Jitu, I am not giving anyone clean chit. Don't you think it is a genuine question what the panchayat was doing when the marriage was being planned? Or did the families do this without inviting or telling anyone else in the village? Main isliye yeh point bol raha hoon ki gaon main bahut characters aise bhi hote hain jinhain rolla karne main swad aata hai. Ki karr len do shaadi, hum uske baad dekh lenge. That kind of attitude is also not helpful. So it is important to know if Panchayat had let them known its opposition from the beginning or they were roused into action by some elements keen to cause ruckus. I don't know the answer.
Another issue I see with this sort of bhaichara is its effects when people change villages or when villages become towns. Abhi sab teen gotra chhodte hain- apna, maan aur daadi ka. Kuchh log specific bhaichara maante hain. Dalal, deswal, maan aur sehwag bhaichara maante hain, jabki hamaare gaon mein yeh gotra nahin hai. Par agar kal ko hamaare gaon mein 4 naye gotra aa jaayenge, to fir woh bhi maanne lagenge? Aur jin logon ki shaadi pehle hi un gotron mein ho rakhi hain, unka kya hoga? Aise gaon hain, jahaan log idhar udhar se zameen khareed ke base hain- jaise ki kalanaur. Isi tarah to shahar ke ek mohalle mein 10 gotra mil jaayenge, to sabka bhaichara ho jaayega? Bhaichara makes sense when it comes from a common ancestry, and not because of people settling at new places. Just to be clear, mujhe nahin pata ki kadian aur gahlawats ke bhaichare ka kya kaaran hai. Shayad bahut time se yeh maante hon. I am making a general point.