Though after Satyeshwar’s reply my input is not at all required , since I wrote that I’ll reply, I’m replying keeping in mind that I may not stop writing as a member. My membership here on JL is longer than that of an editor and is very much cherished too J whether fellow members liked my presence or not. Same might be the case about other members too.
Members have objection in my contribution as a moderator? here I’ve a question to ask all who ever has an objection- Does a moderator’s mind stop working/ thinking/ Imagining/feeling/ analyzing/conceptualizing/reasoning immediately after He/ She is given this responsibility? Why I as a Moderator should be restricted from freedom of expression? Trust me I’m way too busy for posting and visit for the sole purpose of editing but some topics are so enticing that my writer’s soul doesn’t have a control, suggest what should I do? I’m still a member just as all of you are. Suggestions are always welcome.
My views must have been off sync to yours or vice versa but that’s how I AM, have been and WILL BE. I can’t pretend to be somebody completely different just because I’m an editor now. My views on the controversial threads are “Same as yours” who are against GLBT, BUT only difference is that I’ve learnt to give respect to Individual choices. I’ve become more accommodating and transformed to an extent that these things prevalent in society may put me off but doesn’t upset me to a great degree as it used to do or as it upsets all of you. “What change can we bring” apart from thinking and exclaim “Thank God we are NOT ONE OF THEM?” How many GLBT have you known and counseled them to take a path as you are on, Have you ever marched on roads with black flags opposing these new formed dimensions of relationships? We can JUST WORRY, show our concern, be heroic and idealistic and put off the members taking active part in discussion ONLY HERE on JATLAND.
It’s a human nature that we start fitting our self in situations or roles being discussed, I feel same is happening with the discussion in those threads. It’s just a DISCUSSION like any other topic and not an implication of those roles people are playing. We can either agree or disagree amicably, why members are showing such a strong opposition? We can’t change what’s happening, change is inevitable. There’s a limit to which things and situations are under our control and same is the case with society, relationships too. How long can we impose our likes/ dislikes on others? If we can’t change then why should others change for us? Give it a thought-How many times you have changed yourself for your neighbors/ relatives/ friends? Comfort/ choice in relationship is same as choosing a commodity/gizmo, people choose what they like, No matter how disgusting it may seem to us.
A question to Anjoo- How long you can keep your garbage in your house, ultimately the garbage has to be thrown out to be recycled, isn’t it? Something seemingly garbage to us can be useful to others and vice versa. Your perspective or choice of relationships can be garbage to GLBT.
Bishan Ji aapne ye likha-“singh sahb apne vicharo or mood se apne ghar chala karte hain....ye duniya nahi chalti.......ye duniya aur samaj... samaj ke dwara banaye niyamo se chalta hai....and i believe that freedom of expression is good till than it doesn't interfere or harm some one else territory” Kya aapke inn vicharon se duniya badli aaj tak? Kripya aap batayein ke kya smaaj ke niyam badaltey nahi aaye hain? Jahan pahle rishtey kartey waqt 4-5 gaut bachaya kartey the wahan ab sirf 3 hi bachatey hain? To puraney niyamo ke hisab se aap inn nayi shadiyon ko kya naam dengey? Pahle ghar ki bahu ghunghat mein rehti thi ab ki ladkiya bina dupatta liye, jeans-top pahan ke ghoomti hain sasural mein kya who bhi loose charcter hain?…inn ladkiyon ko aap kya kaheingey? Ye niyam kyu badal diye iss samaj ney? Aapney durust farmaya ke apne vicharo or mood se apne ghar chala kartey hain- kyunki duniya badalti aayi hai aur badalti rahegi, hamarey aap jaise log agar yahan ek portal pe chinta prakat kartey raheingey to bhi kuchh rukega nahi…jisko badalna hai wo jarur badlega chahe hum unko loose character boley/ charitraheen/ garbage boley.
