originally Posted by shwetadhaka View Post
    Well, on serious note, no particular remarks, but when anyone says 'there is no reason', it doesnt means there isnt any. Reasons are of 2 kinds as per my understanding, reasons which we know about & the ones which either we dont know or dont wanna know! So, reason is always there is the crux !

    & 'beer is better than woman any given day' - Articles or things and living beings cant be compared at an equal platform. A woman has given u life & another one can make ur life, but a beer can do nothing more than providing instant pleasures to ur senses, however hard u may love it. And coming to the matter of proving, can u prove that the woman who gave u birth is not even better than a beer?

    When it comes to saying or proving, anyone can say anything or prove anything but it can in no manner change the truth.
    Last edited by cooljat; September 24th, 2007 at 03:57 PM.
    .. " Until Lions have their historians, tales of the hunt shall always glorify the hunter! " ..



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    Quote Originally Posted by vikasgulia View Post
    Confining a generalist topic to man-woman relation is a best example of myopic thinking. Reasons are numerous, man woman relationships is significant part but not the only one which defines human interaction....issue ko aisa todo ki log chatkhare leke padhen aur jawab dein..a typical phenomenon now a days!!!!
    Confining Well, u r free to ponder ur unconfined, non-chaatkhaara types, non typical views, away from the man-woman relationships! Well, I was very clear with the discussion and it ranged from the people willing to live in nuclear families just for the reason of avoinding 'taka-taaki' to people who think that any kind of relation is a 'janzeer' sort of thing ! It ties their wings of freedom !

    They find it tough even to give answers arising out of love & concern and owing to this they try escaping from such relations & find solace in their loneliness or relations without tags or names attached.

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    apke iss andaj pe aarj kiya hai bahisaab......

    main toffanoo ki terha raha jindgi bar ,
    Bikhar jate wo agar muj se mahobatt kerte ...



    Quote Originally Posted by cooljat View Post
    As for the very reason ur curious bout ....I dont wanna marry cuz Im free bird just like floatin cloud.....aaj yahan kal wahan!! So simply I dont wanna spoil ny gal's life....so am happy with beer cuz she atleast wont ever complain that u've spoiled my lyf

    nJit

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