well myself being a jat by origin, do
believed in virtues of jats, n
used to have high opinion abt the same.
The use of past tense is very disappointing, beliefs should be formed by long thoughts , feelings and observations and should be lived with for liefe. either u did not believe enough or you are wrong to feel that they are broken now.
i was also blessed with the same vision by my parents also.but after seeing n feeling the practicality of life i was really
startled to visualize the truth.
Life is a very good teacher , the only bad thing about it is that it teaches the hard way! Though lessons once learnt are far more remembered than the class room lessons!
bt cdnt check even a single article related to the status of woman in jats.
Presence of a couple of female moderators in form of Rainu Kadian and Maniisha Sherawat and Bharti ji ( till a month back ) is itself a good enough proof that JAtland does give the women folk importance.
Presence of avid writers in form of the two (confusing) Neelam's , Sunita Hooda , Shweta Dhaka , Ritu , Poonam and others just strengthen the opinion !
her dreams were shattered by her fathers health who suffered massive heart attacks yet survived for her.she became witness to the trauma of her brother's breaking matrimonial relation,still tried to keep her dreams intact.
You are being contradictory in saying "dreams were shattered" and then saying "dreams were kept intact". Not to be word-picker , let us agree on this that the harsh realities of life should not act as dream breakers , they should strengthen the faith even more!
Just putting this here:
ki baandh le khwab ko tu
aatam shakti ki dor se
dor se, dor se....
aur gaanth laga palkon par tu
jor se, jor se...
ki jab halchal ho,
sapna hile aur palke uthein
shor se ,shor se....
to khwaab tera bandh jaye aankhon main aur jor se, jor se...
!
destiny played the game when just after college she gt engaged to a JAT guy with gud status.the person used her emotions for a few months.
the choice itself was wrong , status cannot be the criterion? She should have been bold enough ( I leverage this from your post where you do mention her as an intellectual and bold girl).
Even after making the choice , if she cannot get the truth out of the person , I doubt her judgements and for that she has herself to curse. We canot put the blame of our shortcomings on others , can we?
again she collected the broken pictur of her life n met a guy as per everyones choice of jat caste who promised to support her bt left her midway without any reason ,just to come later after 2 yrs to tell that he had tumour n cdnt tell his parents abt her.finally she decides to go for post graduation and fight all odds in life but once again life gave her a chance to laugh at her being a jat.
a jat again approached her n gave commitment for lifetime,this time to b bluffed n deceited with divorce after 1 yr bcoz she was blamed for not being a traditional jat girl who is expected to b introvert, traditional.,submissive.since she was bold n didnt bow to the circumstances she gt the result and the same jat caste stigma still hangs with her.she fought again n might win ever bt this really has shaken atleast my trust in dignity n virtues of jat who claim to b progressive???????/
Its only human to do mistakes , it is being an average person to do it twice , it is being stupid and foolish to commit it thrice or more , people did have sympathise with her , I do not. Either she should just put away the boldness tag which you are so harping upon , or she should be bold enough to realise and consent to herself and others for doing the mistakes. She has herself to blame , irrespective of getting the resources to do education , sharpen her intellect and the various opportunities that were offered to her by good parenting and else , she finds herself in this apologetic situation! Imagine the plight of those who do not get any of those resources and still land up even worse than her!
i leave the things open ended to ur conclusions