Ek baat samjh nahi aati ki agar koyi bhi member league se hat kar kuchh likh deta hai thodi si sankeern mansikta ke khilaf likhey to aap log baat uski wife/ family tak kyu le jatey hain? Ke aapka sasural kahan hai? Aapke bachhon aur wife ney Jatland join kiya hua hai ya nahi? Agar mai 15-20-30 website ki member hoon to kya mere mata-pita/ bhai-bahan/ pati aur bachhon ki haziri yahan-wahan lagwana jaruri hai kya? Kitni mahila members hain jo pati ke kaam pe jane k baad sara din yahoo/g-mail/hotmail pe chat karti hain, kyunki who free hain aur ye unka manpasand time-pass hai…kya aapki aur meri Maa ye chat kiya karti thi? Kya ye bhi ek change nahi hai aaj ki aurat aur puraney zamaney ki aurat mein? Aaj ki auraton ka time hi pass nahi hoke deta…sara din jane-anjane logon se chat karo….friend circle badhao PR ke naam pe aur phir apni suvidha ke hisab se doosron ko nirlajj bhi karar de do…kya who loose character hain? Character ki paribhasha shayad hi koyi theek tareeke se de paye par apne set parameter pe hum log kisi ko judge karne mein kabhi nahi chooktey…jaise Hum bhagwan se baddey ho gaye hain? Bas koyi hamari pasand aur dharna ke khilaf likh dey fir to bas shamat aa gayi samjho us member ki.
I was just about to write my own story on that thread “Honey its all about love” par aise-aise vichar dekh ke to lagta hai ki shukar hai maine nahi likha aur sirf apni 1-2 classmates ka hi likha warna mere ko to kya-kya medal aur tamgey miltey… I can imagine. Waise yahan mere bhai-bahan/ chacha/foofa bhi hain….aur mai jo likhti hoon sabko pata hai….Ab baat yahan bachhon ke member hone ki…. Ye maa-baap ki jimmedari hai ki unko kaise guide karein… jaise VP Singh ney ek link bheja….aap kab tak aur kahan tak nigrani kareingey? School kids ko who sab pata hota hai jo shayad humey iss umar mein bhi na pata ho….due to internet n mobile and open access to such means of communication. Hum logon ney kis age mein computer dekha hai ya computer-literacy aayi hai aur hamarey bachon ney kis umar mein? Kya ye ek change nahi hai samaj ka? Kya aap iss development ko rok paye? Internet pe positive/negative cheezon ki bharmaar hai….par jisko jo achha lagega who wohi dhoondhega aur wohi milega….hamarey- aapke yahan ek thread ko lock karaney se ya 5-7 members ko daant-dapatt ke humiliate karney se kya hoga? Sadak pe chaltey gays ya lesbo ko aap dhamka ke alag kar saktey hain kya? Aap to USA mein hain jahan ye ek aam baat hai…aap aise gandey samaj mein kaise survive kar rahe hain? Kya aapne koyi aandolan chalaya wahan ke logon ki mansikta ko badalney ka? GLBT ki kamiyon ko samjhaya kisi ko? Ab aap please ye mat kahna ki mere ko unn angrezo se koyi lena dena nahi hai USA ko nahi badal sakta/ India ko nahi badal sakta par Jatton ko mai hargiz iss raste pe nahi chalne doonga. here I’m talking of society in a much broader prospect not only a small jat community. Meri ye manyata hai ki iss adhunik andhadhundh daudd mein aapne agar khud ko bacha rakha to yahi ek bahut baddi uplabhdhi hai. Everyone is a unique being in his/her own way, let us not trespass anyone’s territory and try to respect everybody’s individuality.
Hum har situation mein khud ko rakh kar nahi soch saktey…. Lagta hai members ke strong opposition ki wajah yahi hai ke khud ko uss paimaney pe rakh ke maap-tol liya hai aur gehri nirasha hi nahi kuntha hath lagi hai. Time ke sath NAZARIYA badalne mein hi samajhdari hai baki sabhi apni marji ke malik hain. Jis jis ko unn thread se problem hai sab guest ke taur pe login karkey khoob padhtey hain aur ek golla sa daag dete hain. Agar kisi ko meri kisi baat se nirasha ho to ho….na mai khud ko badalna chahti hoon na Aap logo ko….agar aap mere bataye huay rastey pe chalna chahtey hain to batayein fir mai bhi khud ko badal sakti hoon